Are women usually the bosses in relationships?

Chefrio · 08-01-2014 06:01PM #1

I've noticed this amongst friends that the women are usually the ones that have more of a say in the relationship. Then there is the widespread jokes you hear about men being "whipped, under the thumb"etc. So does a woman usually end up as the boss in a relationship?

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-01-2014 06:02PM

No

SV · 08-01-2014 06:03PM

My girlfriend says no. I agree apparently.

Zzippy · 08-01-2014 06:03PM

I dunno, I'll have to ask herself...

oceanman · 08-01-2014 06:04PM

only if you are stupid enough to let them be!

old hippy · 08-01-2014 06:04PM

I've noticed this amongst boards that there's an awful lot of sweeping generalisations about women. Fat women, ugly women, pushy women, independent women, ginger women. women who wear too much make up, women who don't wear make up, women who wear skimpy clothes and on and on and on.

KTRIC · 08-01-2014 06:04PM

I personally wouldn't put up with that in a relationship.

Wacker The Attacker · 08-01-2014 06:05PM

When in the bedroom its good to remind them who the real daddy is.

Ideally with a fist/vegetable/citrus fruit or a battery powered kitchen appliance

gramar · 08-01-2014 06:06PM

It's fairly 50:50 with the missus although maybe that's what she would have me believe and I'm deluded.

Chefrio · 08-01-2014 06:08PM

old hippy wrote: »

I've noticed this amongst boards that there's an awful lot of sweeping generalisations about women. Fat women, ugly women, pushy women, independent women, ginger women. women who wear too much make up, women who don't wear make up, women who wear skimpy clothes and on and on and on.

The thread title isn't a generalisation. Notice the word "usually".

Potatoeman · 08-01-2014 06:09PM

old hippy wrote: »

I've noticed this amongst boards that there's an awful lot of sweeping generalisations about women. Fat women, ugly women, pushy women, independent women, ginger women. women who wear too much make up, women who don't wear make up, women who wear skimpy clothes and on and on and on.

That's a sweeping generalisation too.

ZiabR · 08-01-2014 06:10PM

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

When in the bedroom its good to remind them who the real daddy is.

Ideally with a fist/vegetable/citrus fruit or a battery powdered kitchen appliance

That made me lol!

OP - My OH would say yes, I would say no.

old hippy · 08-01-2014 06:10PM

Chefrio wrote: »

Then thread title isn't a generalisation. Notice the word "usually".

Yes, I did take note of that. Maybe change it to "in my experience"?

Relationships aren't or at least shouldn't be about who is in charge. Equal relationships are the ones that tend to last, in my experience.

testicle · 08-01-2014 06:10PM

old hippy wrote: »

I've noticed this amongst boards that there's an awful lot of sweeping generalisations about women. Fat women, ugly women, pushy women, independent women, ginger women. women who wear too much make up, women who don't wear make up, women who wear skimpy clothes and on and on and on.

What about naked women?

old hippy · 08-01-2014 06:11PM

Potatoeman wrote: »

That's a sweeping generalisation too.

That was my point.

Lyaiera · 08-01-2014 06:11PM

I've read a few studies on familial systems and Ireland is generally considered fairly matriarchal when it comes to families. Whether that applies to all relationships, relationships when a couple settles down or only relationships where children are a concern I don't know. Spain and Italy are seen as similar and I wonder if it has something to do with Catholicism. (Germany and the UK aren't matriarchal.)

old hippy · 08-01-2014 06:11PM

testicle wrote: »

What about naked women?

Oh I'm sure we'll have plenty of that plus "amusing" suggestions of violence towards women to remind them who's boss...

Valetta · 08-01-2014 06:13PM

KTRIC wrote: »

I personally wouldn't put up with that in a relationship.

"Wouldn't" - not "don't"? hmmmm

newport2 · 08-01-2014 06:13PM

old hippy wrote: »

I've noticed this amongst boards that there's an awful lot of sweeping generalisations about women. Fat women, ugly women, pushy women, independent women, ginger women. women who wear too much make up, women who don't wear make up, women who wear skimpy clothes and on and on and on.

Women usually get lumbered with most of the housework in relationships.

That's a sweeping generalisation about women, does that mean people should stop saying it?

Please say it does, I'm sick of hearing/reading it.

El_Dangeroso · 08-01-2014 06:14PM

Ireland is a bit of a matriarchal society in general, so do tend to be the main decision makers in a lot of things. The stereotypical Irish Mammy comes to mind.

But I think as newer generations of men are more involved in the running of a household and childcare this is changing. I know some relationships where men would be the main decision makers and some where the opposite will be true.

Though I do like to think most people think it's 50:50, even when the power balance usually tips even slightly one way or the other.

Wacker The Attacker · 08-01-2014 06:14PM

old hippy wrote: »

Oh I'm sure we'll have plenty of that plus "amusing" suggestions of violence towards women to remind them who's boss...

In fairness, my suggestions were for fun and bedroom based activities purely for the mutual pleasure of all participants in the frolics.

Dyr · 08-01-2014 06:15PM

wimmens have "relationships", men tend to just have "girlfriends/wives" etc

Chefrio · 08-01-2014 06:15PM

old hippy wrote: »

Yes, I did take note of that. Maybe change it to "in my experience"?

Relationships aren't or at least shouldn't be about who is in charge. Equal relationships are the ones that tend to last, in my experience.

I asked a question, I didn't state a conclusion.

Karl Stein · 08-01-2014 06:15PM

I think a lot of men don't mind sitting in the passenger seat when it comes to relationships.

brevity · 08-01-2014 06:16PM

Men just don't want the argument so it probably comes across as that way.

ThirdMan · 08-01-2014 06:16PM

It's 50/50 in my relationship, exactly as it should be. We don't give each other an inch and it works brilliantly. In my experience the people that say relationships are about compromise are usually unhappy or 'under the thumb'. I might occasionally watch a crap film, or eat in a restaurant that only she likes. But when it comes to the important stuff I won't budge. And neither will she. We refuse to live unhappy lives. If it ever starts to happen I'll be out the door and the 15 years we've spent together would be water off a duck's back.

SCOOP 64 · 08-01-2014 06:16PM

No, its just good to let them think they are.

Wabbit Ears · 08-01-2014 06:16PM

Shes the boss, some women like to let their partners believe they have a say in things but deep down we all know its not true.

TeddyTedson · 08-01-2014 06:16PM

Out of my friends the guys who have had the least amount of relationships tend to have their girlfriends as the "boss". Not all but a lot.
The also seem to be a lot less happy than the couples that appear to be 50/50.
The relationships where the guy is the "boss" also don't seem as happy.
I definitely wouldn't be in a relationship unless it was give and take...

Holsten · 08-01-2014 06:17PM

No, not unless the man allows it.

Invincible · 08-01-2014 06:19PM

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

When in the bedroom its good to remind them who the real daddy is.

Ideally with a fist/vegetable/citrus fruit or a battery powdered kitchen appliance

Can't imagine a whisk or blender being too successful...lol

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