Do you do things on your own?

Elessar · 24-01-2016 08:23PM #1

Today I was completely on my own. Family are away on holidays, friends are tied up, and I'm single, so I was wondering what to do...thought about going on a drive or for a walk but felt that would be a bit....depressing? With nowhere specifically to go or anyone to really talk to it just felt a bit pointless. Now, I spend a lot of time in solitude generally but that's part of my nature, but there's generally always someone I will see or talk to on any particular day (family, friends).

It got me thinking though, does anyone else do things on their own? I mean, we all do to some extent, but would you go to events, gigs, holidays or walks etc. on your own? Would you go for a walk around town or maybe a pint on your own? How do you feel about it?

The_Valeyard · 24-01-2016 08:25PM

Generally use the bathroom by myself. Like that alone time on my throne.

corkgsxr · 24-01-2016 08:26PM

****.

Puts me right off some staring at me

etoughguy · 24-01-2016 08:26PM

Pascal: "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone"
I love doing things on my own

etoughguy · 24-01-2016 08:26PM

Pascal: "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone"
I love doing things on my own

tomwaterford · 24-01-2016 08:27PM

I do almost everything on my own....drive,attend matches,cycle,walks,shopping,go to beach etc

But I don't drink on me own (not a big drinker anyways)..or attend gigs etc.....I'm an awlful loner though :pac:

etoughguy · 24-01-2016 08:29PM

tomwaterford wrote: »

I do almost everything on my own....drive,attend matches,cycle,walks,shopping,go to beach etc

But I don't drink on me own (not a big drinker anyways)..or attend gigs etc.....I'm an awlful loner though :pac:

Man up!

Grueller · 24-01-2016 08:29PM

I spend about 25 - 30 hours a week farming on my own. Just the sheepdog and me. I also run about 40- 50 miles a week on my own. I guess I just like my own company.

Spanish Eyes · 24-01-2016 08:31PM

Yes, I like my own company and will often get the DART to Howth for example, and walk over the hill, back down to the DART station and a bite to eat in the Bloody Stream pub which is right at the station. Time for me. You would be amazed at how good it feels to have time to let things go in your head, and the exercise is good too!

I also do Killiney to Dalkey, Portmarnock to Malahide, Bray to Greystones cliff walk, and explore Dublin, especially the "posh" areas around D4/6 and marvel at the HUGE gaffs, and wonder who lives there. Pure escapism.

I do have friends, a partner, and family just to mention! But I love going out on my own for walks. Wouldn't be too keen on just going to the pub on my own though.

I am female BTW.

Rhea Rose · 24-01-2016 08:32PM

I spend a lot of time on my own and I could easily go days without seeing anyone - but that's how I like it

I work from home most of the time (I can work from anywhere), so I don't have the usual 9-5 thing where you know you'll be talking to people everyday. But that works great for me because sometimes I don't fancy talking! And it allows to me choose when and where I want to spend time with people

I go for walks on my own quite a bit. I love walking by the canal at night in Dublin and sitting by it for a while just listening to the water and the sounds of the city. I've travelled alone extensively and I think it's one of the best ways to travel, you can do what you want and go where you please and I really think it makes you more open to meeting new people. I go to the cinema on my own loads, because it's the cinema - and sure what does it matter who's with you when you can't talk?!

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 24-01-2016 08:36PM

Much as I love doing things with family and friends, I enjoy "me" time any chance I get. I like my own company and prefer birdwatching, fishing etc on my own. Working alone in the garden with just a radio for company or reading a book over a cup of freshly brewed coffee is pure relaxation.

tomwaterford · 24-01-2016 08:38PM

etoughguy wrote: »

Man up!

Too old now.....almost given up 100% at this stage :cool:

Though also in doing things alone....I'm near certain to be going travelling alone later this year and am more scared than excited :eek:

Medusa22 · 24-01-2016 08:40PM

I do enjoy spending time alone, I crave it a lot and I get grumpy if I have to spend too much time with people.

I like to go for walks on my own and I often go shopping on my own and I don't mind having lunch on my own either. I usually go to hospital appointments on my own too. I wouldn't go for a drink or have dinner out on my own though, and I've never gone abroad on my own either.

I'm not against travelling on my own but I get a bit anxious about going somewhere that I've never been before, especially if there was a language barrier and I am terrible at finding my own way around and navigating public transport so I doubt I'd be very relaxed.

etoughguy · 24-01-2016 08:41PM

tomwaterford wrote: »

Too old now.....almost given up 100% at this stage :cool:

Though also in doing things alone....I'm near certain to be going travelling alone later this year and am more scared than excited :eek:

You're never too old pop down to the local and sit on a high stool and start chatting
Travelling can be unnerving alright but go for it what have ya got to lose? Wherever ya go bound to be plenty of paddies near by, seek them out, best of luck with it

The_Valeyard · 24-01-2016 08:42PM

Talk to the dog

The Backwards Man · 24-01-2016 08:45PM

Going to the pub or on holiday with somebody I know is my idea of hell. I see enough of the wastards through work and everyday life, why the fcuk would I want to see them when I'm trying to enjoy myself?

tomwaterford · 24-01-2016 08:46PM

etoughguy wrote: »

You're never too old pop down to the local and sit on a high stool and start chatting
Travelling can be unnerving alright but go for it what have ya got to lose? Wherever ya go bound to be plenty of paddies near by, seek them out, best of luck with it

This is what I'm hoping....just take the fcuk it approach

etoughguy · 24-01-2016 08:48PM

tomwaterford wrote: »

This is what I'm hoping....just take the fcuk it approach

Couldn't agree more, ironically enough I read this recently: http://www.amazon.co.uk/****-Do-What-You-Love/dp/1781802467/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1453664867&sr=8-1&keywords=****+it

24-01-2016 08:54PM

I do almost everything on my own. It's lovely. I go on holidays, sit in old man pubs with my book, eat, exercise, shop, it's mostly on my own.

