Signs a man is afraid of a new relationship/afraid of commitment

MissJustice · 18-02-2011 01:44PM #1

guys would you be able to shed some light on this subject? Thanks a mill

Mods please place this issue into a forum where it can be discussed if it is not appropriate here

Praetorian Saighdiuir · 18-02-2011 01:45PM

OOOOOOhhhhh i hope this goes to P.I quick.

Iv an itchy post finger here!

PandyAndy · 18-02-2011 01:46PM

Breaking up with you would probably be the biggest give away.

RedXIV · 18-02-2011 01:46PM

He can't change his underwear because they've been together so long

easyeason3 · 18-02-2011 01:46PM

When he doesn't ring you it means he really, really wants you.
You should keep ringing & texting him even if he doesn't reply. Men love this.

Cheap Thrills! · 18-02-2011 01:46PM

Scarlet for ya OP.

MissJustice · 18-02-2011 01:48PM

easyeason3 wrote: »

When he doesn't ring you it means he really, really wants you.
You should keep ringing & texting him even if he doesn't reply. Men love this.

hahahaha!

MissJustice · 18-02-2011 01:49PM

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

Scarlet for ya OP.

I would like some views on this particularly from irish guys

Canis Lupus · 18-02-2011 01:52PM

MissJustice wrote: »

afraid of a new relationship/afraid of commitment

Or just can't be arsed. Annoys me when we're 'afraid' of commitment when we just want to shag lots of women.

Agricola · 18-02-2011 01:52PM

When you mention something about moving in with him, he goes abit like Bishop Brennan after he was kicked up the arse.

easyeason3 · 18-02-2011 01:52PM

You may as well tell us the full story so we can get a clear picture on how to help you. Tell us everything OP, sharing is caring.

Duggy747 · 18-02-2011 01:56PM

easyeason3 wrote: »

When he doesn't ring you it means he really, really wants you.
You should keep ringing & texting him even if he doesn't reply. Men love this.

Exactly. Especially when they send you a text, then 15 minutes later resend the text, 30 minutes later send another text asking did you get the 1st text and 5 minutes later ringing you if you got any of the texts.

We love it.

As for signs:

When he has pass up on seeing his friends so he can stay at home talking about "where the relationship is going" and fùckin' cuddles you can see the cold, dead, feign smile on his face as he listens to you talk utter bollox about trivial things like the girl at work you don't like. Men love to hear women waffle on about absolutely nothing and people they have or never will meet in their lives.

Kimono-Girl · 18-02-2011 01:58PM

When he gets a printed T-Shirt with a sign on it saying "i am afraid of commitment"

Captain_Generic · 18-02-2011 01:58PM

easyeason3 wrote: »

You may as well tell us the full story so we can get a clear picture on how to help you. Tell us everything OP, sharing is caring.

You can trust us, we're the internet

Ricardo G · 18-02-2011 01:59PM

He is not afraid of commitment......he is monogamously challenged !!

easyeason3 · 18-02-2011 02:00PM

Duggy747 wrote: »

Exactly. Especially when they send you a text, then 15 minutes later resend the text, 30 minutes later send another text asking did you get the 1st text and 5 minutes later ringing you if you got any of the texts.

We love it.

As for signs:

When he has pass up on seeing his friends so he can stay at home talking about "where the relationship is going" and fùckin' cuddles you can see the cold, dead, feign smile on his face as he listens to you talk utter bollox about trivial things like the girl at work you don't like. Men love to hear women waffle on about absolutely nothing and people they have or never will meet in their lives.

And don't forget how ye love it when a woman organises your time together. Especially when it involves spending lots of time around her family & that ye do everything as a couple now.

Canis Lupus · 18-02-2011 02:00PM

easyeason3 wrote: »

You may as well tell us the full story so we can get a clear picture on how to help you. Tell us everything OP, sharing is caring.

Including sex life. Details are important. Pics if you have them also good.

flyton5 · 18-02-2011 02:52PM

He's probably sleeping with your sister...

jugger · 18-02-2011 02:54PM

or mother:D

orourkeda · 18-02-2011 02:54PM

Lack of intercourse

Duggy747 · 18-02-2011 02:56PM

easyeason3 wrote: »

And don't forget how ye love it when a woman organises your time together. Especially when it involves spending lots of time around her family & that ye do everything as a couple now.

Yes, man-time is now irrelevant. Her friends that she chooses for you are now your new & improved friends, replacing your old "unsavoury" best friends...........even if you can't stand the sight of them.

Anything you enjoyed doing / watching must now be put aside for an obscure hour when she's asleep because she doesn't want to watch it.

She does, however, want you to watch some mushy film with her :pac:

*sweeping generalisations

Millicent · 18-02-2011 03:14PM

Listen, there's no such thing as afraid of a relationship/afraid of commitment in the early stages. It's bollox psychobabble that's pedalled out to make women feel better. If he likes you, he will want to ride you/see you/ speak to you on a regular basis. If not, he doesn't really like you all that much.

I wish people would stop buying into this shit. If he's not texting or calling, treating you badly or seems like he doesn't want a relationship, he does not want you. End of. It may sound cruel but if he liked you, you'd be in no doubt. Why would you want to be with someone who didn't seem to want to be with you anyway?

J K · 18-02-2011 03:24PM

A wise man once said - i think it was descartes - "He's just not that in to you"

pragmatic1 · 18-02-2011 03:31PM

Why dont you just ask him instead of looking for signs.

jester77 · 18-02-2011 03:39PM

He's probably just weighing up his options.

tallaghtmick · 18-02-2011 03:50PM

the only commitment i want is that my son gets everything he needs while hes very young and that het gets as much time with me as possible,why do women not get that?

LighterGuy · 18-02-2011 03:53PM

Millicent wrote: »

Listen, there's no such thing as afraid of a relationship/afraid of commitment in the early stages. It's bollox psychobabble that's pedalled out to make women feel better. If he likes you, he will want to ride you/see you/ speak to you on a regular basis. If not, he doesn't really like you all that much.

I wish people would stop buying into this shit. If he's not texting or calling, treating you badly or seems like he doesn't want a relationship, he does not want you. End of. It may sound cruel but if he liked you, you'd be in no doubt. Why would you want to be with someone who didn't seem to want to be with you anyway?

Agreed.
To many people even BS themselves saying "maybe he/she isnt into the whole texting/contacting alot" - while ignoring that its a sign they are not into you.

Gunsfortoys · 18-02-2011 03:56PM

Try a magic 8 ball OP.

stovelid · 18-02-2011 04:18PM

"It's not you, it's me".

"I just don't want to be with anybody at the moment, really".

"You're too good for me".

"It's not the right time".

"Things are moving too fast".

Translation:

I don't want to go out with you and within a hour of this conversation, I will be relentlessly chasing skirt again.

strokemyclover · 18-02-2011 04:26PM

If you use two seperate cars to go to the cinema from the same location

Eric Cartman · 18-02-2011 04:39PM

why do we men have to be 'afraid' of commitment, tbh he probably just wants to ride a few burds and your being crazy and wrecking his buzz

Signs a man is afraid of a new relationship/afraid of commitment

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