Wedding present of cash

wild_cat · 27-08-2011 01:47AM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Seriously, who wants/needs a dish or a sliver photo frame?

Well if you ask a load of students with no jobs to your wedding it might be the best you'll get.

Its happening my friends and I with an old friend we haven't spoken to in years. We're thinking of pooling our money together to get something. We deffo can't afford 100 quid each.

wild_cat · 27-08-2011 01:54AM

Tesco Massacre wrote: »

The last wedding invitation I got basically demanded cash presents on it.

I thought it was presumptuous.

Go out of your way to get them the finest white plastic tesco value electrical item you can afford.

Nothing says best wishes with your married life like a white box with red stripes and blue writing.

Zebra3 · 27-08-2011 03:26AM

Kiera wrote: »

Depends on how well you know them.

Best mate (and you're on your own) 200 - 300

mate you see once a month - 100 - 150

Someone you work with - 100 (at most)

The afters only - 50 (max)

Agree with bar the last one.

Afters only-SFA.

Kiera · 27-08-2011 04:35AM

Zebra3 wrote: »

Agree with bar the last one.

Afters only-SFA.

I know but i was thinking of one of the girls in work who cant afford to have a lot of people at the full thing but yet we get on great so she can only really afford to bring people to the afters so she'd actually get 100 from me but if i didnt like her as much i'd just throw 50 in a card.

I love Joan Burton · 27-08-2011 04:42AM

Give that bitch a toaster, bitches love toasters

Kiera · 27-08-2011 04:47AM

I love Joan Burton wrote: »

Give that bitch a toaster, bitches love toasters

So do bastards :rolleyes:

27-08-2011 06:00AM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Don't ask me why people have expensive weddings. I suspect it's because when you mention "Wedding" to any supplier of goods, they get the horn, bands, venue's etc.

I don't think anybody expects cash. It's just what I think most people need so I give it as a present.

Seriously, who wants/needs a dish or a sliver photo frame?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gimiDBAK2wA

Teyla Emmagan · 27-08-2011 07:48AM

What about a wedding you've been invited to, but aren't going to? (I can't get off work).

Is 75 too cheap? I'm kinda broke..

hondasam · 27-08-2011 07:51AM

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

What about a wedding you've been invited to, but aren't going to? (I can't get off work).

Is 75 too cheap? I'm kinda broke..

If you are not going buy something for them and don't spend €75.

x in the city · 27-08-2011 07:56AM

what about family members?, my bro and his missus to be are getting hitched soon.

Im thinking about 300/350eu for them both.

too much?

mattjack · 27-08-2011 07:56AM

bc dub wrote: »

What about a wedding that the bride and groom are having in Spain? Current climate n'stuff...

50 from me and 50 from my plus 1 is completely acceptable?

Regardless of your opinions/answers, that's all their feicin gettin.

factor 50 from you and factor 50 from him...very thoughtful,considering the heat and weather there now..climate and all that..

hondasam · 27-08-2011 08:23AM

x in the city wrote: »

what about family members?, my bro and his missus to be are getting hitched soon.

Im thinking about 300/350eu for them both.

too much?

It's all down to what you can afford. I would give a family member min €200. It would depend on their financial situation also.

senorwipesalot · 27-08-2011 11:13AM

Ironing boards.You can never have enough ironing boards.
We got about twenty of them when we got married and havent looked back.

stovelid · 27-08-2011 12:04PM

Usually give 200.

300 for a friend.

Mike 1972 · 27-08-2011 12:10PM

hondasam wrote: »

I would give a family member min €200.

There are members (allegedly) of my extended family who wouldnt get the steam of my piss.

jack presley · 27-08-2011 12:40PM

mikemac wrote: »

A tasteful gift will be remembered for years.
They'll see it on the mantle piece or around the house and remember who gave it and smile

The cash will be lodged to pay bills and forgotten

Cash = lazy option

If you only saw some of the crap we got for ours.....

Drake66 · 27-08-2011 12:48PM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Don't ask me why people have expensive weddings. I suspect it's because when you mention "Wedding" to any supplier of goods, they get the horn, bands, venue's etc.

I don't think anybody expects cash. It's just what I think most people need so I give it as a present.

Seriously, who wants/needs a dish or a sliver photo frame?

Instead of sending out invitations they could sell tickets.

kelle · 27-08-2011 12:55PM

mikemac wrote: »

A tasteful gift will be remembered for years.
They'll see it on the mantle piece or around the house and remember who gave it and smile

The cash will be lodged to pay bills and forgotten

Cash = lazy option

I got 4 breadbins. I keep my bread in the freezer, so they were of no use.

