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Having to Make Life Changing Decisions

  • 14-05-2009 12:43PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭


    Howdee,

    I've been mulling over some big decisions lately. In reality, it's been going on for almost a year and it goes something like this:

    Stayed in a certain city in Ire, because I was going out with someone. I took a job I was not really into, but it was fine, and a job was a job.

    Broke up in the meantime, and there's a small issue of a house. Initially I thought, I'll wait till it's sorted (rented out or whatever..) then move out of this place. I only stayed because I was with her. Now, there's no guarantees I will get a job elsewhere or abroad. I would love to live abroad, and have done before, and have always had it in my mind since I came back to Ireland. Some people say "go for it! Go abroad. you'll get a job in bar to keep you going..". 10 yrs ago, I would have done that, but I'd rather try and get a "real job". I'm 32.

    So that's my first one. A mate of mine is on about going to Canada, but last thing I want to do is go there and not have a job and have to come back, and then try for one in Europe somewhere...

    Second one is the house. Seems I'm in a place where I either wait for the ex to get her s**t together, or cut my losses and move on... It's a hard one to make...

    I'm at a loss. It's like I'm just biding my time the last year or so, and while I'm lucky to have a job and my health, I feel like I'm letting life pass me by, or my quality of life is bad because I know I would be happy not where I am....

    I'm so tempted to just get on a plane....


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Set yourself some targets.

    List out what you weant ot happen with the house and speak to ex about it firmly.

    Look up some jobs here and abroad and see if any of them are what you would like to do. If you find something that interests you make a plan and go for it.

    Dont just get on a plane with no plans (it sounds like this has gotten you were you are at the moment).

    Decide what is right for you and what feels best and then go for it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I've been applying for jobs abroad and around Ireland, but so far , no luck. One question I've asked myself is: If there wasn't any house involved, what would you do and where would you go?

    I suppose it's always a big risk to take to land somewhere and try to find a job but maybe it's a risk I would have to take to just get on with stuff.

    I mean, I can set a deadline, and say "ok, we have to have this house sorted by ____". I'd probably move in with some mates in the same town, but I'd be just moving from one part of a city I don't want to be in, to another part....

    I haven't been seeing anyone else since I broke up, not that I want to really for the moment, but I don't think I'm even in a position to do that much..


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