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  • 18-01-2014 09:58PM
    #1
    Sad _ Mom
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    I'll get right to my point,
    From the age of 3~4 until 23 my Dad would launch at me at head~butt/kick/punch/throw me whenever I did anything that would irritate him.. I've had this cloud over me for the past 10 years, I am now mid-thirties and til recently I have felt that my Dad is now a nice person toward me. (Something that just occurred when I moved out of his and Mum's home) .. Any time after I moved I ALWAYS felt guilty about feeling any resentment toward him as he was always 'ever so kind' to me when I left home.. I just told myself that he was trying to be a better man after the years of bull at home with him.. But within the past couple of month's the pain of the terror I felt as a child is haunting me. I am so hurt that my parent could cause me so much fear and injury.. I actually told myself until recently that my Dad was justfified in his actions, basically he'd hit me the way a man would hit a man.. At the worst the most awful thing I would have done back then was to not come home on time- I always avoided my curfew because I was scared of what would 'blow up' at home.. ..Guys, something inside me is telling me, talk with the Gardaí, I want my Dad to answer to the appropriate authorities because I feel that my hurt was uncalled for given the situation I caused.. Please, nobody respond with harsh correspondence.. this is a very raw and sensitive issue and it already damages my every~day life.. please somebody point me in the right direction, Please..


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  • #2
    johnnyskeleton
    Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Politics Moderators Posts: 14,568 Mod ✭✭✭✭johnnyskeleton


    Going to the gardai is a good idea, and certainly can't hurt.

    Another person who would be good to speak to is a psychotherapist and they would be very familiar with situations of domestic physical abuse. You could contact your local HSE social care unit and they may be able to organise someone you can speak to.

    Best of luck.


  • #3
    knarkypants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 153 ✭✭knarkypants


    Sad Mom I am so sorry to read your post and all that you have suffered. I too grew up in a violent home and I carried the impact of it for years. I went to counselling a few years ago and it was the best thing I ever did. It was there that I realised I was not being disciplined harshly as I had always thought but I was in fact abused. It was difficult to get my head around but I did and then with the help of my counsellor I dealt with it.

    I understand you may feel angry and feel your parent should be punished for their actions but for the moment I think you need to look after yourself first.

    I would urge to seek the help of a counceller to help you work through this. If you could talk to your GP they would be able to point you in the right direction.


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