Foreplay

LegacyUser · 01-04-2009 11:34AM #1

How long should foreplay take? I know you should take your time and tell your partner what you like but I can't seem to get aroused/naturally lubricated, it's just so dry. Really getting me down at this stage. I have vaginal problems which I've been to the hospital about and I'm on the Pill so maybe this is the reason?

Sorry if this is in the wrong forum or sounds silly.

Nevyn · 01-04-2009 11:42AM

Then why not go buy some lube, it is the most basic sex toy there is, it comes in many different types, feels and flavours.

Minxie123 · 01-04-2009 11:52AM

Are you turned on? I know it sounds like a no brainer but you'd be surprised how many people think they 'should' be turned on by something and when they're not assume its a medical condition that they are not getting wet.

If you are turned on and the foreplay is what you're into then you might be right about the pill. I have heard this can cause dryness. As the other poster said, get some lube and work from there. You can get that Durex light and silky one from most chemists.

Nervous Wreck · 01-04-2009 12:27PM

Also, if you're telling your partner what you like and he/she isn't quite getting yer drift, why not do it yourself? You can probably get yourself turned on a lot quicker than your partner can so throw that into the mix and see if that works for you during foreplay.

_blank_ · 01-04-2009 12:46PM

Some pills can affect the hormone that induces wetness in females.

Could be the pill you are on.

So, go and buy a big ol' tube o' lube and have at it.

Can't be good for either of you to have a friction burn in your nether regions.

Also, get him to a bit of oral on you.

Joey the lips · 01-04-2009 01:34PM

Foreplay - The longer it lasts the better the sex. Dont make a limit on time. As for dryness there is loads of lube out there. There is even one shaped like a penis. Now there is a great laugh I would say.

I imagine you are not having sex for long which might also explain the dryness.

The trick is to make it as fun and as exciting as possible to you both granted this seems obvious.

Blangis · 01-04-2009 01:40PM

Unregistered wrote: »

How long should foreplay take? I know you should take your time and tell your partner what you like but I can't seem to get aroused/naturally lubricated, it's just so dry. Really getting me down at this stage. I have vaginal problems which I've been to the hospital about and I'm on the Pill so maybe this is the reason?

Sorry if this is in the wrong forum or sounds silly.

There is no set time that it should take. The popstar Sting spends about five hours on foreplay, for instance. I say live and let live. If he is not harming anyone else, then leave him to it.

LegacyUser · 01-04-2009 02:40PM

Grapefruit juice is good for encouraging the natural wet stuff. Also for the first half of the month use Evening Primrose Oil and flaxseed oil for the remainder, its good for it too.

Make sure you are drinking enough water, very important. Fruit and veg important too.
Vitamin e helps loads too.

Make sure you dont have any type of infection, your doc can advise.

This started to happen to me to recently too. My bf goes at me very quick and a lot so I kind of started anticipating being touched without being wet first and got nervous and this makes the problem worse.

Its a bit of a vicious circle sometimes, but get the man to slow down a bit if you can.

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