Going bald

5starpool · 04-04-2015 12:20AM

Anyone going bald should man the hell up and just deal with it. Shave your head and be glad that you don't have to worry about maintaining it other than giving it a once over with a clippers every couple of weeks.

hadepsx · 04-04-2015 12:25AM

punisher5112 wrote: »

I'm so HARD it hurts.

I'm so worried it will get bigger and harder what should I do.

Have you been bitten by a Brazilian wondering spider.
You do know you've only a couple of hours to live.go make use of it

snotboogie · 04-04-2015 12:27AM

hadepsx wrote: »

Have you been bitten by a Brazilian wondering spider.
You do know you've only a couple of hours to live.go make use of it

Whooosh!

Ruu · 04-04-2015 12:28AM

Started loosing it at 22 or thereabouts, then one hot summer just got the whole lot shaved. Now only have to use a wash cloth on my head. Occasionally wear a flat cap but only when out with the hunt.

bb1234567 · 04-04-2015 12:34AM

donegaLroad wrote: »

My advice would be not to spend your time looking for things to worry about.. especially if you have no reason to yet.. with respect :-)

Baldness runs on your mothers side of the family.. I have heard. So if your mothers brothers still have their hair, your chances are good.

Oh wow really? My mothers 4 brothers all have really thick hair and they're in their forties! My dad and his two brothers all have thinning hair though. Hope you're right then so :pac:

rubadub · 04-04-2015 12:46AM

EoghanIRL wrote: »

Grew my hair long a couple of years ago just in case my hair recedes like other relatives.

What were you planning on doing? having a fucking combover?
As cringeworthy looking as women with obvious dye jobs. I never understood the apparent shame people have in the natural aging process. Do these people lie about the age of their children? at what age does the deceit begin?

04-04-2015 01:46AM

Ruu wrote: »

Occasionally wear a flat cap but only when out with the hunt.

Women don't like it when you call them that.

shampoosuicide · 04-04-2015 02:54AM

some pretty tedious replies ITT. to some people it's a bigger deal going bald than others. depends how attached you are to your hair, whether you have big prominent ears or a weird-shaped face, how confident or not you are etc.
i like having hair and i'd be equally aghast if i thought i was losing it. this doesn't mean i have nothing else to worry about or that i haven't negotiated adulthood. for a male your hair is one of the few aspects that can completely change the way you look for better or worse. maybe when you pass your early 20's you're supposed to stop giving a **** about the way you look. either way if your philosophy is 'saves me the hassle of having to wash it' then yeah, it probably wasn't much of a loss

kjl · 04-04-2015 04:11AM

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

Stop worrying about something that's not happening, you said yourself in the op that you're 34 and showing no signs of balding.

Ok, I'll tell you why I am worried.

My brother started losing it in his mid 20's (he's 41 now, still has a bit), my dad lose a good bit but again still has a little. Now my mothers brother is in his 60's now and hasn't lose any. My dad's father was pretty bald.

I am hoping I got it from my hairline from my mum's side of the family, but you never know. My brother has been very stressed his entire life alway putting himself under pressure so I don't know if this causes premature balding or not.

I am very confident person but a lot of that is due to the fact that I am quite attractive and I really felt if I lose my hair I won't be. I have a very round head and think I would look terrible if I went bald.

DoYouEvenLift · 04-04-2015 04:50AM

If someone found a cure to baldness or a breakthrough in that stem cell for hair transplant stuff I can't imagine how much money they'd make. Even some women would make use of it lol, would be weird if we ended up with absolutely no more bald people and just had a society full of adults with their 12 year old hairlines.

CaptainInsano · 04-04-2015 05:10AM

Was bald by 21, worst thing ever at the time, almost soul destroying. Like all things you get over it and I genuinely couldn't care less now, don't even think about it. It seems bad and kind of is at the time but once the process is over and you've shaved your head eventually you, and everyone around you, forget about it. I never tried any kind of treatment, though.
I've actually more luck with women post baldness too. Maybe it suits me better or something. I initially thought I was a freakish looking.

