''I don't mind''

Balarrr Didiarr · 02-04-2012 03:46PM #1

Find I say too much when someone asks for example ..what d'you wanna do? / would you like turkey or ham for dinner? / what time do you wanna meet etc etc. my reply is often ''I don't mind''. Is this sort of indecisiveness annoying to people? I try to cut it out as much as I can but catch myself doing it. My partner does it too, so can take a long time to get things done

Iang87 · 02-04-2012 03:47PM

I suppose so

krudler · 02-04-2012 03:47PM

yes, especially in relationships.

"wanna go to the cinema?"
"I dont mind...do you?"
"yeah you pick the movie though"
"I dont mind, what do you want to see?"

gaaah! just make a decision!

Gee Bag · 02-04-2012 03:48PM

Whatever

The King of Moo · 02-04-2012 03:48PM

Balarrr Didiarr wrote: »

Find I say too much when someone asks for example ..what d'you wanna do? / would you like turkey or ham for dinner? / what time do you wanna meet etc etc. my reply is often ''I don't mind''. Is this sort of indecisiveness annoying to people? I try to cut it out as much as I can but catch myself doing it. My partner does it too, so can take a long time to get things done

I don't know. What do you think?

Generally, people prefer decisiveness over indecisiveness, but you shouldn't overdo it and become overbearing.

hairyprincess · 02-04-2012 03:48PM

Yes it's annoying!!!

I went on holidays with a workmate years ago and she kept saying it the whole week. Seriously annoying.

Stop it now :mad:

stimpson · 02-04-2012 03:48PM

krudler wrote: »

yes, especially in relationships.

"Can I sleep with your sister/best friend/mother?"

chin_grin · 02-04-2012 03:49PM

Meh.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 02-04-2012 03:50PM

Balarrr Didiarr wrote: »

Find I say too much when someone asks for example ..what d'you wanna do? / would you like turkey or ham for dinner? / what time do you wanna meet etc etc. my reply is often ''I don't mind''. Is this sort of indecisiveness annoying to people? I try to cut it out as much as I can but catch myself doing it. My partner does it too, so can take a long time to get things done

Oh God, yes. Sorry, but it does. Especially when the indecisive one disagress with every deicision you make and then complains afterwards.

"What do you want to watch - A, B, or C?"
"I don't mind."
"A it is then."
"No, not A..."
"Okay, then, B."
"No...."
"C."
"You choose...."
"We're watching C, then."
(Three hours later)
"C was really crap - why did you pick C?"

Slippin Jimmy · 02-04-2012 03:50PM

I do it a lot. I never really knew how annoying it was until people started doing it around me. But then again is it rude to be making all of the decisions?

pickarooney · 02-04-2012 03:51PM

It's grand until they whinge about whatever decision you make.

longhalloween · 02-04-2012 03:51PM

What are you complaining about?

You get to do exactly what you want!!

krudler wrote: »

"wanna go to the cinema?"
"I dont mind...do you?"
"yes, lets go. What do you wanna see?"
"I dont mind"
"Great, Battleship it is!"

FYP

Dravokivich · 02-04-2012 03:51PM

hmm... s'pose I'm up for anything really like.

jokettle · 02-04-2012 03:53PM

I have a couple of friends who do this, and I think they do it in an effort to keep everyone happy and not cause any friction. For e.g. if we're going for dinner in a group, these 2 will never put forward a suggestion or disagree with anyone else's ideas. Maybe they see it as a path to an easier life, but I find it a bit sad that they're not secure enough in themselves to feel comfortable enough to voice an opinion.

Latchy · 02-04-2012 03:53PM

I prefer '' I don't mind '' over '' Ahhh....I think I'll just sit on the fence with this one '' anyday .

Nyan Cat · 02-04-2012 03:54PM

I'm very decisive but I mean it when I say I don't mind, I really don't. But if it's something I do wanna do (for example) I'll say I do. Years ago my granny asked did I want a picture she had (I was 10-11) I said I don't mind (really I didn't want it but didn't wanna hurt her feelings) she said she bloody hates that because it's like 'i don't care' which I suppose was true in that instance! But ever since I never say I dont mind when the answer is really no or I'd rather not.
Who says you can't learn from your elders?!

It doesn't bother me when people say I don't mind unless that's their answer to nearly every question

CardBordWindow · 02-04-2012 03:59PM

I often do it if someone offers to buy me a drink. I just say 'Surprise me! .......no gin'
I find it interesting to see what people bring me. Do they actually make an effort to be inventive, or play it safe and get a Guinness?

My name is URL · 02-04-2012 04:01PM

The simple solution is to not ask for anybody else's input :pac:

stimpson · 02-04-2012 04:01PM

CardBordWindow wrote: »

I often do it if someone offers to buy me a drink. I just say 'Surprise me! .......no gin'
I find it interesting to see what people bring me. Do they actually make an effort to be inventive, or play it safe and get a Guinness?

One rohypnol slammer coming up!

MadYaker · 02-04-2012 04:02PM

I hate indescisive people. In the most frustrating thing over listening to people bumbling the most simple of decisions.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 02-04-2012 04:04PM

My name is URL wrote: »

The simple solution is to not ask for anybody else's input :pac:

Regularaly making an intentional decision you know the other person will find horrible works too.

Funglegunk · 02-04-2012 04:06PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rE8Ngk_Yrus

amacachi · 02-04-2012 04:06PM

I generally say it when I don't give a ****. As said though, when someone says it then vetoes every suggestion they deserve a slap.

Balarrr Didiarr · 02-04-2012 04:09PM

Maybe that's it I don't actually give a s**t a lot of the time, I'm not fussy and don't whine much. But it annoys me that it annoys others and when they say 'I don't mind' back we're going in circles

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 02-04-2012 04:14PM

Balarrr Didiarr wrote: »

Maybe that's it I don't actually give a s**t a lot of the time, I'm not fussy and don't whine much. But it annoys me that it annoys others and when they say 'I don't mind' back we're going in circles

The other side of this is that you're not showing much character in terms of what you actually like.

I mean, how are other people suppose to know what you like if you never tell them or never express an interest?

preddy · 02-04-2012 04:22PM

Its called the Father Stone effect.

flanders1979 · 02-04-2012 05:18PM

Its being considerate

44leto · 02-04-2012 05:20PM

You're easy going that's OK , the other side of that coin is worse, me for instance just a disagreeable stubborn tool.

Friel · 02-04-2012 05:24PM

Who in their right mind replies "I dont mind" to the question "Would you like Turkey and Ham?".

WoollyRedHat · 02-04-2012 05:48PM

Latchy wrote: »

I prefer '' I don't mind '' over '' Ahhh....I think I'll just sit on the fence with this one '' anyday .

Is that not the same thing

Gandhi · 02-04-2012 06:00PM

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

Oh God, yes. Sorry, but it does. Especially when the indecisive one disagress with every deicision you make and then complains afterwards.

"What do you want to watch - A, B, or C?"
"I don't mind."
"A it is then."
"No, not A..."
"Okay, then, B."
"No...."
"C."
"You choose...."
"We're watching C, then."
(Three hours later)
"C was really crap - why did you pick C?"

My wife does this with food sometimes. Monotony through elimination:

"Lets get takeout tonight. What do you want?"
"Anything is fine"
"Thai?"
"Don't feel like Thai"
"Mexican?"
"Not in the mood for Mexican"
"Chinese?"
"Meh"
"Indian?"
"Nah"
"Well, I suppose that only leaves pizza, as usual"
"Again??? How come we always end up getting pizza????"
"Aaaaaaaahhhh!!!!"

''I don't mind''

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