I used to be friends with some women who were incapable of spending time in their own company. If their husbands were away they had to stay with their parents for the night. One couldn't drive so was completely dependent on her husband. That kind of mentality baffles me.

I can't help but wonder about people who can't be alone. Are they afraid of themselves, of their own minds that they need constant stimulation from others.

Arbiter of Good Taste · 24-01-2016 08:54PM

I feel sorry for people who can't do things on their own.

I moved to Aus on my own, travelled around NZ on my own, it was liberating. I prefer shopping on my own, love going for walks on my own, happy to pop in for a coffee, etc, etc

Don't get me wrong, I'm very social and love doing things with others, but it is comforting to know that if I have to/want to, I can pretty much to anything I need on my own.

Arbiter of Good Taste · 24-01-2016 08:54PM

I feel sorry for people who can't do things on their own.

I moved to Aus on my own, travelled around NZ on my own, it was liberating. I prefer shopping on my own, love going for walks on my own, happy to pop in for a coffee, etc, etc

Don't get me wrong, I'm very social and love doing things with others, but it is comforting to know that if I have to/want to, I can pretty much to anything I need on my own.

24-01-2016 09:01PM

I like being sociable, but it can get to a point where it's more effort than enjoyment. I'm fine spending a day alone, but too much of it is no good, I think social skills are like muscles, you have to exercise them. I do enjoy my alone time.

My nightmare of a day would be spent in the company of others (excluding family) from dawn to dark. I find it very draining after a certain point and often breathe a heavy sigh of relief when I close my door behind me after a party or very long day at work interacting with others.

I've no problem going places or doing things alone, I've moved country several times and traveled alone for work and I'm quite comfortable finding my way around new places and situations, I like the buzz.

24-01-2016 09:01PM

I like being sociable, but it can get to a point where it's more effort than enjoyment. I'm fine spending a day alone, but too much of it is no good, I think social skills are like muscles, you have to exercise them. I do enjoy my alone time.

My nightmare of a day would be spent in the company of others (excluding family) from dawn to dark. I find it very draining after a certain point and often breathe a heavy sigh of relief when I close my door behind me after a party or very long day at work interacting with others.

I've no problem going places or doing things alone, I've moved country several times and traveled alone for work and I'm quite comfortable finding my way around new places and situations, I like the buzz.

billyhead · 24-01-2016 09:01PM

I have no problems been and doing things on my own and most of the time prefer it that way. People can be annoying sometimes. I don't understand the fear factor of people being on their own as if its a social stigma or something. Dont get me wrong I enjoy been in other peoples company whether it be socializing or otherwise but i love my own head space.We are born alone unless you were born a twin and die alone too:D

Spanish Eyes · 24-01-2016 09:01PM

I am an introvert. Nothing wrong with that, just the description of that personality type comes across as negative which it shouldn't!

We like to be on our own. We like company too of course, but if it means being with lots of extroverts, we need to get away for a while for downtime. My partner and most of my family are extros. So I need to say bye bye to them now and then and be on my own to recharge!

For me, being on my own walking somewhere is an absolute gift. Then I can get back and actually enjoy the mayhem of the extros..... for a while anyway lol.

I would guess that a good number of people on this thread are introverts.

MilesMorales1 · 24-01-2016 09:01PM

I have no friends so I do everything alone. Walking, shopping, going the cinema, eating, sleeping, etc. Sure its grand.

I'm so alone.

Odelay · 24-01-2016 09:03PM

I'd be very worried about someone that could not do things on their own, why the need to always be with others??

billyhead · 24-01-2016 09:14PM

Odelay wrote: »

I'd be very worried about someone that could not do things on their own, why the need to always be with others??

Perhaps a lack of confidence or low self esteem

Chocolate girl · 24-01-2016 09:32PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I do almost everything on my own. It's lovely. I go on holidays, sit in old man pubs with my book, eat, exercise, shop, it's mostly on my own.

I used to be friends with some women who were incapable of spending time in their own company. If their husbands were away they had to stay with their parents for the night. One couldn't drive so was completely dependent on her husband. That kind of mentality baffles me.

I can't help but wonder about people who can't be alone. Are they afraid of themselves, of their own minds that they need constant stimulation from others.

Do you find that these women think there's something wrong with you because you are happy to do things alone? My 'friends' think I'm the strange one as I happy in my own company. No problem doing things alone only thing u haven't done is go on holidays but I will when time is right.

24-01-2016 09:40PM

Chocolate girl wrote: »

Do you find that these women think there's something wrong with you because you are happy to do things alone? My 'friends' think I'm the strange one as I happy in my own company. No problem doing things alone only thing u haven't done is go on holidays but I will when time is right.

To be very honest I think they looked upon me with a kind of pity. They may have assumed that I had no choice but to do things alone as I was single. That's the strange kind of attitude they had. We haven't been friends for quite some time so they may have changed.

Chocolate girl · 24-01-2016 09:52PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

To be very honest I think they looked upon me with a kind of pity. They may have assumed that I had no choice but to do things alone as I was single. That's the strange kind of attitude they had. We haven't been friends for quite some time so they may have changed.

Yes I think same with me. I've pulled away from a lot of them as I hated the comments of I could never do that alone! Each to their own but I would hate to have to rely on someone to do something with me.

Do you do things on your own?

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