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Confused...

  • 05-05-2009 06:14PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm wondering what the hell has got into me...I'm in a very happy, fullfilled and loving relationship for six years now. I've never though about being with anyone else.

    That's until two weeks ago, I met a guy when I was out at a work thing. We got chatting and he made me laugh so much, he was just a really nice guy. We talked about everything from politics, to our families, to the recession! We exchanged numbers, for work purposes only. A few days later I got in touch with him and since then, it's been txting back and forth, every minute of every day. Nothing has happened between us but it's been suggested. I am trying to control my feelings but I'm not sure I can keep it that way.

    Part of me is saying, just meet the guy and see what happens...the other part of me wants to forget about him but it's just not that easy...

    Now I'm thinking it may all be the 6 year itch or something? Please help, has anyone else ever been in a situation like this?


Comments

  • #2
    bluecell99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 259 ✭✭bluecell99


    Oh please."Meet the guy and see what happens".You know what will happen.

    Simple choice.Forget it and work on your own relationship.They dont run smooth all the time.But you have to want to.Or is there a voice telling you that you are no longer interested in sustaining a relationship - with anyone.Do you want your independence?

    The other choice is meet the guy and end the relationship.

    Really nobody can tell you what to do.You have to prioritise and deal with your own life - without hurting anyone else in as far as this is possible.


  • #3
    turgon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,762 ✭✭✭turgon


    Far away fields look green. They always have and they always will.


  • #4
    nobodythere
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,349 ✭✭✭nobodythere


    Pick one or the other, whatever you do don't juggle them around.


  • #5
    monellia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 284 ✭✭monellia


    How would you feel if your husband was doing the same thing to do? No one want to be a victim of deceit. The right thing to do would be to open up to your husband about the texts and about your feelings for this guy. Then go from there. The easiest thing to do would be to forget about this guy and work on your marriage. What's important is that you listen to your heart. Do you love your husband? If so, you wont mess him around.


  • #6
    Ann22
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,006 ✭✭✭Ann22


    monellia wrote: »
    How would you feel if your husband was doing the same thing to do? No one want to be a victim of deceit. The right thing to do would be to open up to your husband about the texts and about your feelings for this guy. Then go from there. The easiest thing to do would be to forget about this guy and work on your marriage. What's important is that you listen to your heart. Do you love your husband? If so, you wont mess him around.
    She never said she was married. Op maybe you should ask your partner for a break if you're feeling confused at the moment..but think seriously about it. What if your oh meets someone else himself?


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  • #7
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


  • #8
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal

    Sorry - i will delete.


  • #9
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ann22 wrote: »
    She never said she was married. Op maybe you should ask your partner for a break if you're feeling confused at the moment..but think seriously about it. What if your oh meets someone else himself?
    Husband, partner, whatever. The sentiment's still the same.


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