Got 3 deep fat fryers, gave away two and dumped the third after a few uses when the house was stank out of it.

I got a fairly expensive looking teapot, it just took up space in my cupboard for a few years, as we don't drink tea and visitors just get the teabag with boiled water in the cup. It eventually got smashed on the floor by a toddler!

The lazy option would have been better, so I bear that in mind when giving wedding gifts (ie always money!).

Micky Dolenz · 27-08-2011 01:22PM

Drake66 wrote: »

Instead of sending out invitations they could sell tickets.

Would there be a prize? I like prizes.

Mike 1972 · 27-08-2011 01:27PM

My parents got four dinner sets.

To this day each of them get used in strict rotation one day every four years (Christmas dinner) and sit in a glass-doored cabinet the rest of the time as their use on any of the other 364 days of the year would be unthinkable.

WTF like

Oh yeah and my Dad got this wierd electric (analouge) alarm clock/bedside light combo which was apparently cutting edge technology (and pretty expensive) back in the day. The electric clock didnt tick but there was a switch one could turn to produce a ticking noise for those reared on a lifetime of mechanical alarm clocks and couldnt live without a ticking noise.

Once again WTF like ?

kelle wrote: »

Got 3 deep fat fryers, gave away two and dumped the third after a few uses when the house was stank out of it.

You kept the wrong one ?

stovelid · 27-08-2011 01:37PM

Do people actually give presents for an afters invite?

LaVail · 27-08-2011 02:00PM

I gave up going to weddings and giving money to the bride and groom because some couples down this way were just getting married because it was the new fad. At least 50% of the wedding I've went to ended in separation within two years. People getting married at 20-25 years of age, having their parents pay for the wedding and blowing all the money from guests on 2 weeks clubbing in the costa. I think there should be a law that you can't marry until you're at least 35 and have a small bit of cop on.

I don't have the statistics of how many marriages fail within 5 years but I'm guessing quite a lot. Why don't they just live with the person and get on with life, marriage ruins a a lot of solid relationships from what I've seen.

Drake66 · 27-08-2011 02:20PM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Would there be a prize? I like prizes.

It would work out great for avaricious twits. Buy your ticket now and get a free Parker Pen. If the bride/groom played their cards right, and sold enough tickets, their wedding could work out as revenue neutral. Allowing them to take an extended honeymoon in Zanzibar, Monaco and Guam. They would have no need for invitations with the obscene demand of "Cash Gifts Only" in such a scenario.

orourkeda · 27-08-2011 02:22PM

RoryW wrote: »

Cash Gash is King

....but how much cash is the norm for a wedding present these days ?

All tidy

stovelid · 27-08-2011 02:23PM

LaVail wrote: »

I gave up going to weddings and giving money to the bride and groom because some couples down this way were just getting married because it was the new fad. At least 50% of the wedding I've went to ended in separation within two years. People getting married at 20-25 years of age, having their parents pay for the wedding and blowing all the money from guests on 2 weeks clubbing in the costa. I think there should be a law that you can't marry until you're at least 35 and have a small bit of cop on.

I don't have the statistics of how many marriages fail within 5 years but I'm guessing quite a lot. Why don't they just live with the person and get on with life, marriage ruins a a lot of solid relationships from what I've seen.

Translation: tight bastard.

LaVail · 27-08-2011 02:28PM

stovelid wrote: »

Translation: tight bastard.

Translation: I've given at least 2.5K of my own hard earned money to people who have no intention of staying married for longer then a couple of years and just want another day out. Marriage in general is a joke.

kelle · 27-08-2011 02:41PM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Would there be a prize? I like prizes.

Your own avatar?

Godsentme · 27-08-2011 02:52PM

e2000, me.

I get invited to an awful lot of weddings. Even people I don't know.

kylith · 27-08-2011 03:18PM

mikemac wrote: »

A tasteful gift will be remembered for years.
They'll see it on the mantle piece or around the house and remember who gave it and smile

The cash will be lodged to pay bills and forgotten

Cash = lazy option

Disagree. My brother wound up with some of the most godsawful hideous lamps, vases, etc. not to mention 3 or 4 toasters. With most people living together before getting married the tradition of giving housewares is completely useless. The money can be put towards paying off the huge debts they may have incurred putting on the wedding in the first place.

x_Ellie_x · 27-08-2011 03:43PM

It depends on how well I know them. Obviously I'd spend a lot more money on a friend or family member than I would on a neighbour I didn't know that well. I normally buy presents. I don't give money. I think its kind of rude to just give money in a card. It kind of says you didn't care enough to bother spending your time looking and choosing a present for them.

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