Breastfeeding in Public places

ash23 · 03-12-2014 01:54PM

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

You see more exposed tit on a young one on a night out than from a mother breastfeeding.

That's not strictly true. Depends entirely on how the woman feeds. You will rarely see nipple on tv before the watershed or on a woman in a low cut top. However, some women who breastfeed freely show their entire breast, including nipple and I think that is where people get a bit unsettled.

anncoates · 03-12-2014 01:55PM

WellThen? wrote: »

Why should i have to look at that while im eating my dinner.

I find using my neck muscles to turn my head away from the offending breasts to be of innumerable benefit in these situations.

fedor.2. · 03-12-2014 01:55PM

Mary63 wrote: »

They should have supplied mother with a burka to cover herself and breast feeding baby.

I really cannot stand these in your face mothers,put it away,we dont need to know all about you and your baby especially when your baby is walking.

These babies are always called Phoebe or Fabian or other horrible names and you always hear them before you see them,Mum and Dad answer their stupid questions incessantly as if they and they alone are the most clever being to get up on two legs,seriously ****ing irritating in supermarket queues. It would be better if once in a while the children could be told to give their tongue a break as their chatter is so stupid,teachers then might be actually able to teach them in school.

that's one bitter and miserable post. no offence, but you sound horrendous

kylith · 03-12-2014 01:55PM

WellThen? wrote: »

God im sick of hearing "it's a natural thing". So is taking a ****. Just go somewhere else and do it whats the big deal. Why should i have to look at that while im eating my dinner.

Have you tried not looking? It's not obligatory.

Taco Corp · 03-12-2014 01:56PM

WellThen? wrote: »

God im sick of hearing "it's a natural thing". So is taking a ****. Just go somewhere else and do it whats the big deal. Why should i have to look at that while im eating my dinner.

Look at a baby feeding? What's so bad about it? Do you eat in front of others?

wes · 03-12-2014 01:57PM

Hotel were wrong, babies need to eat, and there is nothing wrong with a mother breast feeding them. If people are offended by this, then they need to get out more or something.

kylith · 03-12-2014 01:57PM

ash23 wrote: »

That's not strictly true. Depends entirely on how the woman feeds. You will rarely see nipple on tv before the watershed or on a woman in a low cut top. However, some women who breastfeed freely show their entire breast, including nipple and I think that is where people get a bit unsettled.

Big feckin' whoop. Do these people get unsettled by topless men on the beach, or their own nipples when they're getting undressed?

WoollyRedHat · 03-12-2014 01:57PM

Mary63 wrote: »

They should have supplied mother with a burka to cover herself and breast feeding baby.

I really cannot stand these in your face mothers,put it away,we dont need to know all about you and your baby especially when your baby is walking.

These babies are always called Phoebe or Fabian or other horrible names and you always hear them before you see them,Mum and Dad answer their stupid questions incessantly as if they and they alone are the most clever being to get up on two legs,seriously ****ing irritating in supermarket queues. It would be better if once in a while the children could be told to give their tongue a break as their chatter is so stupid,teachers then might be actually able to teach them in school.

dark crystal · 03-12-2014 01:59PM

I wonder how many of the poor traumatised patrons had to get out their smelling salts and dainty fans at the sight of this woman blatantly using her sexual playthings to feed a hungry baby. How dare she do such a thing in polite company.

I do declare, it's shocking carry on altogether. Shocking.

anncoates · 03-12-2014 01:59PM

Maybe it's me, but I've also never seen a woman strip down to the waist, tits akimbo, when feeding a baby in public. You'd have to be lo looking pretty closely to see enough by which to be offended.

Satriale · 03-12-2014 02:00PM

Chucken wrote: »

What?

that post reminds me a bit of this lady...

DeadHand · 03-12-2014 02:02PM

Is the sight of a boob really that upsetting?

Women should be allowed to feed their children where and when they want, within reason.

Just avert your eyes, live and let live.

ash23 · 03-12-2014 02:17PM

kylith wrote: »

Big feckin' whoop. Do these people get unsettled by topless men on the beach, or their own nipples when they're getting undressed?

I wasn't saying that I personally have a problem with it but I was just pointing out that it's not true to say that a low cut top is the same as breastfeeding etc.

Some people don't like seeing other peoples breasts. Simple as.
Some women are not at all subtle about their breasts when they feed.

There are extremes in everything. Some people will be offended by a small bit of nudity and some won't have a problem with any nudity. Most of us fall somewhere within this scale. Personally I've no issues with discreet feeding showing a bit of breast but I'm not comfortable with women who aren't at all discreet about it. I probably wouldn't complain but I wouldn't be comfortable with it either and I've no problems with my own breasts. I wouldn't want a man with no top on sat next to me at dinner either or a woman with a very low cut top......I don't discriminate in what I'm comfortable with.

