Women checking me out when I am with my gf.

greengiant09 · 28-06-2009 06:10PM #1

Ok, this might sound weird but i'm dying to see if anybody else agrees with what i'm saying. Basically, i have found that i get a lot more looks and smiles of interest from women when i am out with my gf. For example, i was walking down the street the other day with my new girlfriend and a bunch of girls walking by were checking me out and throwing a smile at me.

Now, normally, this would rarely happen. As in, if i was walking alone or out on my own but i really think that women find me more attractive simply because i have a girl on my arm.

Am i am going mad or have other lads experienced this???....its kind of frustrating because i'd rather they'd have done this when i was single and i could have done something about it!!!!

Latchy · 28-06-2009 06:15PM

Lots of girls look at and check guys with or without a girl on their arm ,just as guys do to .Dont you ?

Your just another one OP .

Astrogeek · 28-06-2009 06:21PM

Could it be possible the women are looking at the two of you thinking you make a cute couple?
Or an insecure, how does she get a boyfriend when I'm single? etc etc

albetty31 · 28-06-2009 06:21PM

god yeah id check out a guy with gf quicker than single guy.ego kick if he looks back even tho hes 'taken'....women r bitches..;)

Skapoot · 28-06-2009 06:26PM

Age old routine where you're invisible until someone goes out with you. then all the others realise that you might actually be a catch!

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup · 28-06-2009 06:35PM

standard women thinking, they see you with a women and think if she puts up with him, he must be alright.

Wagon · 28-06-2009 06:40PM

I've gotten that many times myself when with a girlfriend and nothing at all when im on my own. It's just stupid women thinking.

pookie82 · 28-06-2009 06:43PM

Probably just coincidence to be honest. Or maybe you're more aware of glances when you're out with your GF as you're more conscious she may pick up on them?

I know some women may do it to get a rise out of your GF but that's pretty pathetic and I would hope they'd be few and far between. If i saw a hot guy I'd be far less inclined to stare if his GF was there too because a) it's rude and b) it's embarrassing on my part. She'd be thinking "look all you want, he ain't going anywhere".

You're obviously a good looking guy so take it as a compliment and let that be that!

28-06-2009 06:43PM

Maybe you give off sleazy creepy try hard vibes when your single.
And relaxed focusing on new girlfriend you is more approachable?

Or maybe the are actually looking at your girlfriends shoes, and the smile is to take the bad luck off being caught out.

SarahSassy · 28-06-2009 07:06PM

Men are gas... As soon as you look within 30 degrees of them they think you are checking them out....

Obviously if you see them looking at you then you are looking at them... Maybe she is being polite cos you are looking at her?

TaxiManMartin · 28-06-2009 07:15PM

When you sneak a look at a girl and are on your own, if they catch you they think you are being creepy.

If you are with someone they see less of the creepy and more of the i must know him if hes looking at me like that. Better smile in case he thinks im being ignorant.

Thats what my sisters told me anyway when i said the very same thing as the op once.

SarahSassy · 28-06-2009 07:17PM

TaxiManMartin wrote: »

When you sneak a look at a girl and are on your own, if they catch you they think you are being creepy.

If you are with someone they see less of the creepy and more of the i must know him if hes looking at me like that. Better smile in case he thinks im being ignorant.

Thats what my sisters told me anyway when i said the very same thing as the op once.

+1

Greenmachine · 28-06-2009 07:48PM

Word it is so true. Even spending some time with female friends results in strange girls trying to make your acquintance.

BumbleB · 28-06-2009 10:54PM

greengiant09 wrote: »

Ok, this might sound weird but i'm dying to see if anybody else agrees with what i'm saying. Basically, i have found that i get a lot more looks and smiles of interest from women when i am out with my gf. For example, i was walking down the street the other day with my new girlfriend and a bunch of girls walking by were checking me out and throwing a smile at me.

Now, normally, this would rarely happen. As in, if i was walking alone or out on my own but i really think that women find me more attractive simply because i have a girl on my arm.

Am i am going mad or have other lads experienced this???....its kind of frustrating because i'd rather they'd have done this when i was single and i could have done something about it!!!!

Just the way women are , if women see you with another woman they see you as a "catch" .your status is raised in their eyes. Same in nightclubs ,if you go to a nightclub and start chatting to an attractive girl even for 10 mins you will have a much better chance of meeting someone.

Same on the dancefloor as well, if a few girls take notice of you and move into your space dancing beside you and glancing that will be picked up by other women in the area its called social proof.

