Fate - Does it exist? Is there someone out there that is meant for a specific person?

nicegirl · 15-05-2009 11:39PM #1

Ok, I don't know if this is a ridiculously stupid question, but does anyone believe in "Whats for you won't pass you by" Is there someone out there you are meant to be with, but haven't yet met, or you will meet?

Am I being silly with this "fate" business??

docdolittle · 15-05-2009 11:49PM

nicegirl wrote: »

Ok, I don't know if this is a ridiculously stupid question, but does anyone believe in "Whats for you won't pass you by" Is there someone out there you are meant to be with, but haven't yet met, or you will meet?

Am I being silly with this "fate" business??

I don't personally think there is "fate" :rolleyes: I think you make or loose your own opportunities in life. I don't like to think anyones life is kind of pre-determined and things are just set out to happen already. Otherwise fate really screws some people over

dudara · 15-05-2009 11:51PM

My personal opinion is a mixture of yes and no. I don't know if there is such a thing as fate, but sometimes things happen that seem fated. However, it's up to you to grab the opportunity and make it work for you.

So, in short, if you see something good, go for it. Fate might not give you a second chance.

AARRRGH · 15-05-2009 11:58PM

There are probably one million people who would be perfect for you, and a few hundred million people you'd be happy with.

There isn't "the one", there is "the millions".

OneArt · 15-05-2009 11:58PM

There is definitely someone out there for a specific person.

Provided you live in Mickey Mouse Disney world or something.

nicegirl · 16-05-2009 12:00AM

"Whats for you won't pass you by" has held a question mark over my head anyways??
Older people and relatives I know have all told me this saying, but I don't think I believe it, maybe its because I haven't met the right person for me yet. I don't know. I loved some men in the past but it never amounted to anything, and after all I have gone through, I'm really not sure I believe in Fate. Anyone else any opinions on this, cos I'm still scratching my head??

OneArt · 16-05-2009 12:07AM

nicegirl wrote: »

"Whats for you won't pass you by" has held a question mark over my head anyways??
Older people and relatives I know have all told me this saying, but I don't think I believe it, maybe its because I haven't met the right person for me yet. I don't know. I loved some men in the past but it never amounted to anything, and after all I have gone through, I'm really not sure I believe in Fate. Anyone else any opinions on this, cos I'm still scratching my head??

Maybe its fated for you to be alone?

nicegirl · 16-05-2009 12:17AM

I know that you don't know me at all, but that kind of hurt, I have to say. I am very happy to say I am the most honest, most genuine girl anyone could meet, I am not fake, an dont bi*ch I have just had some hard luck with lads.. I am not ugly or overweight, and am a size 8, and am not full of myself at all, like most girls....

But seriously, "Fate" I really don't think I believe in it at all, or maybe I have just met alot of gits in my time... or am just sick of meeting gits, I don't know....any ladies opinions ?:)

c-note · 16-05-2009 12:17AM

fate is an idea i toyed with in my teens, while getting to grips with the world. it affords itself some security, the notion that there is some inevitable reward awating, which makes short term failures tolerable.

as i grew older my faith in fate wained. the truth, in as far as i can attest, is that opportuinities will always present themselves. the opportunities taken and denied will map the course of your life.

one scene from a movie spring to life.
remeber dumb and dumber. when the adventure draws to a close and our two misfit heroes walk down the road wondering what could have been, sure in their faith that one of theese days life will cut them some slack:

cue a bus load of bikini models looking for some willing men to oil them up before each show. and what do our guys do.... point them in the direction fo the nearest town and say "boy, they're gonna be some lucky guys"....

fate's alot like that, but most of the time the opportunities arnt so obvious... one things for sure. if you decline every opportunity, you're in for a miserable time!!

nicegirl · 16-05-2009 01:17AM

I don't and I wouldn't decline every opportunity given to me. I have gone out with lads I was strongly attracted to, but it didn't always work out, and a part of me will always have a part of them with me.
I am not a completely fussy girl, but I do try to find a certain kind of man... I just think and believe fate dosn't exist.... that a person was meant to meet a certain person at a certain time in their life, I think its a load of crap..... how in the name of God can you meet or where you were meant to meet that person you were meant to be with...?????

Mulan · 16-05-2009 06:24AM

Believe nicegirl. Believe.

" When one door of happiness closes, another opens: but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us" Helen Keller

Good luck.

dlofnep · 16-05-2009 06:34AM

Life is what you make it. Fate doesn't exist, but is merely something people can paddle around with while dreaming about what could be. Don't dream, do!

Affable · 16-05-2009 06:49AM

nicegirl wrote: »

Ok, I don't know if this is a ridiculously stupid question, but does anyone believe in "Whats for you won't pass you by" Is there someone out there you are meant to be with, but haven't yet met, or you will meet?

Am I being silly with this "fate" business??

I don't know if there's someone you are 'meant' to be with, I think different people strike you in interesting and different ways, and you could have a good life with loads of different people. But I think you can certainly meet someone you feel a strong connection to instantly, sometimes to a level that is too close for comfort in fact. A healthy difference is good IMO, provided you get on good.

SarahMc · 16-05-2009 09:11AM

nicegirl wrote: »

I know that you don't know me at all, but that kind of hurt, I have to say. I am very happy to say I am the most honest, most genuine girl anyone could meet, I am not fake, an dont bi*ch I have just had some hard luck with lads.. I am not ugly or overweight, and am a size 8, and am not full of myself at all, like most girls....

Why were you hurt by this? Being single is not the worst thing in the world. It is so important to be happy with yourself, and in your own skin, embracing independence and freedom. You are not some sort of reject just because you are not in a relationship.

A good relationship is a bonus in life, not a prerequisite to happiness or fulfilment.

Taltos · 16-05-2009 09:48AM

I think there are many opportunities - and the one you end up with - well if you are a romantic you can see them as being the one.

Truth is somewhere in between.

If you keep meeting gits maybe you need to address why this is?
Yes there are loads of gits out there but there are also some really nice people too. Try to meet different people / by different methods. Maybe try to not focus so much on meeting someone or meeting "The One", instead focus on making new friends and exploring who you are. When the time is right it will happen.

Sorry if 2nd didn't turn out as you hoped.

T.

Fate - Does it exist? Is there someone out there that is meant for a specific person?

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