Unsatisfied with life.. advice needed

LegacyUser · 02-01-2015 2:24pm #1

I am a girl in my mid twenties and really lacking satisfaction with life.

I don't have many friends which is upsetting and difficult and I feel this holds me back from things like holidays, festivals and travelling. I would love to travel and I really feel I am missing out. I have never even been on a proper holiday. The problem is I don't know where I would even begin and I have no one I could go with. Sometimes I feel I have a huge thirst for life that is not being quenched. (As cheesy as that sounds)

The problem is I recently moved into an apartment so I would be leaving my housemates in the lurch if I left, plus I do love my apartment and it took me so long to find it. My boyfriend recently secured a great job so I would have to leave him as he wouldn't be able to come with me, although I don't mind that too much as I know he'd be supportive. I am on a year break from a masters in college and due to return in Jan 2016, so I feel this should be my year to do these things but the circumstances don't seem to be right. Having said that, will the circumstances ever be right??? I feel so frustrated and unsatisfied and I don't know what to do.

Sorry if this is long winded! Any advice at all would be welcome. Thank you.

roro1990 · 02-01-2015 5:05pm

Unsatisfied111 wrote: »

I am a girl in my mid twenties and really lacking satisfaction with life.

I don't have many friends which is upsetting and difficult and I feel this holds me back from things like holidays, festivals and travelling. I would love to travel and I really feel I am missing out. I have never even been on a proper holiday. The problem is I don't know where I would even begin and I have no one I could go with. Sometimes I feel I have a huge thirst for life that is not being quenched. (As cheesy as that sounds)

The problem is I recently moved into an apartment so I would be leaving my housemates in the lurch if I left, plus I do love my apartment and it took me so long to find it. My boyfriend recently secured a great job so I would have to leave him as he wouldn't be able to come with me, although I don't mind that too much as I know he'd be supportive. I am on a year break from a masters in college and due to return in Jan 2016, so I feel this should be my year to do these things but the circumstances don't seem to be right. Having said that, will the circumstances ever be right??? I feel so frustrated and unsatisfied and I don't know what to do.

Sorry if this is long winded! Any advice at all would be welcome. Thank you.

If you feel you must travel, why not go alone? It's a scary thought at first but it's honestly one of the best things I've ever done. Somewhere like South-East Asia as perfect. Even the quietest, most introverted of people can hang out with others on solo travel. Just book yourself a ticket to Bangkok and stay in a hostel for a few nights. It's incredibly liberating to just feck off on your own and do things at your own pace. It's also ridiculously exciting. There's whole communities dedicated to solo travel so a lot of people have done this sort of thing before. Would definitely recommend it, there's no way I'd let a lack of people to travel with stop me from experiencing the world.

sashafierce · 02-01-2015 5:27pm

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Stavro Mueller · 02-01-2015 5:48pm

If you're nervous about going on your own, look up the likes of Intrepid and other your companies that take smaller groups of people on guided tours all over the world. I've never been on one myself but have two friends who've taken these sorts of trips and enjoyed themselves. I can't remember any of the other your companies off the top of my head but Google will turn up plenty.

yes there · 02-01-2015 5:55pm

My friend travels alone. He meets other people more easily, forces you to interact and live the culture of where ever you travel. It takes a lot of guts to do it maybe the first time but after visiting the first place it feels normal. I would do it if I had the money and time no question. Probably need not to be short of confidence and if you are then maybe consider it as therapy. Try visiting prague or rome or sonewhere like that first to see if you can do it.

TimeToShine · 02-01-2015 7:10pm

Why not go with your boyfriend? He has annual leave. Most people in their mid twenties also have jobs, the likelihood of making friends with someone with as much free time as you currently have is slim. I'd agree with the above poster in suggesting solo travel.

Rubberchikken · 02-01-2015 9:54pm

There are companies that specialise in singles travel. A great way to see a place but with company when and if you want it.

You're right, your year off is a perfect opportunity to travel.

Best of luck deciding.

jacksie66 · 02-01-2015 9:57pm

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shakencat · 03-01-2015 12:44am

go. alone.

if i was to do it again which I'm sure i will

id go alone.

LegacyUser · 03-01-2015 4:05pm

Thank you all for the advice!

I'm not afraid to go travelling alone, I'm adaptable and sociable so I think I'd love it. It's more that I have no idea how to go about doing it. Does anyone have any direct links to websites that specialise in solo travel or any further information? Silly question, but how much should I save? Anything else I should take into consideration?

Also, when I thought about travelling I thought about going for a year, I guess I never thought about going for a month which is far more realistic and attainable. Is this enough time though? Where would be a good place to go? Any other advice on this welcome, sort of embarrassed to admit I really have very little knowledge on it or how to go about doing it!

Thanks again everyone, I felt so much better just reading these replies.

LegacyUser · 03-01-2015 4:09pm

Sorry guys on closer inspection I see the different companies you reccommended!

Any other advice? I'm feeling excited now

Mars Bar · 03-01-2015 5:52pm

contiki tours might be an option too

shakencat · 03-01-2015 5:53pm

go into USIT, get there advice. then book it all yourself.

They'll give you all the routes and plans once you tell them roughly where you wanna go/do/experience..

then go home and book it all yourself as its a hell of a lot cheaper.

aidanki · 04-01-2015 12:40am

sashafierce wrote: »

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is there anything like that for people who want to go skiing ?

sashafierce · 04-01-2015 1:28am

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not1but4 · 04-01-2015 1:52am

aidanki wrote: »

is there anything like that for people who want to go skiing ?

I did a solo snow holiday last year but it was a DIY trip. There was other solo travellers in my chalet and met people in my lessons. Was a great trip all in all.

Here are some agents that cater for solo travellers;
http://www.adventurebash.com/
http://www.neilson.co.uk/ski/solo-ski-holidays
http://www.singlesport.com/winter-holidays/
http://www.pistepals.com/

A over on snowheads.com they organise trip for people on the forum so you could join them. http://snowheads.com/ski-forum/viewtopic.php?t=108422

OP just go by yourself don't get me wrong its hard booking the flights, getting on plane then opening the door to your hostel room but its worth it in the end. I went to Germany there recently and had a great time met so many people so I wasn't alone for long. Stay in a hostel, do walking tours or something where you are stuck with other people (rafting trip, hike etc). Just say "Hi, where are you from? Why did you come to X" and go from there.

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