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Have I done the wrong thing??

  • 03-04-2009 08:31AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey there, basicly the story is i broke up with my fiance last night. We just keep arguing more and more everyday. We both ended up on 3 day weeks about 2 months ago but the arguing has been constant for maybe aobut 6 months. it just never lets up. he takes alot of things i say up the wrong way and i think we have both just lost interest in almost every aspect of our relationship.

    Before the arguing it was brilliant for the 5 years before it started. I think i will always love him no matter what happens but the way things are i just cant live with him. Really need advice on what to do next - i am going crazy trying to figure out what to do.
    i love him and i know he loves me too and would do anything in the world for me but we cant continue arguing.


Comments

  • #2
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,363 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    This comes at a time of stress in both your lives so I wouldn't be 100% certain it's over going by what you've told us. Spend some time apart for now. Fall back on friends and family and give yourself some space to think because your feelings will change about a dozen times a day for the next while. You will soon know if you can't be without him.

    Don't tell him that that's it now. Let him know that you need time to reflect on things before you know your next move.


  • #3
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    if you only broke up with him last night, it's too early to give you any concrete advice. I think you've done the right thing by breaking the cycle, maybe it'll help you both get a bit of perspective on things. I'd say avoid all contact for a couple of weeks, let the dust settle a bit and then figure out what you want.


  • #4
    Zzippy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,166 ✭✭✭✭Zzippy


    OK, it sounds like a lot of this was brought on by stress over jobs etc. Possibly both of you spending a lot more time in the house being on 3 day weeks, and getting on each others nerves, as well as the financial worries. You probably need a bit of time apart to get some perspective on things and figure out how you really feel. I'd suggest then going for some relationship counselling - an independent adviser who can see where the problems are and help you to communicate better.
    You clearly love each other, but communication is breaking down here, relationships take a lot of work and maybe you just need to refocus on how to communicate and work through things better. Hope things work out OK for you!


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