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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    Dr Galen wrote: »
    Ok so this was the OP

    I think The Corinthian is correct. We are getting into all sorts of socio-economic debating here, along with a smattering of other things.

    Can we bring the discussion back to this point and try and answer the question posed.

    Where is the Man equivalent of Womens Aid for example, why do men not care or seem bothered?


    Because men can't be arsed?

    Women's rights weren't just handed to us on a plate you know, we had to fight for them. We still have to fight for them for women who are subjected to unspeakable actions across the world and thats what we do.

    Men can talk the talk but thats all they seem to do. I know so many fathers "denied" access to their kids in their words but do they get up off their bums and do anything about it? No they don't because that would involve effort and how much easy to sit around and feel sorry for yourself and blame everyone else.

    And there is the male version of Womens Aid - its called Amen


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    eviltwin wrote: »
    Because men can't be arsed?

    egalitarianism equality may not be your cup of tea
    Women's rights weren't just handed to us on a plate you know, we had to fight for them. We still have to fight for them for women who are subjected to unspeakable actions across the world and thats what we do.

    But this is Ireland and many men support and have supported and fought for womens rights to as an equality issue.
    Men can talk the talk but thats all they seem to do. I know so many fathers "denied" access to their kids in their words but do they get up off their bums and do anything about it? No they don't because that would involve effort and how much easy to sit around and feel sorry for yourself and blame everyone else.

    rights should be rights irrespective of gender or orientation and should be intrinsic irrespective of the actions of any lobby or pressure or interest group.
    And there is the male version of Womens Aid - its called Amen

    actually it isnt -its a domestic violence victim support group and that is a huge distinction in the same way Childline is a support group.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    eviltwin wrote: »
    Because men can't be arsed?
    I hate to admit it, but this is in large part correct. In part because we have been fed the idea that we are the oppressors, and thus cannot be the oppressed and in part because being seen as a victim and alpha-male is an oxymoron.

    As a result, we rarely act until it is too late, and then often only campaign on the issue that has affected us. Until then, it is someone else's problem to solve, that we may recognize and even discuss, but never actually do anything about.

    Even here there is a lot of navel-gazing, justified as 'education' that will ultimately go nowhere.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,373 ✭✭✭Dr Galen


    I hate to admit it, but this is in large part correct. In part because we have been fed the idea that we are the oppressors, and thus cannot be the oppressed and in part because being seen as a victim and alpha-male is an oxymoron.

    As a result, we rarely act until it is too late, and then often only campaign on the issue that has affected us. Until then, it is someone else's problem to solve, that we may recognize and even discuss, but never actually do anything about.

    Even here there is a lot of navel-gazing, justified as 'education' that will ultimately go nowhere.

    Do you think that the Irish psyche has a bearing on this as well?

    If you look at the country in general, it is only when there is another slipup that the general public come out with marches, protests and such. In fact, judging by the complete lack of anything resembling protest at our current government and shambles of a political system, I can totally see why men don't get up off their arses to do anything.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,375 ✭✭✭metrovelvet


    Dr Galen wrote: »
    Do you think that the Irish psyche has a bearing on this as well?

    If you look at the country in general, it is only when there is another slipup that the general public come out with marches, protests and such. In fact, judging by the complete lack of anything resembling protest at our current government and shambles of a political system, I can totally see why men don't get up off their arses to do anything.

    There is a quality of contagious inertia alright.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    Dr Galen wrote: »
    Do you think that the Irish psyche has a bearing on this as well?
    Were that the case masculinist movements would be far more advanced in other countries, but they're not.
    If you look at the country in general, it is only when there is another slipup that the general public come out with marches, protests and such. In fact, judging by the complete lack of anything resembling protest at our current government and shambles of a political system, I can totally see why men don't get up off their arses to do anything.
    But women don't get off their arses where it comes to politics any more or less than men, yet have no problem where it comes to the 'sisters are doing it for themselves' pursuit of women's rights and interests.

    So I don't think political and masculinist apathy are related.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,758 ✭✭✭Klingon Hamlet


    eviltwin wrote: »
    Because men can't be arsed?

    Women's rights weren't just handed to us on a plate you know, we had to fight for them. We still have to fight for them for women who are subjected to unspeakable actions across the world and thats what we do.

