Is 25 too old to start life over?

LegacyUser · 29-03-2009 09:30PM #1

So I'm a 25 year old guy from Dublin. I have a good job and good friends but I have been depressed for a while and just generally down in the dumps about life. I'm tired of my life. So I applied for a job in London which I got. I have to decide wheather or not to go. But I'm worried - if I went I'd have to start life all over again and get a new social circle etc, am I too old for such a big change?

sunnyside · 29-03-2009 09:42PM

Of course not, 25 is hardly old and it sounds like a good opportunity. If you don't like it you can get a cheap flight home for less than the cost of the train from Cork to Dublin.

Best of luck.

mikemac · 29-03-2009 09:43PM

You could be home from London in less time and possibly less cost then Irish Rail from Galway to Dublin.

Go for it!

Sleipnir · 29-03-2009 09:44PM

25 isn't too old for anything.

n0fX · 29-03-2009 10:19PM

LondonQuestion wrote: »

So I'm a 25 year old guy from Dublin. I have a good job and good friends but I have been depressed for a while and just generally down in the dumps about life. I'm tired of my life. So I applied for a job in London which I got. I have to decide wheather or not to go. But I'm worried - if I went I'd have to start life all over again and get a new social circle etc, am I too old for such a big change?

Congrats on the job.

It might have been too old to start over, 50 years ago. These days tho. You wouldn't even have to get a new social circle with skype, msn, email, etc. and the fact London is only 50 mins flight away. Don't be worrying.

rororoyourboat · 29-03-2009 10:35PM

25? Your whole life is still ahead of you! Go for it! What do you think is holding you back? One of my friends is from London is in college in the ROI and she told me about flights from Dublin to London: "it's 20 mins upwards, 20 mins across and 20 mins decending" Quicker than travelling Dublin to Cork!

Dudess · 29-03-2009 11:01PM

Jeez, if you feel you need to take a new direction in life, an opportunity to do so presents itself and there are no ties holding you back, it doesn't matter what age you are. And 25 is certainly not one of the later stages at which to do so - in fact it's quite early. Have some perspective OP - you're really young. Best of luck with it.

Affable · 29-03-2009 11:26PM

LondonQuestion wrote: »

So I'm a 25 year old guy from Dublin. I have a good job and good friends but I have been depressed for a while and just generally down in the dumps about life. I'm tired of my life. So I applied for a job in London which I got. I have to decide wheather or not to go. But I'm worried - if I went I'd have to start life all over again and get a new social circle etc, am I too old for such a big change?

No way man!! You're only 25! I'm 28 and feel like that about my hometown. I reckon loads of others do too. Provided you can afford what you are doing(because to jump in without considering finances would be foolish)then go for it. Fortune favours the bold right?- and, there will be a ton of other newcomers and people seeking friends in London.

cafecolour · 30-03-2009 10:02AM

No, it's a pretty common time to do so. And you aren't starting life 'over' - your old friends will still be on bebo/facebook and likely frequently on your couch.

I moved and started entirely new social circles at both 24 and 31, both quite successfully. Planning on doing it again in a few months.

Starting a new social circle does take effort initially. You'll likely meet people at work and in your flat share (that can sometimes be your entire circle right there if you find ones you click with well enough). When you get there, I'd join a couple clubs/groups that raise your interest as well.

tman · 30-03-2009 10:06AM

Go for it!
I made the same move back in November (at the age of 26) and it ended up being one of the wisest choices I ever made.

Definitely think about the extra costs of living before you do it though, council tax and travel expenses are a pain in the arse

peekyboo · 30-03-2009 10:24AM

I made the move to London at 27 and it was a great decision! Loads of friendly people over here and loads of Irish too although you'll find yourself making friends with all different nationalities. Do you know anyone in London at all? Do be prepared for a different vibe from London though - at times you'll be going mad with rude people on transport but it's such a lively, busy, great city that you won't regret it. Flights home are dirt cheap as well so, like me, you can literally be having a good life in London and still see your friends and family back home.

Good luck!

thedeadpoet · 30-03-2009 10:57AM

Its never too late to be what you might have been. You're never too old for anything. Why should age procure you from making life altering decisions at any point in your existence?
Be it 25 or 85, anything is possible. Anyone who claims otherwise is nothing short of a pessimist.

Congratulations on the job and I wish you the best of luck in whatever decision you make.

Latchy · 30-03-2009 11:04AM

25 is hardly to old to be starting 'again' OP .Even if it didn't work out for you after a year or two in London ,you can say you at least tried .People can start life again at any age .

hatful · 30-03-2009 11:10AM

No, 25 is not too old to start anew.

Really think carefully, What are you trying to leave behind? Don't fool yourself. So many people think that jumping on a plane will help them "escape", moving to a new city does not mean you can leave turbulent feelings behind, they come aswell. Sit down with a piece of paper and write out pros and cons and then review your points.

On the other hand, it is probably prudent to go to London if you think your job might not be secure here. Maybe it would be a positive move personally.

GAAman · 30-03-2009 11:22AM

Balls man

Im 26 and livin some 150-200 miles from home goin to uni. It wasnt an easy choice with all my good friends within a 5 minute radius of my house in Dublin but i went with my gut and am happy i did, if the job is for you go for it man might even make you happy!

