How many people here know somebody who is gay?

freshpopcorn · 31-08-2013 03:10AM #1

My older brother is gay and I know a good few people from college/school.

eass82 · 31-08-2013 03:11AM

everyone I should imagine

Sunglasses Ron · 31-08-2013 03:12AM

None. I thought it was only for celebrities.

Osmosis Jones · 31-08-2013 03:18AM

I know of a gay lad, lives in my town, not actually close to any though. Seems surprisingly uncommon around here.

Too Tough To Die · 31-08-2013 03:19AM

I know a few. Strange lot.

biko · 31-08-2013 03:20AM

Afaik there's just one in the village.

kiffer · 31-08-2013 03:21AM

Seriously? Something like 10 to 20% of the population is gay or bi... if you don't know anyone who's gay then your social group is probably not the sort of place people feel safe enough to be themselves.

MonkstownHoop · 31-08-2013 03:21AM

Whats a gay?

Too Tough To Die · 31-08-2013 03:22AM

kiffer wrote: »

Seriously? Something like 10 to 20% of the population is gay or bi... if you don't know anyone who's gay then your social group is probably not the sort of place people feel safe enough to be themselves.

Yeah, but that mostly applies to cities.

minidazzler · 31-08-2013 03:28AM

I know loads. One of my best female friends is Gay. And have a few dozen more acquaintances.

kiffer · 31-08-2013 03:28AM

Too Tough To Die wrote: »

Yeah, but that mostly applies to cities.

Not amongst young people who have yet to move away from their homes so thay they don't have to hide.
"Stadtluft macht frei nach Jahr und Tag".

eass82 · 31-08-2013 03:31AM

Too Tough To Die wrote: »

Yeah, but that mostly applies to cities.

Probably better to say that everyone knows someone who is gay, but not everyone knows they know someone who is gay.
Especially down the country.

MadsL · 31-08-2013 03:46AM

kiffer wrote: »

"Stadtluft macht frei nach Jahr und Tag".

Sorry, I don't drive a Volkswagen.

:pac:

GalwayKiefer · 31-08-2013 03:50AM

I know a few, what do I win?

DEFTLEFTHAND · 31-08-2013 04:04AM

From the pub talk tonight I don't think you'd want to be gay where I come from. I've learned that many people will pretend to be all happy and forward thinking but when behind closed doors they'll speak free thoughts. There's a certain type of male who'll never accept other males of that sexual preference.

The Backwards Man · 31-08-2013 04:22AM

Who gives a fcuk?

Gay, straight, white, black, orange, rich, poor, male, female.

We're all the one sow's pigs at the end of the day.

Galwayguy35 · 31-08-2013 04:27AM

Just one fella that I know of living around here who is gay.

Whenever he is out in the pubs though he only hangs around with women, doesn't mix with the males of the species at all.

Optimalprimerib · 31-08-2013 04:59AM

If your going to hit the key demographic you need a gay friend.

Rubeter · 31-08-2013 05:08AM

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

From the pub talk tonight I don't think you'd want to be gay where I come from. I've learned that many people will pretend to be all happy and forward thinking but when behind closed doors they'll speak free thoughts. There's a certain type of male who'll never accept other males of that sexual preference.

Except when they tell the wife they're off to the pub, but sneak on down to the park for a "bit of fun" instead.

Rosy Posy · 31-08-2013 05:09AM

I'm shocked to think that there's anyone out there who doesn't know anyone who's gay. I mean outside of Russia or parts of Africa where it's basically a crime to come out? What's this 'not in the country' nonsense? I live in rural New Zealand and there is a lesbian couple who are parents of a child in my kids class, a gay married couple live down the road and my oh works with a gay man and woman, that's just off the top of my head. Surely homosexuality exists in rural Ireland too.

freshpopcorn · 31-08-2013 05:37AM

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

From the pub talk tonight I don't think you'd want to be gay where I come from. I've learned that many people will pretend to be all happy and forward thinking but when behind closed doors they'll speak free thoughts. There's a certain type of male who'll never accept other males of that sexual preference.

