Bloody women

LegacyUser · 08-05-2009 04:54AM #1

Right here's the deal. I have two female friends. I've known one for a couple of years and the other for about 6 weeks. These two girls are very good friends with each other and have been for years. They are two totally different types of girl. Girl A is flirty in a cute nothing will happen kind of way, dresses nice, knows her drink limit etc. Girl B is loud, in your face and not the kind of girl you would bring home to meet you mother and has more conquests than the average bear (its her life and she can live it whatever way she wants) and flirts in a way that would leave you gagging for her. I talk to both on the phone every other day, be it chatting or texting and i have a good laugh with both of them and consider both of them close friends. Girl A doesn't like the way girl B acts when we are all out on the town, fair enough.
The comes tonight...

We are all out for my birthday and we all have a good skinfull. I'm outside talking to girl A and she tells me that she is pissed off with girl B kissing,sleeping with every fella she has been with or is interested in.

Later that night me and girl B end up having a quick kiss (nice but quick). Meant nothing to me in the slightest. As far as i am concerned i was in the wrong place at the wrong time and it could have been any fella she kissed. Girl A sees us kissing and flips out and gives me hell for the rest of the night and keeps saying to me ' Do you not remember what i told you earlier' So that gets me thinking, does girl A like me more than a friend. Then in my own special way of fcuking things up i tell girl A that i have feelings for her and have done for a long time. she tells me she doesn't have those feelings for me. Ok fair play i'm old enough to be able to handle someone not having the same feelings for me. So i think no more of it.

Then a few of us end up back in girl A's house and she starts again about me not remembering what she said to me earlier in the night, to the point that i wanted to leave.

Now i'm an intelligent kinda fella and the only conclusion i can come to is that girl A is jealous that i kissed girl B but wont admit it. Am i wrong or what? This has me totally baffled.

Does she like me but doesn't want anything to do with me because i kissed her friend. How was i supposed to know she liked me? I dont feel i did anything wrong. I'm single and have no ties to anyone so i can kiss who i like. What do i do now? I thought women had done all the could do to confuse me but this one has me stumped.

Taltos · 08-05-2009 08:03AM

Could just be she likes you but not in that way and does not want to see you hurt by girl B.
Sometimes the simple explanations are all it is.

blaz · 08-05-2009 08:17AM

Totally Baffled wrote: »

Now i'm an intelligent kinda fella and the only conclusion i can come to is that girl A is jealous that i kissed girl B but wont admit it. Am i wrong or what? This has me totally baffled.

Typical cat fight, have seen this happen more than a couple of times myself. I'd say both are attention whores, but none of them have a romantic interest in you (they "just want to be friends").

When you pay too much attention to girl B, girl A gets jealous. If you would pay too much attention to girl A, girl B would get jealous. They they both just want their egos stroked (i.e. show that they are still "wanted").

The best solution is to find girl C that actually likes you and make HER strike YOUR ego.

prinz · 08-05-2009 08:22AM

blaz wrote: »

Typical cat fight, have seen this happen more than a couple of times myself. I'd say both are attention whores, but none of them have a romantic interest in you (they "just want to be friends").

When you pay too much attention to girl B, girl A gets jealous. If you would pay too much attention to girl A, girl B would get jealous. They they both just want their egos stroked (i.e. show that they are still "wanted").

Have to say agree with that. And in fairness it's not confined to women, I know a couple of fellas who fall over themselves vying for the attention of girls, even if neither of them have the slightest interest in her beyond.. 'she went for me' bragging rights.

dazberry · 08-05-2009 08:35AM

I just think she's peeved with you full stop. She moaned about Bs behaviour and then you go and add fuel to the fire. Your timing sucks

Its also been my experience that some girls in the friend zone think its their duty to save us from ourselves in that respect. I have a friend whereby it would be ok for me to go out with any of her single friends but no one else seems to ever make the mark - drives me up the fuppin' wall and just for that reason alone I'd never go near any of her friends.

D.

Beta Ray Bill · 08-05-2009 09:25AM

Hey Dude

I think Girl A is Jealous, but not of you, she is Jealous of Girl B

I take it Girl A is the one you have known for a long time.
I know this sounds weird but Irish women are unusually territorial when it comes to there male friends. I myself have a a few very close female friends (and we are just friends) and I have had words with them about this kind of thing before. They don't mind you going off and kissing strangers but when it's one of their friends you are kissing its a different story. They don't seem to like it at all

I don't know why they are like this? Its baffles me.

Girl A stated she is not into you. I would believe this. She just doesn't want you with her mate

Wagon · 08-05-2009 10:08AM

Girl A doesn't want you to shag her mate cos you've known her for 6 years. In my experience, the best thing to do is to completely ignore your friend until they grow up.

Oh The Humanity · 08-05-2009 11:15AM

Its a territorial war and you've gotten caught in the crossfire.

They sound like total opposites yet both have their attractive qualities.

They are both playing their game:
Girl A's pitch is:
"Im classy and a keeper, you wouldn't be embarassed to bring me home to Mammy, for this reason boys please like me better..."

Girl B's pitch is:
"Im sexy and just lookin for fun, satisfyin in the short term like a burger, for this reason boys please like me better..."

No doubt both are miffed that their respective target markets keep moving between the two. Both want to believe what they offer is better than the other, but of course men go for both or any.......ahem....

So the girls get miffed, Girl A is probably fed up of her long game being ruined by the horny slattern Girl B, No doubt girl A feels the Worthy contender should win the men over in the end like in a Rom Com.

Girl B is surely laughing up her sleeve as she 'proves' she can't be reisisted. In the end though, unless she mixes in a bit of Girl A game its gonna be game over for her!

Phew! Well anyway, lad its NOTHING whatsoever to do with you, you are just an innocent bystander (piece of territory)

Deffo dont get caught up in this fued ! Find girl C....nice and uncomplicated!

AARRRGH · 08-05-2009 11:42AM

blaz wrote: »

Typical cat fight, have seen this happen more than a couple of times myself. I'd say both are attention whores, but none of them have a romantic interest in you (they "just want to be friends").

When you pay too much attention to girl B, girl A gets jealous. If you would pay too much attention to girl A, girl B would get jealous. They they both just want their egos stroked (i.e. show that they are still "wanted").

The best solution is to find girl C that actually likes you and make HER strike YOUR ego.

I agree with this. I've experienced it myself.

My general rule for female friends is "would one of my male friends do that?"

If the answer is "no", then they aren't really my friends, and I treat them as such.

LegacyUser · 09-05-2009 10:21AM

Op here and first off thanks for the replies. First thing yesterday morning Girl B rings me cos she couldn't remember much from the previous night apart from our kiss. We both know it was a drunken kiss and no more..well i know thats how i feel i can only go by what she tells me. Anyway, girl A calls me later on in the day and although there was only a small mention of the previous night and she didn't give me the same stick as the night before.

'I think Girl A is Jealous, but not of you, she is Jealous of Girl B'

I totally agree with you on that one.

'Phew! Well anyway, lad its NOTHING whatsoever to do with you, you are just an innocent bystander (piece of territory)

Deffo dont get caught up in this fued ! Find girl C....nice and uncomplicated!'

Thats what i was trying to explain to everyone after it happened, if it wasn't me standing there that night it would have been someone else.

As far as i am concerned for once i'm not to blame and will continue to be friends with both of them but the flirting will have to calm down a bit.

Bloody women

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