Some People can be so rude and ill-mannered...

Rega · 07-07-2013 08:02PM

a posse ad esse wrote: »

I don't think it is worth fighting for it and the OP did what he thought was right. What if this family pulled out something or became violent and believe me even having their child present does not stop scum like that. Sometimes it is not worth the confrontation and it is better to leave the situation altogether. Yes they are rude and out of line but I certainly would not have continued with their bull**** they would not be worth my time and wasted energy. I find people are more "unstable" these days and you don't know what they are capable of doing.

The whole family? :eek:

No Pants · 07-07-2013 08:12PM

a posse ad esse wrote: »

I don't think it is worth fighting for it and the OP did what he thought was right. What if this family pulled out something or became violent and believe me even having their child present does not stop scum like that. Sometimes it is not worth the confrontation and it is better to leave the situation altogether. Yes they are rude and out of line but I certainly would not have continued with their bull**** they would not be worth my time and wasted energy. I find people are more "unstable" these days and you don't know what they are capable of doing.

These weren't like that. Nutters don't stand around whining about how you've there for half and hour and threaten to call the authorities. And if they do get violent, so what? Feel free to get violent back.

Great example to be showing the 12 year old too. He'll be mugging you next week.

HansHolzel · 07-07-2013 08:15PM

Cork airport, end of June: a guard was blocking the inner drop-off/pick-up lane so I had to drive up the outside one to pick up my father (82, walking stick etc). Opposite the doors nearest the short-term car park, I pulled up on the island between the lanes (half the car was up over the curb) just as an elderly lady pulled up, in the lane, beside me, to let another elderly one get out. Next thing this f*cker behind us both starts beeping and gesticulating. So I went over to him.

"What's wrong with you?" I ask. He says, "Have ye enough space there?" I say I don't know the elderly woman but then point to my father approaching with his stick. "See that man there? He's my father and he's 82... SO SHUT YOUR FACE!" The f*cker muttered something but you can be sure he stopped his beeping and arm-waving after that.

Dubflier · 07-07-2013 08:28PM

iguy wrote: »

The cheeky sod's partner then spoke up and said that we were sitting there for over a half hour which we where, he said that we should give other people a chance to sit in that bench, it has the best views, our local park has a river which swans and ducks habitat, very scenic etc.
He then said he was going to ring the authorities, by that time my oh got annoyed a got up and beckoned me to get up, which I did!
It really annoyed us, couldn't believe how rude the were, and the threat of the authorities, wonder who they thought they were!!!!
It was the rudest thing I ever came across, anyone else have any tales of rude people to share?

One half of this country is Stupid and the other half are Mad, you decide which your friends from the park are.

Zen65 · 07-07-2013 08:31PM

sashafierce wrote: »

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It's a no-win situation really. If you stay sitting and they stay arguing then you're not getting any pleasure from your time in the sunshine.

If you confront them physically, you're putting yourself on the wrong side of the law, and that may have been their strategy all along, so you don't want that!

You can be assertive, you could pick up your phone and say that you're going to report them for a verbal assault / threat, but in reality it does not sound like that's plausible.

In the end, what OP did (his OH had the sense to see how this might turn out) was the right thing to do. Never mind your Chuck Norris nonsense, this is real life, not 'Texas Ranger'. It's like crossing the road to avoid a gang of drunken teenagers . . . you won't feel good about your actions, because TV / fiction tells you the thing to do is to hold to your principles and beat three kinds of stuffing out of anyone who tries to force you to do something you don't want, but moving is the right thing to do if you want to avoid an unnecessary conflict.

Incidentally I give this advice all the time when I teach self-defence, but I have to admit I struggle to 'be happy' with it myself. Doing the right thing does not always mean being happy to do it!

Z

Renegade Mechanic · 07-07-2013 08:48PM

Common sense right there:)

Ruu · 07-07-2013 08:48PM

Remove the bench and take it home with you. That or punch the child, but that is generally frowned up these days.

Dyr · 07-07-2013 08:54PM

This is a father ted type thing is'nt it?

emo72 · 07-07-2013 08:56PM

This is one of these threads when "jaaaaassysus Christ" is the only apt reply.