G-Money · 28-06-2009 11:47PM

I'd love to know what the story is with that dance floor situation. Anytime I go out dancing I always go to the least populated part of the dance floor so that:

1. I've plenty of room to move around.
2. Girls won't think I'm some sleazy guy who will slide up behind them and try to dry hump them.

However I've noticed quite often that not so long after I go out dancing I almost always end up surrounded by girls. I'm not being big headed and if you were to see me, you'd know I'm no stud. Just wondering if it's co-incidence or maybe something more interesting...

beks101 · 29-06-2009 12:03AM

I will admit to doing this, albeit subtly.

I'd agree with what others said, it's definitely a status thing. Having a girl on your arm definitely 'puts you on the map' so to speak...even though obviously technically speaking you are off limits, the fact that you've got one lady so keenly interested means you are a bit of a catch

For the most part it's meaningless, we're just doing it in the same way some of us will check out the suited and booted men, or the doting fathers...superficial, but it's got to be a bit of a confidence boost nonetheless! Enjoy!

BumbleB · 29-06-2009 12:50AM

grandmaster wrote: »

I'd love to know what the story is with that dance floor situation. Anytime I go out dancing I always go to the least populated part of the dance floor so that:

1. I've plenty of room to move around.
2. Girls won't think I'm some sleazy guy who will slide up behind them and try to dry hump them.

However I've noticed quite often that not so long after I go out dancing I almost always end up surrounded by girls. I'm not being big headed and if you were to see me, you'd know I'm no stud. Just wondering if it's co-incidence or maybe something more interesting...

I do the same in fact ,I usually go on completely empty dancefloors and not long later there will be girls on the dancefloor. I'm not being big headed just I've observed it too many times to be a coincidence.

You could be a good dancer.You could be a pleasant happy person lookin like your having a good time.

Next time on the dancefloor and every time pay more attention. Watch to see if the group is closed or open.Observe a little and you'll soon start to pick up the cues.

Any girl who puts on a show with her friend etc in front of you is usually not worth your time.

Tar.Aldarion · 29-06-2009 03:07AM

I think people try less, and are more themselves when they have a gf. Women might pick up on that, might see somebody being nice to their girlfriend. I don't know?
I have however experieced at least a similar feeling as to you op And notice more girls look your way witht he missus than without. But for all I know they could be thinking, how did he get her.

Front · 29-06-2009 11:06AM

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

I think people try less, and are more themselves when they have a gf. Women might pick up on that, might see somebody being nice to their girlfriend. I don't know?
I have however experieced at least a similar feeling as to you op And notice more girls look your way witht he missus than without. But for all I know they could be thinking, how did he get her.

On a slight tangent, even when out without the missus - I tend to get way more female attention than when I was single. Must be the fact that there's single men lurking everywhere desparatly trying to get into anything that moves and women are more interested in what is not interested in getting into them. Is this the case?

b3t4 · 29-06-2009 11:31AM

This is going to sound daft but I will check out a guy with a girlfriend more than a single guy as I know that the guy is taken and will not try and chat me up. It's takes the pressure off having a glance.

Also, I like observing how other people are in relationships. I'm trying to spot the newbie couples who're all loved up. The ones where their body language screams they've just had a fight. The older ones who still hold hands. It always makes me smile.

A.

wexford202 · 29-06-2009 11:34AM

Guys Guys Guys

Ye are being so silly.

Of course we all want you when you are with someone else. Forbidden fruit tastes sweeter.

We are bitches as a race and when we get ye as it is always a matter of when we get great satisfaction out of saying. I pulled hime. I am better than her.

Not me of course I am a saint.

lala stone · 29-06-2009 11:39AM

they were in a group.. so it was prob a bit of banter, ur more confident and its a laugh

LegacyUser · 29-06-2009 11:50AM

OK, There are some women here saying that we only want men who are taken because we are all bitches...speak for yourself ladies!!!
Yes, there are a proportion of women like that but also I would largely agree with those who say that people (men or women) who are in a happy relationship give off a vibe of naturalness and ease because they are not trying to impress.
Have you ever noticed that you get way more attention the nights you don't get all dressed up, for example when you end up in the pub without having planned for it.
Also, especially when you have just broken up with someone and you are heartbroken. I have gotten so much male attention when just out of relationships and the last thing I want is someone new.
Remember also OP, that if you are noticing these girls looking at you , you are probably looking at them also. the more you notice it the more you are looking for it, and therefore the more it happens.

