He's not texting!!

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 09:04AM #1

A question for all the men out there...

I kissed a guy last week, we really hit it off and we have mutual friends. However, he has not texted in a couple days now and I don't know where I stand! We did text a little (maybe 8 texts) over the weekend which I initiated and there was good banter but he didn't really ask me anything in the texts...even the last time I texted him he simply replied to it but didn't ask me how I was...

So now I don't know if I have blown it or not. Was i being too forward in texting him first?Should I have played it cooler and not have contacted him at all????

Is it just a case of me panicking and not taking into consideration that guys HATE texting or is he just not that into me???? :-)

I have deleted his number to stop me from texting him in a moment of madness again :-)

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 10:40AM

Maybe he is just not that into you?

shellyboo · 22-04-2009 11:00AM

Unregistered wrote: »

I have deleted his number to stop me from texting him in a moment of madness again :-)

Um... since when is it madness to text someone you like? Surely that's what you'd want to be doing, no?

OP, just call him and ask him out for a drink. Failing that, text him and ask him. At least then you'll know.

Private Dancer · 22-04-2009 11:02AM

Yeah maybe he's not a big texter, give him a call and ask him out.
At least you will know where you stand then

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 11:03AM

either something is up, or he is just not that into you

Pyr0 · 22-04-2009 11:09AM

Jaysus, just give the man a text and ask him what the craic is with the both of you ! It's isn't that hard.

Wurly · 22-04-2009 11:13AM

Personally, i'd be of the thinking that if he wanted to talk to you, he'd be texting you himself.

You initiated all the texts. He didn't try to keep the conversation going.

You didn't 'blow' it. Maybe for whatever reason, he's 'just not that into you'.

However, your head will prob be wrecked waiting to hear from him. That's human nature.

I personally wouldn't text him again.. Let him make the move now if he wants.

Amy33 · 22-04-2009 11:25AM

He probably has a girlfriend.

smileysurfer · 22-04-2009 11:27AM

Hes either a crap texter or he isnt interested tbh.

You initiated the texting so youv made a move , its now time for him to step up.

You could text again but why should you? Youv made the move and he hasnt so its his turn , He needs to show some interest. I think anyway.

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 11:28AM

OP here again.

He is definitely single. I really don't want to ask him out in case he says no!

We have mutual friends so it would become very awkward if that happened!!!

I think it might be best to let it lie and not stir any scandal!

He is younger than me by 2/3 years so maybe he feels intimated by me...I dunno!

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 11:30AM

Well he said in the texts that he thought I was very pretty and cool. I'm in such a tizzy over it! But the guessing is all part of the fun ! :-)

sardineta · 22-04-2009 11:36AM

Texting is crap. It's impersonal and inconsiderate (and by that I mean people don't consider what they write as carefully as they would speak).

If you like someone, you call. Unfortunately, you deleted his number, but then if he doesn't call you, he's not interested.

John Mason · 22-04-2009 11:41AM

Most normal people cant be bothered texting - it is an added stress that people dont need or want in their life. if i ever meet the person who invented text messages, i will beat them to death with my mobile

JUST PICK UP THE PHONE AND RING HIM

Amy33 · 22-04-2009 11:44AM

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

Most normal people cant be bothered texting - it is an added stress that people dont need or want in their life. if i ever meet the person who invented text messages, i will beat them to death with my mobile

JUST PICK UP THE PHONE AND RING HIM

I agree 100%.

Millie · 22-04-2009 11:48AM

Defo not what you want to hear but if he hasn't texted or engaged in the messages you did send him then I don't he's that interested.

Believe me I've been there & I do believe if a guy wants you he will make the effort.

6th · 22-04-2009 11:50AM

I watched the movie "he's just not that into you" and I really think everyone should be made watch it. Maybe he doesnt like texts, maybe he's shy or maybe .... well .... you know ...

Amy33 · 22-04-2009 12:05PM

6th wrote: »

I watched the movie "he's just not that into you" and I really think everyone should be made watch it. Maybe he doesnt like texts, maybe he's shy or maybe .... well .... you know ...