Gran Hermano · 07-07-2013 09:04PM

In a situation like the OP, they should have at least insisted they bought them dinner before they bent over

montyrebel · 07-07-2013 09:05PM

one of the funniest threads i have read here in a while, thank you OP

a0ifee · 07-07-2013 09:08PM

I mean it's easy to say that you'd stand your ground in a situation like that but if that was me I'd prefer a crappier bench then to put up with that bullsh!t, even if in my head I was ripping them to shreds (with words, not literally)

MrPain · 07-07-2013 09:13PM

I had an incident somewhat similar last year during the good weather. I was lying out in the park near where I live on on beech towel. When these 2 little 10 year olds came up to me and asked me to move so they could play soccer on the grass. They were polite so I obliged and moved around 10 meters away. Then they started repeatedly kicking the ball as close to me as they could without hitting me and giggling to themselves (they had loads of space). I ignored it and continued to read. Eventually they hit with the ball and one of the boys came running up to me saying how sorry he was and other charming bull**** telling me the book i was reading looked interesting. Then he asked me would I mind moving again, to which I said no. he then procedded to kick the ball around me again every time it hit me or came near he would snearingly apologise. This went one for about an hour, I hadn't planned to be out this long but while he was there I did not want to make it look like I was giving in to him. Eventually he got bored and went somewhere else in the park and started playing a game which involved him kicking the ball into a bush and his friend going in after it

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Then I left ther park. Ended up getting some serious sunburn since i stood my ground for so long. Blows my mind how a 10 year can to be such a mannipulitive, conniving little kunt. Parents must some self entitled pigs and he learnt it from them.
While i stood my ground it ruined my mood for the rest of the day and I got burnt.

No Pants · 07-07-2013 09:20PM

And people wonder out loud why the Irish are not out rioting in the streets. Bullied by ten year olds for **** sake!

bumper234 · 07-07-2013 09:22PM

MrPain wrote: »

I had an incident somewhat similar last year during the good weather. I was lying out in the park near where I live on on beech towel. When these 2 little 10 year olds came up to me and asked me to move so they could play soccer on the grass. They were polite so I obliged and moved around 10 meters away. Then they started repeatedly kicking the ball as close to me as they could without hitting me and giggling to themselves (they had loads of space). I ignored it and continued to read. Eventually they hit with the ball and one of the boys came running up to me saying how sorry he was and other charming bull**** telling me the book i was reading looked interesting. Then he asked me would I mind moving again, to which I said no. he then procedded to kick the ball around me again every time it hit me or came near he would snearingly apologise. This went one for about an hour, I hadn't planned to be out this long but while he was there I did not want to make it look like I was giving in to him. Eventually he got bored and went somewhere else in the park and started playing a game which involved him kicking the ball into a bush and his friend going in after it.
Then I left ther park. Ended up getting some serious sunburn since i stood my ground for so long. Blows my mind how a 10 year can to be such a mannipulitive, conniving little kunt. Parents must some self entitled pigs and he learnt it from them.
While i stood my ground it ruined my mood for the rest of the day and I got burnt.

Ball would have met the blade of my leatherman swiftly followed by a snearing apology.

No Pants · 07-07-2013 09:38PM

bumper234 wrote: »

Ball would have met the blade of my leatherman swiftly followed by a snearing apology.

I'd leave out the apology.

MrPain · 07-07-2013 09:58PM

No Pants wrote: »

And people wonder out loud why the Irish are not out rioting in the streets. Bullied by ten year olds for **** sake!

lol and what was I meant to do? and no I didn't have a knife with me.

No Pants · 07-07-2013 10:03PM

MrPain wrote: »

lol and what was I meant to do? and no I didn't have a knife with me.

1) Take ball and keep it
2) Say "if that ball hits me once more I'll beat your balls off" like you mean it.
3) Take ball and kick it as far away as you can. If there's a river nearby, that'll do.

Choose one. Seriously, can you not figure out how to stand up to a ten year old?

The_Valeyard · 07-07-2013 10:04PM

iguy wrote: »

The cheeky sod's partner then spoke up and said that we were sitting there for over a half hour which we where, he said that we should give other people a chance to sit in that bench, it has the best views, our local park has a river which swans and ducks habitat, very scenic etc.
He then said he was going to ring the authorities, by that time my oh got annoyed a got up and beckoned me to get up, which I did!
It really annoyed us, couldn't believe how rude the were, and the threat of the authorities, wonder who they thought they were!!!!
It was the rudest thing I ever came across, anyone else have any tales of rude people to share?