Eve_Dublin · 29-06-2009 11:58AM

I would agree with what the ladies are saying here about a man's appeal rising with a girl on his arm but I'd try not to make it obvious, just a quick glance (I don't even realise I'm doing it) so the girl doesn't think I'm trying to "steal her man" Jerry Springer style. I'd agree with the poster that I'm a big people-watcher and I like to see how other couples interact in comparison to my own. You can always spot the ones who've just had a blazing row minutes before and those who are all loved-up. Canoodling couples make me feel ill when I'm single and I avoid them like the plague but when I'm in one myself, I smile to myself...and couples with children get me every time but that must be something to do with my age and being as broody as hell recently! Just basic human curiosity and reactions, I suppose. Take it as a compliment.

Out of curiosity...does the same apply for women? Are women more appealing when they're with a man?

Front · 29-06-2009 12:36PM

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

I would agree with what the ladies are saying here about a man's appeal rising with a girl on his arm but I'd try not to make it obvious, just a quick glance (I don't even realise I'm doing it) so the girl doesn't think I'm trying to "steal her man" Jerry Springer style. I'd agree with the poster that I'm a big people-watcher and I like to see how other couples interact in comparison to my own. You can always spot the ones who've just had a blazing row minutes before and those who are all loved-up. Canoodling couples make me feel ill when I'm single and I avoid them like the plague but when I'm in one myself, I smile to myself...and couples with children get me every time but that must be something to do with my age and being as broody as hell recently! Just basic human curiosity and reactions, I suppose. Take it as a compliment.

Out of curiosity...does the same apply for women? Are women more appealing when they're with a man?

If the man is there, they are not appealing at all. I personally wouldn't bother even throwing them the eye why? cos you've no chance. If the bf is not there, I don't find a girl more appealing because she's taken, it wouldn't make a difference to me trying it on if I was singe, I would go for it anyway. But whether she has a bloke or not doesn't add/subtract from the girl.

Funnily enough if I succeeded in getting with a taken girl I would be immediatly be put off pursuing her beyond the night out.

MadgeBadge · 29-06-2009 01:18PM

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

I think people try less, and are more themselves when they have a gf.

Most of the guys I've found myself attracted to as of late I have later found out have girlfriend. I think they must emit a sort of 'I'm taken, I'm not trying to sleaze onto you confidence' that I dig.

I suppose I found it easier to talk to folk when I was going out with someone, because no one could accuse me of cracking onto them. Where as now I'd be a little more reserved, because the of large neon 'single and searching' sign over my head. :rolleyes:

entropi · 29-06-2009 06:11PM

Nothing to worry about OP, they are checking you out because you look more appealing to them as you are attached to another woman.

And that dancefloor thing, i've noticed it a few times while out on the dancefloor...i'm not saying i'm a brilliant dancer i've got SOME moves, but maybe because i go out to have a good time and not crack onto every female in the place:P

Its all about confidence lol.

Victor · 29-06-2009 06:29PM

No woman wants what no woman wants.

G-Money · 02-07-2009 06:58PM

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Out of curiosity...does the same apply for women? Are women more appealing when they're with a man?

To be blunt, they are not appealing at all. For me, once I see that a woman has a bf, or is married, it's like they become completely invisible to me. Same goes if they are pregnant or have children. Sorry, I know it's not very polite but it's the truth.

I can't speak for any other guys though.

CathyMoran · 02-07-2009 07:20PM

When I see a cute couple and I am not with my husband I will look, do not get me wrong, but it is more because I am imagining the time when I can get back to my husband or if I see the guy behaving well to his girlfriend I will just think to myself that it is cute...maybe that is shallow but that is what I think...

OP - a girl could be looking at you for numerous reasons, do not assume that she is checking you out!

Victor · 02-07-2009 08:22PM

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Out of curiosity...does the same apply for women? Are women more appealing when they're with a man?

Without wanting to get sidetracked.

1. A friend's wives, girlfriends, etc. are completely off limits for a lot of guys. They wouldn't normally think once, never mind twice.
2. Many of the most attractive (not the same as pretty) women are already taken. Finding out they are in a relationship is a source of great disappointment. You do the decent thing, talk to her, be polite, get to know her and then when you ask her for coffee she either waves a wedding ring at you or asks you what her boyfriend would think. It can be difficult to not try it on with these women.
3. Random woman with a guy. May be a fleeting fantasy, but nothing more.

Women checking me out when I am with my gf.

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