Not sure what to do?

LegacyUser · 23-12-2011 11:40PM #1

Hi, I'd really appreciate some advice about this. A couple of weeks ago I kissed a friend on a night out and I'm not really sure what to do now. I've known him since summer but we've been spending more time together in the last couple of months because we were working on a project together and over the last few weeks I realised I liked him as more than a friend. To celebrate finishing the project a group of us went out and while we were dancing he kissed me and we spent the night chatting, dancing and kissing, he even walked me to a taxi. I had no idea he like me too so I was so happy. A few nights ater we were out again and he said we should talk about what happened. Basically we both agreed that we didn't want to rush into anything serious and that we should get to know eachother better before we decide what we want. I was happy with this and at the end of the night he kissed me again. Then after another few days a group of us went out for dinner to celebrate the end of college. Our friends not so subtley arranaged themselves so we ended up sitting together and we had a great evening talking and before he left he asked for my number and said he'd text me. This was on Sunday and I haven't heard from him.

I really like him and we get on so well and I think we really have a chance of making this work but now I'm worried that he just said what he did so he wouldn't hurt my feelings, but then at the same time he initiated everything that has happened so far. I'm also worried that the reactions of our friends might have scared him off. I know they mean well but for some reason they seemed to think that one kiss means we're a couple.

We weren't very close friends before but we are in the same group of friends and we will be seeing eachother regularly so I really don't want it to get awkward, but I don't want him to feel pressured into anything because he is so lovely and he wouldn't want to upset anyone. I don't know if I should text him or just leave it up to him? I would really love for this to work out, but I don't want to move to fast for him either and now I just feel really confused.

I'd really love some impartial advice, I usually ask my friends but they all just presume everything will work out because we're "so perfect" for eachother but I'm not 100% sure.

ButterflyABC · 24-12-2011 02:20PM

could-maybe-be-perfect wrote: »

Hi, I'd really appreciate some advice about this. A couple of weeks ago I kissed a friend on a night out and I'm not really sure what to do now. I've known him since summer but we've been spending more time together in the last couple of months because we were working on a project together and over the last few weeks I realised I liked him as more than a friend. To celebrate finishing the project a group of us went out and while we were dancing he kissed me and we spent the night chatting, dancing and kissing, he even walked me to a taxi. I had no idea he like me too so I was so happy. A few nights ater we were out again and he said we should talk about what happened. Basically we both agreed that we didn't want to rush into anything serious and that we should get to know eachother better before we decide what we want. I was happy with this and at the end of the night he kissed me again. Then after another few days a group of us went out for dinner to celebrate the end of college. Our friends not so subtley arranaged themselves so we ended up sitting together and we had a great evening talking and before he left he asked for my number and said he'd text me. This was on Sunday and I haven't heard from him.

I really like him and we get on so well and I think we really have a chance of making this work but now I'm worried that he just said what he did so he wouldn't hurt my feelings, but then at the same time he initiated everything that has happened so far. I'm also worried that the reactions of our friends might have scared him off. I know they mean well but for some reason they seemed to think that one kiss means we're a couple.

We weren't very close friends before but we are in the same group of friends and we will be seeing eachother regularly so I really don't want it to get awkward, but I don't want him to feel pressured into anything because he is so lovely and he wouldn't want to upset anyone. I don't know if I should text him or just leave it up to him? I would really love for this to work out, but I don't want to move to fast for him either and now I just feel really confused.

I'd really love some impartial advice, I usually ask my friends but they all just presume everything will work out because we're "so perfect" for eachother but I'm not 100% sure.

Hi OP,

I would leave it a few days and see if he texts you, he might not want to seem to eager. You could always text him during the week if you don't hear from him. He could be busy since it's so close to christmas.

I have been in a sImilar situation and it's annoying when people start making a big deal about it as it makes it worse for you.

I'm the same as that I like to get advice outside of my normal group of friends. I hope it works out for you as you seem to like him alot.

24-12-2011 02:38PM

Wait until after Christmas to worry about it, he could be crazy busy or trying not to seem too eager. It's a pretty hectic time for most people at the moment.

LegacyUser · 28-12-2011 06:01PM

Hi, thanks a mill for the advice

I didn't text him and yesterday morning he texted asking if I was going to a friends party. We got the bus together, spend most of the night together and he texted again first thing this morning

So I suppose I was worrying over nothing, but it was good to vent anyway!

Ickle Magoo · 28-12-2011 07:52PM

As your issue has been resolved OP, I'll close this thread.

All the best. :cool:

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