    Men can talk the talk but thats all they seem to do. I know so many fathers "denied" access to their kids in their words but do they get up off their bums and do anything about it? No they don't because that would involve effort and how much easy to sit around and feel sorry for yourself and blame everyone else.

    And there is the male version of Womens Aid - its called Amen

    Really? Really?!

    Here's a theory. Women were granted more rights because the media backed them. Articles worlwide highlight the problems faced daily by women. ntire sections of magazines are devoted to women's lifestyle.

    What do men get? The sports section. FHM and Nuts. We're reduced to boobs, beers and footballs. Why? Because the lowest common denominator of media---tabloids---also tend to represent the very stereotypes that pervade the general social psyche. So the problem lies with the general public's awareness, and therefore perception, of modern families.

    The solution? Education. You speak of dads not getting off their arses to "do something about it". here's a thig. A mum would more than likely be entitled to Free legal Representation in court. So if she needs to goto court for anything, she signs a form and gets a solicitor. her maintenance and benefits are not taken into consideration in the Means Test. So she knows she can have someone professionally fight her battles for her.

    Oftentimes the father is earning "too much", i.e. 18k or more disposable income per year. He therefore must manage to pay maintenance, rent/mortgage, possibly spousal maintenance AND cover considerable legal fees in the process. That may involve loans. Oh, and added to that pressure, he has to go out and work and pretend he's not heartbroken at not seeing his kids, not devastated at the way things have turned out, nd not terrified of the future for him and his broken family.

    I take great offense to the repeated claims by people that dads are lazy. If that were true, I wouldn't be watching an endless flow of men coming into court fighting for access and guardianship. There are lazy parents. There are mothers who treat their kids like sh1t, who complain constantly about the trouble they give them, despite they being 50% responsible for the poor buggers being brought into the world in the first place, yet reaping fairly substantial benenfits for being a not-bothered mum. But I also know the vast majority of mums (and dads) are well-meaning, hard-working, and oft-beleaguered human beings who love their children and do what they believe is right to give their children the lives they deserve.

    As for fighting for change:
    • Check out the pictures. they were freezeframes from a fifteen second spot, on a TV3 news bulletin last Saturday. We marched for 3 hours from 4 Courts to O'Connell Bridge. We do the same on Christmas. People showed great support. Yet there was no mention of us in the papers! Why? Plenty of cameras there.
    • Check out Prime Time on RTE 1 tonight at 9.35---see the fight.
    • Go here.
    This country continuously puts men down. Try that with your child, see how they come out: depressed, dejected? Men are seen as the mean half of society, the guys who had their cake and ate it, and there's a certain level of "Now it's our turn" for the women's movement. And this has unfortunately only served to cause larger rifts between men and women. the objective should be to create a common ground so differences, while accepted as natural, can no longer be used as disadvantages or reasons to discriminate.

    Which at the moment, on both sides, they are.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    sam34 wrote: »
    oh really?

    men are happy to work weekends and night shifts, and "never" have a problem with it?

    LOL
    sam34 wrote: »
    i quoted it in my post to make it clear.

    to reiterate, it was your claim that men "never" have problems with shiftwork or weekends

    Maybe I should have posted this instead ;)



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    CDfm wrote: »
    Maybe I should have posted this instead ;)
    Or perhaps you should address his point without attempting to use humour to sidestep it?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Or perhaps you should address his point without attempting to use humour to sidestep it?

    sam is a her and not a his :)

    and I dont want to address the point as it would drag it too much off topic and I am into a more gender diversity and egalitarian approach


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    CDfm wrote: »
    and I dont want to address the point as it would drag it too much off topic and I am into a more gender diversity and egalitarian approach
    I would not confuse passivity with egalitarianism.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,373 ✭✭✭Dr Galen


    CDfm wrote: »
    sam is a her and not a his :)

    and I dont want to address the point as it would drag it too much off topic and I am into a more gender diversity and egalitarian approach

    well in fairness Sam is a mod and so by asking you the question and asking you to back it up, I take it to mean that its ok to answer and it won't be seen as an attempt to go OT.