04-04-2015 06:33AM

kjl wrote: »

I am very confident person but a lot of that is due to the fact that I am quite attractive and I really felt if I lose my hair I won't be. I have a very round head and think I would look terrible if I went bald.

I think a pint with you would be my idea of hell.

Don't take it as an insult, you may be a very nice man, I am just saying that you are different to me. It's a real "first world problems" topic IMO. I have a few friends who would think themselves attractive, that bit I get. None of them agonise over getting older, losing hair, getting wrinkles etc. I guess they are all secure and comfortable with themselves, they don't need the "mirror mirror" routine for self assurance.

Agent Smyth · 04-04-2015 07:10AM

Back in the eighties I started using "Wash and Go" well it should be renamed Wash & Went, completely bald now.

Galwayguy35 · 04-04-2015 07:20AM

Started to notice I was going bald at 32, just a small bit on the top of my head but over the last 2 years it has started to disappear from the front as well.

It got me down a bit at first but now I shave it to number 2 level and although it took me a while to get used to the look I quite like it now.

People can spent a lot of money on hair transplants but that was never an option for me as I couldn't afford it and it just delays the inevitable in the long run.

However telling people to "deal with it" isn't really what they want to hear either, some men can get very depressed over it.

04-04-2015 07:35AM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

However telling people to "deal with it" isn't really what they want to hear either, some men can get very depressed over it.

It's not real depression though, is it?

It's more something that gets them down, but hey Jersey Shore and Top Gun are on tv later.

NI24 · 04-04-2015 07:36AM

Think the OP is worried over nothing, particularly in modern society, where shaved heads are quite trendy. I actually think some men look cuter without hair.
Baldness is certainly hereditary, but I have noticed that stress can exacerbate it, although I have no evidence to back up that claim, just from what I've seen. I've actually seen men regain hair by reducing stress, so there must be some connection.

NI24 · 04-04-2015 07:39AM

Deleted User wrote: »

I think a pint with you would be my idea of hell.

Don't take it as an insult, you may be a very nice man, I am just saying that you are different to me. It's a real "first world problems" topic IMO. I have a few friends who would think themselves attractive, that bit I get. None of them agonise over getting older, losing hair, getting wrinkles etc. I guess they are all secure and comfortable with themselves, they don't need the "mirror mirror" routine for self assurance.

I'm assuming you're a man? And the friends you speak of as well? All my female friends are petrified of getting wrinkles and getting older, and with good reason too.

Galwayguy35 · 04-04-2015 07:42AM

Deleted User wrote: »

It's not real depression though, is it?

It's more something that gets them down, but hey Jersey Shore and Top Gun are on tv later.

As I said it affects people differently, it didn't depress me personally but I read somewhere that it can other people.

04-04-2015 07:48AM

NI24 wrote: »

I'm assuming you're a man? And the friends you speak of as well? All my female friends are petrified of getting wrinkles and getting older, and with good reason too.

Sorry, I should say I fully appreciate that it is more serious issue for women and I wouldn't trivialise that. I was really talking about men, and men who need to get a grip.

NI24 · 04-04-2015 07:51AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Sorry, I should say I fully appreciate that it is more serious issue for women and I wouldn't trivialise that. I was really talking about men, and men who need to get a grip.

Yeah no problem and I would agree with you with respect to men's looks although I wouldn't be quite so harsh.

Galwayguy35 · 04-04-2015 07:53AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Sorry, I should say I fully appreciate that it is more serious issue for women and I wouldn't trivialise that. I was really talking about men, and men who need to get a grip.

Why is women getting wrinkles more serious than men going bald?

04-04-2015 07:56AM

Incanwave wrote: »

Why can't it be depression? Plenty of men have killed themselves because their hair fell out so saying it only gets people down is an unfair generalisation.

Seriously?

I have to say, I wasn't aware that plenty of men killed themselves because their hair fell out. Although I do fully accept that conditions like alopecia or hair loss during chemo may be sudden and traumatic.

