Nice guys finish last?

I find there are far too few nice people out there. Sure, there are people who aren't cnuts. But they're not nice. It's very rare you meet someone who is just a nice genuine person, male or female.

Most of the "nice guys" think of themselves as nice because they're not dicks. But really, a lot of them wish they could be.

Women are just as bad in some ways.

BTW, the women who end up with dicks, except for the teen rebel girls, are with the dicks because the dicks are worth more than the nice guys. Or at least it appears so. By worth I don't just mean money. Worth can be anything from being funny, to being nice to well, having money. Every aspect of your character or appearance is all added up and points are given or taken away. The greater the positive number the better your chance.
If the nice guy loses out it's because he's not displaying what he has to offer (No, I don't mean whipping it out in front of the ladies).
Women look at him and see just a nice guy. And that's all they see. There will probably be far more depth to the guy than that, but unless he gets out and makes an effort, they'll never see it. The dick however is great at talking himself up. Think of it like the film "She's all that" You have a nerdy girl who scrubs up and looks great (Although let's face it, Rachel Leigh Cook was hot anyways). The idea is that she changes and displays what she really looks like and what do ya know, She's hot. Guys have to do that but with their personality.
So if you can be funny, then be funny. If you can be nice, then be nice. If you can be smart, then be smart. Just don't be too cocky or arrogant. Just be a person who's fun to be around. And don't be a doormat.

I say this as someone who in their late teens/early twenties was useless with women. But the reason is that I just didn't know how.

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

The more unjustified adoration/attention you give the less you get in return.

If the woman sees she has earned your interest you can give interest back and she likes you more.

Thank you for qualifying that. Spot on.

Has the guy who talks about pick up methods and 'negging' showed up yet?
Like a fly to ****.

some hot boards bird should go out with me.

There is a vas deferens between what men and women want.

1ZRed wrote: »

Yeah but if you're shy and lack confidence but attract someone more out going how would you ever keep up with them?
I've been with people who were a bit less confident than me and it was a headache if I kept having to reassure their insecurities and having to deal with them being too possessive of me. They just never fully trusted me.
And they were very attractive and in some cases I was the one punching above my weight so I didn't get why they were like that.

I like to be with people with my level of confidence (not arrogantly confident but normal) It's easier in a relationship I find.

Been there!

Sauve wrote: »

Not in all cases.

Do tell?

nice is just another way of saying boring.

I`m 26 and I`ve never had a girlfriend, but I`ve accepted the reasons why and its called social darwinism.

I`ve never even asked a girl out either, never kissed one simply because I believe my genes are too weak and no girl would ever want me anyway, I`m doing them a favour by having them avoiding me. I have considered suicide many times in the past, I believe suicide is the justification for social darwinism and erradicating freaks and weak people like me previously. I`m ok now though on anti depressants and getting therapy shortly.

But the realisation that I will never get a girlfriend due to natural selection performing in its most ruthless form does hurt like hell.:(

Heck I`ve never had a friends before in my adult life because I believe nobody wants me and its incredibly painful. I walk around town and see loads of couples holding hands and know I can never be like that and its incredibley painful like I say. I`m simply a social freak of nature, damn right it hurts me.