Most women are discreet. The woman in this story was being discreet. I suppose I just don't think that saying women should try to be a bit discreet is something that should be frowned on completely. A certain level of decorum should be expected. It's rare but I have seen women who aren't at all discreet and yes, I'd prefer not to see that thanks.

Pumpkinseeds · 03-12-2014 02:19PM

What I found annoying about the story was the fact that it made it onto the English news. I mean ffs, it's hardly a news worthy story, possibly she thought she'd get some sort of freebie from Claridges if she made enough of a fuss about it. Again, I can see both sides of the argument for breastfeeding or not breastfeeding in public and I really don't think that it's unreasonable to express milk and bring it to a restaurant. Having said that most of these discussions end badly as many breastfeeding mums tend to be quite militant about it.

All said and done, it's a bit like 56 year old Madonna whipping her boobs out for a nude photo. Some people will think 'Jaysus, put them away already, nobody wants to see them' others will talk a lot of sh*te about it being great.

dark crystal · 03-12-2014 02:21PM

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

All said and done, it's a bit like 56 year old Madonna whipping her boobs out for a nude photo. Some people will think 'Jaysus, put them away already, nobody wants to see them' others will talk a lot of sh*te about it being great.

No, it's nothing like that at all....

IvyTheTerrible · 03-12-2014 02:24PM

I tried expressing but it was very difficult.
Should I have just stayed at home until my baby was weaned off breastmilk?

Also, I hear people saying "Oh I don't mind women breastfeeding if they are discreet, but some women just whip out their breasts". I've never ever seen a woman breastfeeding and making a show of "whipping out" her breasts. I must be going to all the wrong places. :rolleyes:

Mary63 · 03-12-2014 02:24PM

I think the hotel were totally correct and they should firm up on the unruly children misbehaving too.
Why should my nice quiet sunday lunch be spoiled by screaming children expected to sit too long,who takes a two year old to a restaurant at lunchtime and orders wine which they sip and enjoy while other peoples lunches are spoiled by loud brats who should be on the swings in a playground.

Staff then say nothing because they dont want to cause offence,its just so bad for business.

Mary63 · 03-12-2014 02:26PM

No,Ivy,cover your self up or go to the toilet or go sit in your car or else go where the other breastfeeding mommies hang out.

Don Kedick · 03-12-2014 02:27PM

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

Its the most natural thing in the world to see a mother feeding her kid

people are very easily offended

Masterbating is one of the most natural things in the world but you don't see me doing it in public. Unless women are looking at me through their windows the big perverts.

IvyTheTerrible · 03-12-2014 02:27PM

Mary63 wrote: »

No,Ivy,cover your self up or go to the toilet or go sit in your car or else go where the other breastfeeding mommies hang out.

Would you eat your lunch in the toilet? You think it's ok to feed a baby with an undeveloped immune system in a public toilet? Right so.

ash23 · 03-12-2014 02:28PM

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

I tried expressing but it was very difficult.
Should I have just stayed at home until my baby was weaned off breastmilk?

Also, I hear people saying "Oh I don't mind women breastfeeding if they are discreet, but some women just whip out their breasts". I've never ever seen a woman breastfeeding and making a show of "whipping out" her breasts. I must be going to all the wrong places. :rolleyes:

I worked in a shop and a restaurant for years. At that time I saw a number of women breastfeeding. Most were discreet and if you noticed them feeding at all, it was very subtle and their neighbouring tables didn't bat an eyelid.

I have encountered situations though where a woman would pull her top down expose her breast and then proceed to pick the child up so the nipple was exposed for a bit and the breast exposed for the feed. Again, nobody has ever complained but yes, people were looking and it was a bit uncomfortable.

I think that's what people mean when they say "discreet". Not talking about blankets over the baby or going to the loo. Just that minimum exposure necessary be used when in public.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 03-12-2014 02:30PM

Why should a new baby/small baby be sent into a bathroom to be fed? Would you take your lunch in to a bathroom and eat it? It's people with your attitude that should be sitting on their car away from civilised people. A hungry child is more important than what you choose to be offended about.

03-12-2014 02:30PM

What amazes me is the complete inability of apparently grown adults, to simply look at something else.

If you notice someone feeding a baby and are fragile enough to be offended, do try to remember that staring is not compulsory and do your best to cope with this dreadful imposition.

