Would you date someone with a kid?

mud · 05-01-2010 11:27PM

I'm not sure to be honest.

I think having a kid with someone creates a massive bond between people; regardless of why they're not together anymore, they still share this amazing experience that resulted in their child.

I think it would be hard for me to accept all the baggage that would come with the situation.

In saying that though, if I felt that spark with a guy who happens to have a kid who knows how I'd feel about it then?

wolfpawnat · 05-01-2010 11:28PM

Stee wrote: »

Absolutely. Need to gauge threesome possibilities.

There is always one!:rolleyes:

Gaspode wrote: »

Would and did date single mums, and married one in the end. Best thing I ever did.
Wife and son package deal, cant resist a bargain!

Haha, I never thought of it like that!!!!:D

Ms. Captain M · 05-01-2010 11:36PM

Single with a kid, following this with interest... Seems all is not lost!

wolfpawnat · 05-01-2010 11:41PM

Ms. Captain M wrote: »

Single with a kid, following this with interest... Seems all is not lost!

Well I was talking to my friend who is single with a son, heartbroken that she wouldn't find a decent fella. I am an unmarried mum too and I wondered it myself so I said I would put it out there and see what people thought

Ms. Captain M · 06-01-2010 12:02AM

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Well I was talking to my friend who is single with a son, heartbroken that she wouldn't find a decent fella. I am an unmarried mum too and I wondered it myself so I said I would put it out there and see what people thought

Haven't had a serious relationship in about 7 years. Have 'casually dated' I suppose you could say, and didn't seem to matter to those men that I have a son. But I can't say it wouldn't have been an issue for them further down the line

wolfpawnat · 06-01-2010 12:04AM

Ms. Captain M wrote: »

Haven't had a serious relationship in about 7 years. Have 'casually dated' I suppose you could say, and didn't seem to matter to those men that I have a son. But I can't say it wouldn't have been an issue for them further down the line

Well I am not too bothered about getting a fella. It's just in a few years if I decide that I might want to settle down and get married, will I get a decent man that will accept the 2 of us!

bonerm · 06-01-2010 12:08AM

Fair play to fellas who can accept another womans kid(s). I think I'd only be able to think of them as some other chancers cast-offs and I know certainly wouldn't love them as much as my own. That's why I wouldn't want to go down that road in the first place.

brummytom · 06-01-2010 12:09AM

I'd go for the kid

Agent J · 06-01-2010 12:10AM

Would consider it and give it a chance but long term possibility would probably be affected.

However on the upside, if they were really worth it then that wouldnt matter.

Ms. Captain M · 06-01-2010 12:16AM

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Well I am not too bothered about getting a fella. It's just in a few years if I decide that I might want to settle down and get married, will I get a decent man that will accept the 2 of us!

Have no interest in settling down or even having a boyfriend, and i'm 30! But yes, I would date someone with a kid. Wouldn't be an issue for me, but can totally see why it would be for some. (This site got blocked at work and just figured out how to use it on my phone, wahoo. But apologies for no paragraphs)

admiralofthefleet · 06-01-2010 12:18AM

brummytom wrote: »

I'd go for the kid

bit old for you though:p

Aidric · 06-01-2010 12:20AM

Not an issue for me. After college I dated a girl for a year who had a 2 year old kid. It didn't impinge much on our relationship.

gidget · 06-01-2010 12:39AM

Haven't been in that situation yet but I'd have no problem with dating a guy with a kid at all. If it was a relationship that is going well and we are looking long term, i'd also be vigilant about just how involved and interested he is in his kid. If he's no interest in the child and brushes off his responsiblities i'd wouldn't see myself sticking with him for too long.

Four-Percent · 06-01-2010 12:41AM

Archimedes wrote: »

I dont see why not, but rest assured if the kid were to cockblock me, I would not hesitate to punch it in the side of the head.

Or kick it in the face hopefully.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater · 06-01-2010 12:46AM

No problem. As long as the kid wasn't a little brat, I'd never let it put me off a girl I really liked.

muppetkiller · 06-01-2010 12:52AM

I wouldn't see any problem with seeing a girl with a kid. But not if the kid was over 10 and only one kid. I think it's more that it wouldn't suit my lifestyle more than anything else.

chopperbyrne · 06-01-2010 12:55AM

My girlfriend has a son. She was very upfront about it and it didn't put me off at all.

I'm currently setting him up for lifetime of supporting Shamrock Rovers.

He's already wearing the jersey

Bottle_of_Smoke · 06-01-2010 03:30AM

She'd have to really impress me, love at first conversation kind of thing. Even still I think it would be too much grief. Meeting the father, meeting the paternal grandparents, diminishing time and funds I can invest in my own genepool, sounds like a nightmare. Other major risk is that in a few years I want kids and she isn't bothered because she already has one.

However if I was a single parent too I think it would be easier. Would feel like her family and child's family would accept me more and I wouldn't be the only one going through that nonsense, as well as being on an even level regarding genepool.

starbelgrade · 06-01-2010 03:31AM

Depends on how hot the kid is.

wolfpawnat · 06-01-2010 11:22AM

I am actually quite surpirsed so many people are open minded. From what I saw around home, not many fellas would, then again their mammys would think I would be after the family farm with a bit of road frontage!

BraziliaNZ · 06-01-2010 11:27AM

no way, don't like kids, especially some other bloke's kid. Maybe if I was older though it would be different.

CreepingDeath · 06-01-2010 11:45AM

I always liked Billy Connollys quote...

"Kids are like farts, you don't mind your own but can't stand anyone elses".

OutlawPete · 06-01-2010 12:06PM

stovelid wrote: »

Where's the option for pretending to like the kid until you get into her pants?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW95YIpC6Rw

06-01-2010 12:08PM

wolfpawnat wrote: »

I am actually quite surpirsed so many people are open minded. From what I saw around home, not many fellas would, then again their mammys would think I would be after the family farm with a bit of road frontage!

Its different on after hours everyone knows this is the a dublin forum and we have no farms for you to rob

piby · 06-01-2010 01:08PM

Well I'm 22 now so in all honestly no I like my damn freedom too much!! But if I was a couple of years older and I really liked the girl than I don't think it would be a problem.

staker · 06-01-2010 01:16PM

Some guys jump at the chance of a ready made family.
They probably have their own reasons, as well as fancying the lass!!
I'd not be bothered, just as long as they weren't little brats...

Voodu Child · 06-01-2010 01:20PM

I have done and her child wasnt an issue. I think you'd miss out on a lot in life if you made hard and fast rules about who you will/won't date.

Shivers26 · 06-01-2010 01:53PM

I have 2 kids. I am just out of a 5 year relationship. Im sure you can imagine the whole dating game is a barrel of fun for me!

I had 1 child when I got involved in that relationship and it was never a problem for him. We ended up having a child together, he cheated on me (very recently) and fecked off.

In answer to the question, yes, I would consider dating someone who had a child.

oppenheimer1 · 06-01-2010 02:14PM

chopperbyrne wrote: »

My girlfriend has a son. She was very upfront about it and it didn't put me off at all.

I'm currently setting him up for lifetime of supporting Shamrock Rovers.

He's already wearing the jersey

why would you be so cruel?

ryoishin · 06-01-2010 02:51PM

Im seeing a girl with a kid. Have nt met him yet might be later on, so if anyone has any tips!

But cant see the kid being a problem but the daddy might.

Would you date someone with a kid?

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