I read that book and thought it was a load of crap.

Gyalist · 22-04-2009 12:12PM

I've neither read the book nor seen the film but I long for the day when that phrase "he's just not that into you" will be decommissioned and put beyond use.

banquo · 22-04-2009 12:30PM

I'm not a big texter at all. Drives the gf mad. Could be the same with you.

Miss Fluff · 22-04-2009 12:37PM

Chillax and don't text him for a while. If he has told you in the texts that he thinks you are "very pretty and cool", then he means it. Men do what they say on the tin generally and no point in second guessing it or looking for some hidden meaning.The way he sees it, you were in touch only a few days ago. Give the man a chance. Leave it until after this weekend and then call him asking if he fancies going for a drink. I'd be surprised if he hasn't contacted you before then.:)

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 01:10PM

Are you both old enough to go out for a drink? Maybe ask him to go to the movies.

Elbi · 22-04-2009 01:27PM

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

Most normal people cant be bothered texting - it is an added stress that people dont need or want in their life. if i ever meet the person who invented text messages, i will beat them to death with my mobile

JUST PICK UP THE PHONE AND RING HIM

I really dont agree with this. If I were you I would not ring him or text him again.
You initiated the last few textes so thats really enough, he must know you are interested now, He has your number if he wants to text he will text.

Maybe this isnt good advice (i am single after all:p) but its just my opinion.

smileysurfer · 22-04-2009 01:30PM

Elbi wrote: »

I really dont agree with this. If I were you I would not ring him or text him again.
You initiated the last few textes so thats really enough, he must know you are interested now, He has your number if he wants to text he will text.

Maybe this isnt good advice (i am single after all:p) but its just my opinion.

No I agree with you!!
Theres no point in running after him

Elbi · 22-04-2009 01:33PM

6th wrote: »

I watched the movie "he's just not that into you" and I really think everyone should be made watch it. Maybe he doesnt like texts, maybe he's shy or maybe .... well .... you know ...

Totally agree

Saw that film too, its great, straight to the point.

Are you "the Rule" or "The exception"...........
Most likely We're the bloody rule

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 02:11PM

OP here again - ok...I'm going to sit tight and not text, besides I no longer have his number which makes it easy!!!! And anyhow I don't believe in chasing a man. If he wants it, he will come running and will walk on fire to catch me! And if he doesn't there are plently of other hotties in the sea!!!

Thanks guys! Will keep you updated.

metalgear2k2 · 22-04-2009 02:24PM

Unregistered wrote: »

If he wants it, he will come running and will walk on fire to catch me!

That's why he hasn't contacted you.

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 02:27PM

metalgear2k2 wrote: »

That's why he hasn't contacted you.

OP here again - explain what you mean? Surely men like the chase?

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 02:33PM

I'm in the opposite situation to you. I'm a girl, I kissed a guy twice very recently. He seems really into me, asking me to meet etc. He instigated any texting that went on, and he was the one asking me to meet again etc. He's nice, but I'm not that into him, so I haven't instigated any texting, and I haven't been in contact with him for a few days. If I liked him more, I definitely would.

I finally understand what goes through guys' heads when they're not that into a girl they've just met. If he likes you, he will contact you, soon.

Nervous Wreck · 22-04-2009 02:37PM

Tbh, if I was up for something happening, I'd text the girl.... But just cos he hasn't texted doesn't mean he doesn't like you... Maybe he's just not on for a relationship and doesn't wanna have the awkward conversation saying that....

LegacyUser · 22-04-2009 02:41PM

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

Tbh, if I was up for something happening, I'd text the girl.... But just cos he hasn't texted doesn't mean he doesn't like you... Maybe he's just not on for a relationship and doesn't wanna have the awkward conversation saying that....

OP here again...gut feeling tells me this might be the case...

3DataModem · 22-04-2009 02:43PM

Unregistered wrote: »

He is definitely single. I really don't want to ask him out in case he says no!

I'm starting to see the problem here.

He's not texting!!

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