But the fear of losing hair as part of aging? Have you stats on how many have killed themselves over it? I'd be sceptical.

NI24 · 04-04-2015 07:58AM

Also, OP, do not take those hair growth drugs. I don't care what the FDA says, they cannot be completely safe.

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Why is women getting wrinkles more serious than men going bald?

Seriously?

04-04-2015 07:59AM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Why is women getting wrinkles more serious than men going bald?

One ad break on tv should convince you that there is a difference. As for the reasons, I'd say a professor of sociology might give you a list of thousands of books explaining why.

Galwayguy35 · 04-04-2015 08:05AM

NI24 wrote: »

Also, OP, do not take those hair growth drugs. I don't care what the FDA says, they cannot be completely safe.

Seriously?

Yeah seriously.

A few wrinkles aren't going to kill anyone.

See what I did there, made light of an issue that can affect a persons confidence, just because a person is male doesn't mean their baldness won't affect them just as much as a woman with a fear of getting wrinkles.

GaryTLynch · 04-04-2015 08:16AM

Be careful if you're considering treatment for hair loss kjl. Propecia, like any medication, has side effects. I used the drug and experienced extreme discomfort in my mouth. My gums were constantly sore and my teeth became so sensitive that eating/drinking was a daily nightmare. Thankfully the effects wore off once I came off the drug. Others have experienced sexual problems while taking it. I am a similar age to you (33) and have experienced some recession at the temples. It hasn't progressed further since my mid twenties and I'm not currently on any form of treatment, nor have I any intention to go back down that route. Like I mentioned earlier, be very careful if you're considering treatment. Back when I was concerned about my own hair, I found this website/forum very helpful: www(dot)hairtransplantnetwork(dot)com
Do your research and talk to patients who have been there before you commit to anything.

Taltos · 04-04-2015 08:17AM

OP

I started by keeping hair short and neat.
Moved to a blade 2 and then a blade 1 and then one day my shaver did half my head and started plucking spots, was left with no choice but to pull out the mach3...

Never looked back, it really is liberating and in a way forced me to embrace my hair loss. Not only am I loving it, but my OH now insists I shave and once my noggin gets a fuzz I start getting dagger looks...

quad_red · 04-04-2015 08:18AM

Well, I don't know if the mothers side genes is an old wives tale but it certainly rings true for me! My father has a full head of hair at seventy and his father had a full head of hair up to the day he died at 96. All my uncles on that side of the family have luscious full heads of hair.

Whereas all the men on my mom's side are baldy b**tards so my brother and I were well and truly sunk.

Always had a high hairline. Really started noticing it mid twenties and just shaved it off from then on. Honestly never give it a moments thought now. When let it grow out of stubble phase every now and again. Yeah, it makes it clear I'm balding. But as a happily married father of two, it's not like its cramping my style on a Saturday night

OP, it doesn't sound like you've much to worry about but that you're searching for stuff to worry about isn't a good sign.

Keep your health and fitness in good order, avoid the paunch that affects the vast majority of middle aged men, and dress well and you'll still be in the top percentiles. Relax....

DoYouEvenLift · 04-04-2015 08:52AM

Incanwave wrote: »

Why can't it be depression? Plenty of men have killed themselves because their hair fell out so saying it only gets people down is an unfair generalisation.

Lmao what! How would you know if a man killed himself because he was balding, let alone plenty of men. I just can't imagine anyone would leave a suicide note explaining that they couldn't go on living because they were balding.

Sh1tbag OToole · 04-04-2015 08:56AM

I dont worry about going bald but having that little pluck sticking out at the front surrounded by baldness or else the hair going at each side of my forhead and a strip in the middle remaining. The prob is this cant be solved by shaving it off as you can still see the difference in colour where there is hair growing.

If it happened I'd definitely pay a hungarian surgeon to move up a few pubes - as long as you keep them a blade 2 or less people wont notice they are pubes

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