Should of p*ssed on the bench, then left.

gifted · 07-07-2013 10:21PM

I had an incident in a cafe in galway a few months back, herself was up at the counter getting the goodies and i was getting the kids into their seats, herself came down all flustered saying that some old northern ireland man started telling her to hurry up as she was looking for the money in her purse. I got a dose of the mads and marched straight up to this little prick and gave out to him at which point he started giving me attitude back...couldn't hit the little ****er so could do the next best thing...grabbed his toast and ****ed it at him lol...walked away and next thing the toast came whizzing past my head..i just started giggling to myself, little prick sat over in the corner and left after 5 min lol...oh yeah, got a bolloking off her then for sticking my nose in..:D

a posse ad esse · 07-07-2013 10:22PM

No Pants wrote: »

These weren't like that. Nutters don't stand around whining about how you've there for half and hour and threaten to call the authorities. And if they do get violent, so what? Feel free to get violent back.

Great example to be showing the 12 year old too. He'll be mugging you next week.

Who knows, the child could have been embarassed over his parents behaviour. Not uncommon for parents to embarass kids in public with that behaviour and attitude. It might send the opposite message to that kid not to act like an asshole in public. I feel bad for the kid more than anyone else.

miller50841 · 07-07-2013 10:28PM

Hi OP what park and what bench we should all head there and make a big que next Sunday if its sunny they probably will be back again.:pac:

candy-gal1 · 07-07-2013 10:29PM

Tbh I hate confrontation myself but in a situation like the OPs there, there is no way I would have moved for these people (unless they started any physical abuse), and yeah when they started saying about calling the authorities on me for not moving

:pac: I would have just said "Go ahead" Purely for entertainment purposes!

SimonTemplar · 07-07-2013 10:49PM

OP, I agree that is ridiculous behavior. It's no different to someone sitting in the very front row of a cinema walking up to someone in the middle during the movie and asking them to move because they've had the good seats for too long. Its crazy stuff!

But the fact that you did actually move is just as crazy. I mean, you essentially rewarded their rude behavior with exactly what they wanted.

And just what "authorities" did they expect to call? The Department of the Environment? The Tourist Office? Rashida Jones from Parks and Recreation? The Pigeon Women from Home Alone 2?

Nonsense of the highest order!

cassid · 07-07-2013 10:53PM

A confidence building course for the pair of you. You have every right to sit on a bench all day if you feel like it, there is no law against it.

Karona · 07-07-2013 11:16PM

I have a friend who is extremely rude I do not know why I am friends with her. I am sure I wrote about her in another thread but I will fill you's in again.

She will plan on meeting you in town for a coffee at say 4 o'clock, you go down and wait and wait and wait and she doesn't show up.

You text her while your there and she won't reply, you see she is on facebook chat when you get home and you message her where was she for coffee and she basically tells you her time is not worthy for you or to text you back. She always has one bad excuse after the other but will mainly put blame on you for some reason or another.

The last time it happened I told her to go fcuk herself and I was sick of it happening, she told me that she couldn't be expected to text me because she was going on honeymoon in a couple of weeks and had so much on her mind.... yeah like sitting out her back garden with her dog (she had put a pic up on facebook).

Some people!!!

07-07-2013 11:22PM

I'm sure one of you had a phone.

Should have gotten it out, and challenged them to a game of tag team musical chairs.

vitani · 07-07-2013 11:31PM

What amuses me is that this family were probably walking around for over half an hour, waiting for ye to give up the bench, checking back every couple of minutes and getting more and more angry as time went on.

Talk about creating your own problems.

cassid · 07-07-2013 11:33PM

Karona Karona.

You deserve to be treated better than this, she is not a friend. Find someone who values you for who you are.

Karona wrote: »

I have a friend who is extremely rude I do not know why I am friends with her. I am sure I wrote about her in another thread but I will fill you's in again.

She will plan on meeting you in town for a coffee at say 4 o'clock, you go down and wait and wait and wait and she doesn't show up.

You text her while your there and she won't reply, you see she is on facebook chat when you get home and you message her where was she for coffee and she basically tells you her time is not worthy for you or to text you back. She always has one bad excuse after the other but will mainly put blame on you for some reason or another.

The last time it happened I told her to go fcuk herself and I was sick of it happening, she told me that she couldn't be expected to text me because she was going on honeymoon in a couple of weeks and had so much on her mind.... yeah like sitting out her back garden with her dog (she had put a pic up on facebook).

Some people!!!

Zen65 · 07-07-2013 11:35PM

vitani wrote: »

What amuses me is that this family were probably walking around for over half an hour, waiting for ye to give up the bench, checking back every couple of minutes and getting more and more angry as time went on.

If they had been first to post here, the advice may have been along the lines of "proper order, Op, those benches were paid for by your tax euros too. Shame on them for hogging it for so long"

Advice is often very subjective.

Z

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