Why are most straight men seemingly repulsed with the thought of kissing another man?

Because first off, if you brought home a women, you expect that they have female genitles, if I bring home a cake...I expect it to be edible. If I brought home a women who said she was a caring soul and loved children, but turned out to be a murdering child molester...I would be enraged too... If they didnt mention the whole penis thing earlier in the night, who knows what else they failed to mention

As for being repulsed by gay people, I would have to agree, it would probally end in violence but you have to look at the type of approach. If a gay guy came up to me in a bar and said in my ear "Hi im Bruno etcetc" I would softly say no thanks im not interested, as would any of my friends. If he came up on the dance floor and started to bump and grind against me...yes it would end in violence. I dont think its so much about the sexuality, but more the personal space that the person has chosen to invade.

I often see women hit men on the dance floor for similar stunts and its greated by a jolly oul laugh by the lad and his friends and socially acceptable nearly (actions by both parties). If a man was to do this to another man and it ended in violence we would get the onlookers talking about our homophobic society blah blah.

I'd wager that most of us would shake our heads at the thought of kissing another bloke because it's not natural for a straight bloke to do so. I wouldn't bat an eyelid if two women were to kiss each other, double standards perhaps or just that it's socially acceptable for two women to be seen kissing each other.

Im all for gay rights and all but I cant help being repulsed by the sight of 2 men kissing- its not a conscious decision its just a gut reaction.

I find it absolutely rank, totally support their right to do it but still cant watch it, sorry.

It's hard to know how i would react but i think if the transexual ( assuming we are talking about transexuals rather than actual tranvestites ) was attractive enough for me to kiss in the first place then i wouldn't be repulsed enough to get violent. I'd be far more repulsed if i woke up next to KD Lang.

To a large extent, it's an asthetics thing with me.

L31mr0d wrote: »

Question out of interest, of the people who would be repulsed at 2 men kissing how many of you would be comfortable kissing your father on the cheek to say hello or goodbye?

Id be fine with the latter, but id be repulsed by the former.

I am however repulsed by men-women kissing in public a little provocativly, especially when its on public transport like the luas and they are wedged against you. However, yes I do find a normal kiss from a gay couple a little weirder.

I rarely see other women hitting men on nights out.
However, the relative force with which your average woman can deliver a slap. Doesnt compare to the violence of a beating.
It is a physical statement rather than an attempt to cause

I see it very often, I dont mean full force slaps but merely "acceptable slaps" or kinda punches to the chest.

And yes, they are different levels of violence, but neither should be acceptable, it is after all violence.Though the behaviour of the guy is sometimes unacceptable alot of the time too and deserves it.

It's drummed into them from a young age to be repulsed by it all.
All thanks to the adults around them.

The amount of times in national school you hear a kid shouting "uuuggghh you're GAY", like it's the most disgusting thing in the world.
They don't even know what he means half the time! They just see their parents reactions towards the subject and end up repeating it.

Not actually repulsed in the slightest, just don't see any appeal at all...why would I want to kiss a man?
No problem with guys kissing, either, been hit on by guys, it's a little off putting at first, but once you get the message through you're fine...
Violence = bad.

Yeah I have to agree Monkey61, I know lots of guys who have snogged other guys and are totally straight!I also know that girls kiss their own mates too!

Sure why not......its something everyone thinks about at some stage in their lives although they wont admit it!

axer wrote: »

It is very possible that being repulsed by two men kissing is a product of evolution.

I believe there is still no conclusive evidence to say that kissing is instinctual rather than learned.

I would personally disagree with the idea that being repulsed by two men kissing is a product of evolution on the basis that you can learn to not be repulsed by it, a person can be taught from childhood to not find a relationship between two men repulsive. A matter which is instinctual, such as my attraction to females, is something I could never of been taught to not have.

The correlation between kissing and sex is also learned imo. You can be thought to see a kiss as nothing more than a display of affection, such as a hug, or holding hands, all of which don't have to intimate sex.

Two men kissing symbolizes nothing more for me than a reassuring action to confirm affection between two people.

Mostly because of sexual peruasion, it is the same with many gay men, straight women and gay women finding the idea of kissing outside of their preference distasteful.

Monkey61 wrote: »

I think it depends on the circles that you hang around in though. Most of the lads I know would have kissed other lads just for the craic when we were all around the 16-18 mark and everyone in the mixed friendship group was kissing everyone else. All are totally straight and completely comfortable with their sexuality.

A lot of lads I have met over the last few years as well from outside my main circle of friends would have done the same thing.

Weirdly, I was talking to my friend about her new boyfriend a while ago, who went to boarding school, where it was totally normal for lads to be experimenting with each other during the young teen years and none of them thought anything of it. He even thought that it was much more socially acceptable for guys to be experimenting with the opposite sex rather than for girls to be doing it - which is the opposite of what mainstream society seems to portray these days.

So really I just think people's opinions about what it is okay to be comfortable with are very much shaped by their peers.

Where do you live? :eek:

Round these parts I've never heard of straight lads experimenting with other straight lads. Any who have are openly gay now!

There is one dude I know who is straight but doesn't have a problem snogging the face off some lad.
Only thing is he mostly does it without the other lads permission and for attention which does lead to violence/near violence...but he has issues and needs to cop himself on.

Two other straight lads I know went on stage in the pub and snogged the faces off each other as part of a challenge to get free shots!! They didn't think anything off it. They wanted free booze!
Most of the people in the pub were cheering them on but I could see alot of looks of disgust.

I've no problem seeing two girls kissing, I've few lesbian friends, it's no big deal. But other female friends of mine are utterly replused by it. Nothing I can say will make them change their views on the matter.

I fervently hope that I'm not in a minority here when I say that seeing same sex couples is perfectly acceptable to me.
And I also hope that I'm not alone in being repulsed at the amount of violence that is being bandied around in this thread. Threatening violence because two people kiss - who's the misfit there?