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This one guy is an asshole - being led on!

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  • #32
    kylith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,739 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    Did you tell him you'd fancied him for ages? You might have freaked him out, he probably thought that if he went out with you you'd be planning a wedding within the week.


  • #33
    Oranage2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,129 ✭✭✭✭Oranage2


    He could be just stringing you along - Could be just boasting his ego while not really fancying you with potential of a drunking booty call when he wants.


  • #34
    orourkeda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,918 ✭✭✭✭orourkeda


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Why do they do it?

    Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.

    Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips. :D

    He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?

    Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.

    What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?

    He wants to bang you. You want to bang him. Just have sex.


  • #35
    phill106
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,838 ✭✭✭phill106


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »

    Hard Luck Woman...


  • #36
    Praetorian Saighdiuir
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,968 ✭✭✭✭Praetorian Saighdiuir


    You should sell this storyline to Hollyoaks...................


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  • #37
    Rabble Rabble
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,367 ✭✭✭Rabble Rabble


    So let me ask.

    OP was this guy the "ugly" guy who worked with you. I assume not, since you admit to fancying him.

    Also, extend your horizons. Work isnt a bad place to meet people, you know how they act under pressure, and how they get on with people, but it is limiting.


  • #38
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Why do they do it?

    Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.

    Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips. :D

    He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?

    Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.

    What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?

    Was this the fella that you were meant to feed?


  • #39
    Mrs Garth Brooks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,865 ✭✭✭Mrs Garth Brooks


    Alejandra Miniature Lottery wrote: »
    Was this the fella that you were meant to feed?

    Well he can starve now. I wont even throw him a slice of toast.


  • #40
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,118 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?

    This Dublin musician fella you might have seen on the telly once contacted me through a social networking site. I .. ahem .. reluctantly gave him my number. His first message was, I sh*t you not, "Do you live alone?"

    Your guy sounds a lot like him.


  • #41
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,581 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Well he can starve now. I wont even throw him a slice of toast.


    You won't really get an opportunity now will you? I'm sure he can probably make his own toast, most men can.


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  • #42
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    AnnyHallsal wrote: »
    This Dublin musician fella you might have seen on the telly once contacted me through a social networking site. I .. ahem .. reluctantly gave him my number. His first message was, I sh*t you not, "Do you live alone?"

    Your guy sounds a lot like him.

    That's Damo for ya


  • #43
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,445 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Why do they do it?

    Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.

    Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips. :D

    He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?

    Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.

    What does he want? Sersiously i understand dogs more. And before anyone says women can be assholes too, yes i know they can. Maybe i should just become a lesbian?

    He wanted to get his ego boosted. You boosted it. Now he's moved on.

    You fancied this guy for 5-6 years and you couldn't tell he was the kind of bloke that thinks a woman making the first move is a bit desperate?

    I think it's most likely you had a fantasy version of him in your head. Turns out he's a d****k.

    It coulda been worse.


  • #44
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,581 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    He wanted to get his ego boosted. You boosted it. Now he's moved on.

    You fancied this guy for 5-6 years and you couldn't tell he was the kind of bloke that thinks a woman making the first move is a bit desperate?

    I think it's most likely you had a fantasy version of him in your head. Turns out he's a d****k.

    It coulda been worse.

    Change the sexes and you'd have a Feedback thread for sexism in AH.

    But as blokes we're used to it.


  • #45
    Rabble Rabble
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,367 ✭✭✭Rabble Rabble


    Quite a division in the female and male analysis of this story ( in fact i can tell who is female by the reaction).

    As a male, I see a guy who tried it on with a kiss. Didnt work. Flirted a bit by mentioning a bedroom. Was clearly getting nowhere, however.

    He is probably not obliged to become the OP's girlfriend, wife, or any other fantasy she has.


  • #46
    Augmerson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,162 ✭✭✭Augmerson


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Why do they do it?

    Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.

    Read this much.


  • #47
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,327 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Why do they do it?
    Cos some can, because they're given the opportunity to do so.
    Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him but since i left the job a couple of weeks ago, i thought fk it il try it anyway.
    5 maybe 6 years?? Bit of a slow burner there. Even the slowest "dunno how women work" bloke probably spotted that one at some stage. Figured he was on a promise. Now in general if a guy spots the fancying thing goin on and doesn't respond chances are anything beyond a bit of hows yer father is unlikely. NOt 100%, but still...
    Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips. :D
    OK
    He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?
    I want to be in the clear with all and sundry to get fumbly with you. Personally I wouldnt have given two hoots about the flatmates. Not my prob, but I am a bit of a c u next tuesday.
    Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages. Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal. Yes it was when he asked to come into my room.
    He's not that pushed. The male equivalent of the woman who out of the blue two dates in comes out with the "I dunno about this".
    What does he want?
    What anyone wants, someone they fancy rotten and like as people. No reflection on you, it is what it is. You win some you lose some. Move on and dont wait 6 years next time.

    Oh yea and pics or GTFO. Well it is where it is.... :D

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #48
    Roro4Brit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 595 ✭✭✭Roro4Brit


    I tried to read the op, but all I could process was blah blah blah, blah blah blah blah, bla bla bla bla bla, bla bla bla.......