Doubtless someone will come along and insist they were involuntarily motorboated by a mother during the act of breastfeeding, thus rendering them choiceless in taking in every detail.

kylith · 03-12-2014 02:30PM

ash23 wrote: »

I wasn't saying that I personally have a problem with it but I was just pointing out that it's not true to say that a low cut top is the same as breastfeeding etc.

Some people don't like seeing other peoples breasts. Simple as.
Some women are not at all subtle about their breasts when they feed.

There are extremes in everything. Some people will be offended by a small bit of nudity and some won't have a problem with any nudity. Most of us fall somewhere within this scale. Personally I've no issues with discreet feeding showing a bit of breast but I'm not comfortable with women who aren't at all discreet about it. I probably wouldn't complain but I wouldn't be comfortable with it either and I've no problems with my own breasts. I wouldn't want a man with no top on sat next to me at dinner either or a woman with a very low cut top......I don't discriminate in what I'm comfortable with.

Most women are discreet. The woman in this story was being discreet. I suppose I just don't think that saying women should try to be a bit discreet is something that should be frowned on completely. A certain level of decorum should be expected. It's rare but I have seen women who aren't at all discreet and yes, I'd prefer not to see that thanks.

Y'see, I'd be the opposite, I would have no problem sitting next to someone who is completely topless. I have no problem with being or seeing people nude on beaches. As long as a breastfeeding mother isn't spraying milk around the place I honestly couldn't give less of a fck if she's sitting there with both breasts hanging out.

I think that the woman in the picture is being very discreet about it, her jumper is pushed up so it's not as if her shirt is hanging open. It seems that no-one had even complained, the staff were had told her to cover up 'just in case' and it distressed her child.

Mary63 · 03-12-2014 02:31PM

No but then again I am not hanging off someones breast.
Surely you could organise a babysitter and leave your baby and some expressed milk at home.This modern thing of bringing brats everywhere is a pain.If someone is spending 75 sterling on lunch they intend to make it leisurely,when you have a baby you leave it at home for socialising like this or you dont go at all. The other patrons who have left their children at home dont want to see or hear your children breastfeeding or not.
If the babys immune system is that undeveloped they shouldnt be in a crowded restaurant anyway.

Or maybe you could ring ahead and ask is there somewhere private you can feed your baby,that is you are the type to make a show of yourself in public letting it all hang out to show how wonderful you are.

03-12-2014 02:32PM

Don Kedick wrote: »

Would that go down well?

There's always one.

ash23 · 03-12-2014 02:33PM

kylith wrote: »

Y'see, I'd be the opposite, I would have no problem sitting next to someone who is completely topless. I have no problem with being or seeing people nude on beaches. As long as a breastfeeding mother isn't spraying milk around the place I honestly couldn't give less of a fck if she's sitting there with both breasts hanging out.

I think that the woman in the picture is being very discreet about it, her jumper is pushed up so it's not as if her shirt is hanging open. It seems that no-one had even complained, the staff were had told her to cover up 'just in case' and it distressed her child.

I agreed in my first post that she was being discreet. But I was pointing out that there are varying degrees of nudity when breastfeeding and I think women should try to be discreet if feeding in public.
I don't think that is too much for people to ask.

I would feed at home with my bra and top open and not care at all. I wouldn't have fed like that in public though as I am aware it's not really appropriate, even if I'm feeding.

anonyanony · 03-12-2014 02:36PM

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

Would you eat your lunch in the toilet? You think it's ok to feed a baby with an undeveloped immune system in a public toilet? Right so.

As long as you don't mind people watching as you do it, some people have that fetish then go ahead and don't cover up, I sure some people will be glad you don't want to cover up

keano_afc · 03-12-2014 02:39PM

If you find offence in a woman breastfeeding her child in public you're the biggest tit of all.

kylith · 03-12-2014 02:40PM

Mary63 wrote: »

No but then again I am not hanging off someones breast.
Surely you could organise a babysitter and leave your baby and some expressed milk at home.This modern thing of bringing brats everywhere is a pain.If someone is spending 75 sterling on lunch they intend to make it leisurely,when you have a baby you leave it at home for socialising like this or you dont go at all. The other patrons who have left their children at home dont want to see or hear your children breastfeeding or not.
If the babys immune system is that undeveloped they shouldnt be in a crowded restaurant anyway.

Or maybe you could ring ahead and ask is there somewhere private you can feed your baby,that is you are the type to make a show of yourself in public letting it all hang out to show how wonderful you are.

Again - babies who are breastfed will not drink from a bottle because of the difference in shape, smell, taste, and texture between a rubber teat and an actual nipple. It's either bring the baby with you or be housebound for up to 6 months.

And why should a woman have to hide away to feed her child like it's something shameful just because some people cannot separate a breast's actual function from its sexual use?

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