    EDIT: Just as a sidenote, and related to your point CDfm, having worked in the Health Service and done the shifts, the nights and the weekends, I often had an issue wih it tbh. Was a serious pain in my ass. I wasn't alone in that either, a lot of the lads I would have known would have felt similar to weekends especially


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    CDfm wrote: »
    and I dont want to address the point

    that much is clear!:rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    Why are we accepting the assertion that 'having a problem with shift work' is a gender issue? It's not.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    Zulu wrote: »
    Why are we accepting the assertion that 'having a problem with shift work' is a gender issue? It's not.
    I'm still wondering why we seem to have accepted that women should be the automatic carers (apparently because they have a womb) and that "the relationship the child has with its mother is more important" than the one it has with its father.

    How can we even begin to have a discussion about men's rights when bigoted crap like that is being accepted without so much as a whimper, for fear of being seen to do a gender debate?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,373 ✭✭✭Dr Galen


    I'm still wondering why we seem to have accepted that women should be the automatic carers (apparently because they have a womb) and that "the relationship the child has with its mother is more important" than the one it has with its father.

    How can we even begin to have a discussion about men's rights when bigoted crap like that is being accepted without so much as a whimper, for fear of being seen to do a gender debate?


    i think thats a good point and is worthy of a thread in itself really.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    I'm still wondering why we seem to have accepted that women should be the automatic carers (apparently because they have a womb) and that "the relationship the child has with its mother is more important" than the one it has with its father
    +1
    it is without a shadow of doubt arrogant, sexist, claptrap.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    Dr Galen wrote: »
    i think thats a good point and is worthy of a thread in itself really.
    Perhaps, but it really is still on topic as this, along with male apathy/inertia, is one of the principle issues with men's rights today.

    Ironically also women's rights, because being seen as the automatic carers has trapped them in a situation where even if they do not want to be mothers, that is all that society will ever ultimately see them as - and act accordingly in employment.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,375 ✭✭✭metrovelvet


    Is this about mens' rights or father's rights or is it that mens's rights movement are solely about fatherhood? I take it then that this would also be about gay mens right to adoption in Ireland too?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    Zulu wrote: »
    Why are we accepting the assertion that 'having a problem with shift work' is a gender issue? It's not.

    we're not accepting it

    cdfm has claimed it is

    i have challenged him on it

    so far he has "answered" by a) making points that are irrelevant to my question and in no way answer it, b) posting some alleged humourous clip and c) claiming he doesnt want to address the issue

    i await attempt d with bated breath :rolleyes:


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    Is this about mens' rights or father's rights or is it that mens's rights movement are solely about fatherhood? I take it then that this would also be about gay mens right to adoption in Ireland too?
    It's about men's rights, of which father's rights are a very visible subset and easy to draw examples from.

    Sexist prejudices acting against men's rights are actually a problem in most if not all of men's rights issues. Domestic violence against men is dismissed largely because of them, as is the legal hypocrisy that does not recognize female on male sexual abuse, or that women are more vulnerable to poverty and men cannot be - leading to little or no state support for men.

    We can discuss all of these areas, but in the context of men's rights, it all comes down to two problems: Male inertia/apathy and sexist prejudice.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Dr Galen wrote: »
    well in fairness Sam is a mod and so by asking you the question and asking you to back it up, I take it to mean that its ok to answer and it won't be seen as an attempt to go OT.

    No actually - I made my point that it is a very contentious area and difficult to discuss without raising emotive issues.

    I was very impressed with McDaids medical explanation and handling of listeners questions was better than anything the HSE did and his reluctant scopeing of Hospital Staffing made me think of him as more of a serious thinker.

    I have two kids and picked up a bit and I did not really want to get into a maternity leave debate because it is only in recent decades that infant & child (& mother) mortality is what it is.
    EDIT: Just as a sidenote, and related to your point CDfm, having worked in the Health Service and done the shifts, the nights and the weekends, I often had an issue wih it tbh. Was a serious pain in my ass. I wasn't alone in that either, a lot of the lads I would have known would have felt similar to weekends especially

    I know there is more than a grain of truth in it.

    Its not mens rights or womens rights either when single childfree people are around I imagine they are put out.