Darthhoob · 30-03-2009 11:59AM

im 27 (soon) and i'm about to start life again...i'm moving with my kids and OH to be near his family 100 miles away, being here is no good for me, it's getting me down so a change will be good

25 certainly is not old, its when most people actually start their lives lol!. mind you i think that a change in direction is good no matter what your age

Amy33 · 30-03-2009 12:26PM

Of course not. God, you're only a kid.

marzic · 30-03-2009 03:09PM

LondonQuestion wrote: »

So I'm a 25 year old guy from Dublin. I have a good job and good friends but I have been depressed for a while and just generally down in the dumps about life. I'm tired of my life. So I applied for a job in London which I got. I have to decide wheather or not to go. But I'm worried - if I went I'd have to start life all over again and get a new social circle etc, am I too old for such a big change?

I think you need to examine further why you are 'tired of your life'. are you tired of where you are or who you are with? as for being 'too old'? you are probably the ideal age for going somewhere new, you are young enough to go out and have fun, but you probably have a bit of maturity also. I was there in mid/late ninetys in my early 20's and had a ball, but I had a social circle/family already there. Again I would say you should try to get to the root of why you have felt so down, best of luck.

LegacyUser · 30-03-2009 05:35PM

you'll be fine-you've already got a job over there, all you need is accomodation really. my sister is going travelling to australia for a year but ive a feeling she could end up staying there indefinitely. try it out for a few months-id say give it up to a year because sometimes it takes a while to settle in somewhere but if you dont like after a yr or so, then it prob isnt for you! but hey, london is so much fun!! its very mulitcultural and big so you're bound to find people/things you like to do.you've honestly nothing to lose-i know 23 yr olds barely out of college so you're bang on track really! whats the rush-youll be working for long enough anyway!i say,enjoy your 20s!

good luck! Frankly im a bit jealous (fed up of ireland myself right now!) :P

Heineken Helen · 31-03-2009 10:46AM

I'm 28 and I made a new start of things last September. My concern though is, if you're asking the question, you're looking for excuses?

Don't stay and be miserable... things won't change... go and give it a try:p

biko · 31-03-2009 10:50AM

A friend of mine has moved and started over several times, last time at 35 I think. But then he is extremely self reliant.

vinylbomb · 31-03-2009 10:57AM

I was in exactly the same position. At 25 I was sick of it in Ireland, so went to London, was there for 2 and a half years. Best decision I probably ever made. Thats not to say it was entirely enjoyable all the time, London can be a cold enough place, but it forges a personality and strength in you that you'll carry with you long after you've left.

Go for it would be my advice.

Nitxteha · 31-03-2009 11:35AM

Of course not! You are never too old for anything

I think in your situation is a good thing to do. Your friends and family are always going to be there anyways.

Dudess · 31-03-2009 12:08PM

I started a new life at 27 by moving to Dublin to go back to college and do a postgrad - had a brilliant time. A lot of people are way too hung up on age post early 20s. It's ludicrous. Unfortunately it's not until afterwards that the realisation of just how ludicrous it is becomes apparent...

marzic has a good point though - if you're feeling very down, would you just be transferring your problems to London?

However, at the same time, perhaps you're just bored with the rut you're stuck in and need a change - nothing more complicated than that. One of the reasons I moved to Dublin was the need for a change - I was sick of my life which had been great but then started to get too samey. The change was brilliant - totally gave me a new lease of life.

Kevster · 31-03-2009 12:48PM

LondonQuestion wrote: »

So I'm a 25 year old guy from Dublin. I have a good job and good friends but I have been depressed for a while and just generally down in the dumps about life. I'm tired of my life. So I applied for a job in London which I got. I have to decide wheather or not to go. But I'm worried - if I went I'd have to start life all over again and get a new social circle etc, am I too old for such a big change?

My view is that people should ALWAYS be open to starting things over, as it gives you a chance to 'reset' yourself and use old experiences/wisdom in new situations. Plus, you will actually develop an even bigger circle of friends and will have more contacts and support networks.

Denerick · 31-03-2009 06:22PM

Sometimes people just get in a rut. Doing something fresh and exciting might take you out of your shell. I say go for it. London is hardly too far away anyway if you decide to come back after a couple of weeks! (Realistically you could come home every weekend if homesick)

blackbird98 · 01-04-2009 11:39AM

too late at 25?? you're only a chap!! go for it, and best of luck

moco · 01-04-2009 01:18PM

Yea, go for it. You pick up friends in London very quickly, I moved back here at 28 and love it.

partyguinness · 01-04-2009 02:35PM

25..old...dont be silly...You have years aheda of you...go for it and seize all the opportunities you can..

I wish I was 25 again...:(

LesIsMore · 02-04-2009 06:09PM

When you are 25 , you really have no idea how young it is.
Go for it , a great age to be hitting London.

LegacyUser · 03-04-2009 12:25AM

Thanks everyone for all of your great advice!

As it happens, I was told today by my boss that I'm being let go at the end of May, so I guess thats made my decision for me!!!

Is 25 too old to start life over?

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