This is something that I have experienced quite a bit of with people from my small local town and people I went to college with. Now these guys are not gay and not in the closet. They simply don't like gay men in particular.
I know of a case of a guy on a sports team and he came out a couple of years ago to all the team. The guys told him it was cool and that they didn't care but in actually fact they just said this to keep him happy/not offend him.When hes not around he gets a lot of slagging and he doesn't get invited to parties/nights out that he would have gotten invited to before he came out. The guys ask him on the add night out just to keep him from sussing but the people on the team look at him totally differently now.

This is just something that I have experienced and I don't mean to offend anyone by this.

whatdoicare · 31-08-2013 05:42AM

Lots of friends I know are gay. My uncle is gay too but for some reason he thinks we don't know..... I dunno why he'd think it'd matter to us, we're not the kind of family who'd be homophobic or talk like we were. We let him think we don't know, I think for him it harks back to a time when it was illegal. Poor guy, we love him to bits.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 31-08-2013 06:29AM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

This is something that I have experienced quite a bit of with people from my small local town and people I went to college with. Now these guys are not gay and not in the closet. They simply don't like gay men in particular.
I know of a case of a guy on a sports team and he came out a couple of years ago to all the team. The guys told him it was cool and that they didn't care but in actually fact they just said this to keep him happy/not offend him.When hes not around he gets a lot of slagging and he doesn't get invited to parties/nights out that he would have gotten invited to before he came out. The guys ask him on the add night out just to keep him from sussing but the people on the team look at him totally differently now.

This is just something that I have experienced and I don't mean to offend anyone by this.

Fair play for saying it, it still is very much out there. The guy's who I drank with tonight when sober and in public are very tolerant and like to pass themselves off as that. We're all educated too from the same town and went to college together.

Maybe it's just the banter or whatever but when slurs like Fag and Queer are floating around you begin to wonder, it's not just a casual drunken uttering, there was meaning behind it and the jokes which ran while admittingly were humourous were also probably quite inappropriate when you think about it.

Pensivepuca · 31-08-2013 06:36AM

Myself, my brother, 2friends, my ex's and I volunteered at my cities lgbt centre for a bit so I can say about 45 strangers.

WindSock · 31-08-2013 06:41AM

I knew a person once who had homosexual tendencies but he's been fixed now.

stoneill · 31-08-2013 07:04AM

According to my kids, I'm gay, the dinner is gay, each of them is gay, the dog is gay, the car is gay, my shoes are gay, my wife is gay, homework is gay and so on.....

jimgoose · 31-08-2013 08:10AM

Yes, I know a few gay guys'n'dolls. In my experience they tend to be pleasant, intelligent, well-adjusted people, and fair moxy to them - it couldn't be easy in this backward little outpost. One fella, a hairdresser by trade (used to cut my hair when I lived nearer his place), does have pastel shirt issues right enough, but you get used to that.

MadsL wrote: »

Sorry, I don't drive a Volkswagen...

Oh well-hoofed, Chief!

stoneill wrote: »

According to my kids, I'm gay, the dinner is gay, each of them is gay, the dog is gay, the car is gay, my shoes are gay, my wife is gay, homework is gay and so on.....

You're lucky. Apparently my car is Gay, but me and my house are Random. Go figure...

camel jockey · 31-08-2013 08:48AM

I voted no, then remembered one of the senior executives in my company is gay. Apologies for skewing your poll results OP.

corktina · 31-08-2013 09:13AM

who cares? they are just people.

(there are only two types of people....good and bad....orientation, colour, race ,religion, gender, age etc etc don't come into it in my book.)

carlmango11 · 31-08-2013 09:14AM

How the hell do 13% of the nation not know a gay person!? Is this a country thing? I know countless gay men and women and have done almost as long as I can remember.

jarvis · 31-08-2013 09:17AM

What a stupid pointless thread.

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