    Thats not dissing female medics - my GP is a woman and I go to her for her expertise and she is around 10 miles away so I travel. I go to her because she is a very very good doctor. I hope that does not sound patronising and do not want to stereotype anyone.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    sam34 wrote: »
    we're not accepting it

    cdfm has claimed it is

    i have challenged him on it

    so far he has "answered" by a) making points that are irrelevant to my question and in no way answer it, b) posting some alleged humourous clip and c) claiming he doesnt want to address the issue

    i await attempt d with bated breath :rolleyes:

    This is one issue relating to absenteeism in the US which suggests it is a gender cutural issue. There is a link to the article based on a US Bureau of Labor Report.

    Female absenteeism is not just about child care
    Why women call in sick more than men is a complex workplace issue

    By Eve Tahmincioglu
    msnbc.com contributor
    updated 1:38 p.m. ET Nov. 5, 2007




    The bad news: Women are still absent nearly twice as often as their male counterparts in the workplace.

    It’s been a perpetual problem: Women tend to call in sick more often than men. But the why — even though you may think you know the answer — isn’t that clear cut, nor should it be................................


    .............................

    Patton and his co-author Gary Johns found that elevated absentee rates for women could not be fully explained by health, family or job issues."

    Instead the researcher postulated that social expectations have created an "absence culture" for women that may be a factor.

    "This absence culture for women may partially legitimize absenteeism for this group and attenuate perceptions of deviance surrounding women’s absence," the researchers said. "At the same time, such an absence culture, regardless of whether it leads to actual higher absenteeism for particular women, may also be harmful to women in other ways.”

    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21547885/

    The article also references other studies

    This article is a UK legal case from a law firm Thompsons more relating to shift work & where a woman sued over unfair dismissal over rostering issues. London Underground has 2000 male and 12 female drivers at the time and the plaintiff wanted to set her own roster.

    Issue 24 (July 1998)
    Contents

    TUPE plus ça change?
    Disability, dismissal and reasonable adjustments
    Payback for back pay?
    Legislating for Fairness at Work
    Beyond recognition
    Single parents and shift work

    Single parents and shift work


    London Underground Limited v Edwards (No.2) Court of Appeal 21 May 1998
    The Court of Appeal has held that London Underground indirectly discriminated against Susan Edwards, a single parent with a young child, when it introduced a shift system which made it impossible for her to continue in her employment and care for her children. In Issue 10 of LELR (Going Underground)we reported the decision of the Employment Appeal Tribunal in this case.

    Susan Edwards worked for London Underground since 1983. She qualified as a train driver in 1987, her baby was born in the same year.

    She was able, by swapping shifts with colleagues, to organise for herself a shift pattern in which she could accommodate her domestic and childcare arrangements. In 1991, London Underground had a re-organisation which involved a new shift work system.

    The tribunal found as a fact that it was necessary for Susan to work during the day because she had sole care of her child and that under the new system it would have been more difficult for her to arrange any exchange of shifts. This would mean that she would have to work longer hours than previously. She was presented with the alternative of either signing an acceptance of the new roster or facing dismissal.

    Susan Edwards' case proves how difficult it is to bring a claim of indirect sex discrimination and succeed. The woman affected, first of all has to prove that her employer applied a 'requirement or condition' which applied equally to a man. Susan Edwards complained of discrimination in the applying of a condition or requirement that made it impossible for her to continue in her employment

    http://www.thompsons.law.co.uk/ltext/l0350006.htm
    .


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    CDfm wrote: »

    This is one issue relating to absenteeism in the US which suggests it is a gender cutural issue. There is a link to the article based on a US Bureau of Labor Report.



    The article also references other studies

    that would be great if we were talking about absenteeism.

    but we're not.

    we're talking about your claim that men "never" have problems with shift work or working weekends


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    sam34 wrote: »
    CDfm wrote: »

    that would be great if we were talking about absenteeism.

    but we're not.

    we're talking about your claim that men "never" have problems with shift work or working weekends

    I know and then Dr Galen grumbled and let the cat out of the bag with

    EDIT: Just as a sidenote, and related to your point CDfm, having worked in the Health Service and done the shifts, the nights and the weekends, I often had an issue wih it tbh. Was a serious pain in my ass. I wasn't alone in that either, a lot of the lads I would have known would have felt similar to weekends especially

    Well that disproved my theory.


    http://www.statcan.gc.ca/daily-quotidien/020725/dq020725b-eng.htm

    Thursday, July 25, 2002
    Shift work and health

    Three out of 10 employed Canadians worked some type of shift in 2000/01. Many shift workers reported problems that ranged from sleep disruption to difficulties with relationships. For most of them, working shift was not a choice, but a requirement of employment.