    Why the fuk must women over analyse everything? Can't they just stfu and get their tits out, that way everyone is happy.


  • #49
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,445 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    TheZohan wrote: »
    Change the sexes and you'd have a Feedback thread for sexism in AH.

    But as blokes we're used to it.

    Was in no way trying to imply that all guys behave like this. From what I could infer from the OP's post, IMO, this guy was just taking the piss.

    I do not think that "men are assholes". I've been equally critical of women in other posts in relation to their behaviour towards boyfriends/exes


  • #50
    starbelgrade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    Worked with this bird for 5 years. Never paid that much attention to her, though she was always looking at me. Found it a bit weird, but didn't dwell on it too much.

    Anyhow, I finished work a few weeks back & she's all over me at the leaving do - asks me for my phone number, tells me she'd fancied me for years & then goes in for the kiss. I was a bit p*ssed & just went for it.

    Regretted it ever since. She's been texting me nearly every day since.

    Why do they do it? Why are women such clingy bitches?

    It was only a kiss. Rang her to try & explain this.

    Thank f*ck I didn't ride her.

    Sometimes I think it'd be easier to be gay.


  • #51
    Sea Sharp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,593 ✭✭✭Sea Sharp


    Did you try making him a sandwich?

    Maybe he intended on banging you and was working his way up to it but then some other opportunity came his way so he aborted the mission.


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  • #52
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,118 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    Two signs you're an asshole:

    1. You suggest being f*ck buddies on a first date
    2. You say "Why did you wear red if you weren't going to f*ck me?"

    Not sexist. True.


  • #53
    bonerm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,595 ✭✭✭bonerm


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Maybe i should just become a lesbian?

    Sounds like the best solution tbh. Be sure to post pix if you go down this route.


  • #54
    Saibh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,431 ✭✭✭✭Saibh


    The difference I see is you fancied him for 5 years, he didn't seem to.

    Where you expecting him to feel the same way towards you once you decided to do something about it?


  • #55
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    Perhaps he felt it was time to move things along considering the first phase of your relationship (exchanging numbers) took 5-6 years.


  • #56
    OutlawPete
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,689 ✭✭✭✭OutlawPete


    Slight generalization with the thread title, but no bother.
    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Fancied a guy for ages. 5 or 6 years to be precise. Didn't do anything cause i worked with him then ..

    So, you knew him for five or six years as you worked with him, carry on ..
    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Gave him my number and he was more than happy to give me his and he went to kiss me on the lips. :D He rang me a couple of times and even asked me would my flatmates mind if he came into my room if he came to visit me. Wtf does all this mean?

    Sounds like he was sussing out if a threesome was on the cards.
    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Am i right to be mad at him since he's all talk and he's been ignoring my messages.

    Well, seen as you knew him for years, it's my guess that you were attracted to him as he's a bit of a bastard, but now that he has treated you badly, you blame him.
    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Even had the neck to tell me the kiss was no big deal.

    Bastard.
    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    What does he want?

    To shag you with your flatmates I would say.
    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    Sersiously i understand dogs more.

    Look, bastards turn you on, don't complain then when they turn around and act like one.

    What you want to do is try and be attracted to nice guys who treat women well.

    Course, 'sexy bastard' has a better ring to it that 'sexy nice guy'.


  • #57
    Gran Hermano
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,330 ✭✭✭Gran Hermano


    HardLuckWoman wrote: »
    How can i give it to him when he wasn't coming for it?

    Try not to scare him. Would donning a balaclava or brown paper bag assist?


  • #58
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,581 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    Was in no way trying to imply that all guys behave like this.

    Cool
    From what I could infer from the OP's post, IMO, this guy was just taking the piss.

    People have the right to change their minds, maybe the OP did something to turn the guy off, we'll never know as we weren't there.

    Just because you go on a date with someone doesn't mean that there has to be a second, the guy might well have been taking the piss, but again we'll never know.
    I do not think that "men are assholes". I've been equally critical of women in other posts in relation to their behaviour towards boyfriends/exes

    Cool.


  • #59
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,445 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    [QUOTE=TheZohan;68130105



    People have the right to change their minds, maybe the OP did something to turn the guy off, we'll never know as we weren't there.

    Just because you go on a date with someone doesn't mean that there has to be a second, the guy might well have been taking the piss, but again we'll never know.



    [/QUOTE]

    Am agreeing with you 100%. Was just giving my take on it. OP posted so that she could get various opinions. I also suggested that she may have had a bit of a fantasy thing going on.Fancying someone for 5-6 yrs aint healthy imo.


  • #60
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,445 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    sorry bout the messy post ^^^
    :(


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  • #61
    AlmightyCushion
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 35,229 Mod ✭✭✭✭AlmightyCushion


    Roro4Brit wrote: »
    Can't they just stfu and get their tits out, that way everyone is happy.

    I bet the ladies all love you. I reckon you should take your own advice. The STFU part not the getting the tits out part.


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