To what level is it acceptable to push your values and beliefs on your children?

At its most fundamental level, isn't every instruction given to a child based on some value or belief that the child's parents hold? It would seem impossible for a parent to raise a child without imparting some of her own values and beliefs, which is what Peregrinus is suggesting; just as we can never be value-free, our instructions and teachings can never be value-free. Having said that, there's a difference between subtle values being instilled, which are almost universally bestowed upon children by their parents, such as "playing with friends is good" and "you are required to listen to your parents' instructions," and stronger, more complicated and more specific values and beliefs, such as "Jesus was the one true saviour" and "if you disobey God you risk his wrath," being taught to children. There's a distinction between the two classes, I believe; the former is required for a child to function within the parent-child relationship and within society in general, while the latter is in many respects extraneous to the child's well-being, though this is entirely a matter of perspective.

I don't subscribe to the Dawkins-esque view, wherein a parent raising his child in his own faith is somehow committing child abuse — this is often an extreme position without much foundation. Though I do lean toward the position where allowing a child to form his own opinions regarding religion, in due time and when he's old enough to understand religion and all of its intricacies, is to be preferred over his parents indoctrinating him from an extremely young age. But I would say this, being non-religious, and Peregrinus alludes to this inclination of mine — I object to the belief, not necessarily the inculcation.

If parents wish to raise their child in their own religious belief system then they should be free to do so; it's not my prerogative, nor the right of the State, to declare otherwise.