    For both sexes, an evening shift in 1994/95 was associated with increases in psychological distress over the following two years, according to a new profile of shift workers published in the latest issue of Health reports.

    Men who worked an evening, rotating or irregular shift in 1994/95 had increased odds of having been diagnosed with a chronic condition over a four-year period. For women, a non-standard schedule was not associated with a new diagnosis of chronic conditions during that period.

    In 2000/01, 30% of men and 26% of women aged 18 to 54 who were employed throughout the year had non-standard schedules. About one-quarter of shift workers reported evening or night shifts. Rotating and irregular shifts were reported more frequently, each accounting for about 4 in 10 of these workers.

    Whether they had an evening, rotating or irregular shift, the majority of shift workers had no choice. However, men were more likely than women to say that it was a requirement of the job: 65% of men and 53% of women working an evening shift reported that they had to. In contrast, 11% of women, but just 3% of men, working an evening shift did so because they were caring for family.

    Shift work more common among blue-collar, sales and service workers

    Shift work was more common in blue-collar or sales and service occupations than in white-collar or clerical jobs. People working fewer than 30 hours a week were more likely to have non-standard schedules, as were those who worked on weekends.

    The likelihood of working shift decreased with advancing age, possibly because older workers with seniority have more choice in their hours than do younger, less experienced workers.

    Single or previously married workers were more likely than those who were married to have non-standard schedules.

    Male workers living in households with children were less likely than those in childless households to work shifts. There was no difference for female workers, which may be, in part, because of women's greater tendency to cite caring for family as their reason for shift work.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    you still havent shown anything that backs up your claim, despite 4 or 5 attempts at this stage


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    sam34 wrote: »
    we're talking about your claim that men "never" have problems with shift work or working weekends
    He said men don't have a problem with shift work.. We all understand what he actually means, but you are insistant on taking him literally and are doggedly presuing. Why? To what end?
    So he accepts not all men never have a problem... whoop-di-doo, his salient point stands. So what's your point?

    Some people have an issue with shift work & weekend work, some people don't - it's not a gender issue.

    FFS. This shit wouldn't be tolorated in the ladies lounge... :mad:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    Zulu wrote: »
    He said men don't have a problem with shift work.. We all understand what he actually means, but you are insistant on taking him literally and are doggedly presuing. Why? To what end?
    So he accepts not all men never have a problem... whoop-di-doo, his salient point stands. So what's your point?

    Some people have an issue with shift work & weekend work, some people don't - it's not a gender issue.

    FFS. This shit wouldn't be tolorated in the ladies lounge... :mad:

    its not a gender issue, it never was

    he tried to make it one and then tried to doggedly defend that stance when called up on it

    instead of acknowledging he was wrong, he has made numerous attempts to wriggle around the issue

    if nothing else, its entertaining (to me, i cant speak for others) to watch the wriggling

    and i dont think his salient point (presumably that most men are ok with night shifts and weekend work, whereas most women are not) stands... at least, he hasnt shown any evidence to that effect


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    sam34 wrote: »
    its not a gender issue, it never was
    Then drop it.
    if nothing else, its entertaining (to me, i cant speak for others) to watch the wriggling
    It's tedious to others and destroys the thread.
    and i dont think his salient point (presumably that most men are ok with night shifts and weekend work, whereas most women are not) stands...
    To me, the point was that "most men are ok with night shifts and weekend work". I didn't extrapolate anything else. CDfm can you confirm please? Was you're intention to imply that women were not ok to work shifts & weekends?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    Zulu wrote: »
    Then drop it.
    It's tedious to others and destroys the thread.
    To me, the point was that "most men are ok with night shifts and weekend work". I didn't extrapolate anything else. CDfm can you confirm please? Was you're intention to imply that women were not ok to work shifts & weekends?

    a) no back seat modding please

    b)if you dont want to read my posts, put me on ignore

    c) i'm trying to get cdfm to agree its not a gender issue, or else to provide evidence which shows it is

    d) the point toi me appeared double pronged, that men are happy to do nights/weekends and that women arent so you need to train men to cover those shifts

    e) i'm now heading out for the evening... i doubt the evidence i'm looking for will be here on my return


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