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Shower break-in

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  • #32
    missbaker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 123 ✭✭missbaker


    in all fairness a 20 - 40 minute shower is abit OTT . .you know if you were in OZ youd be limited to 3- 5 min showers. U should be trying to save the worlds resources not letting it run down the drain


  • #33
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    YDMHSSB wrote: »

    not having a go, but from your post,you sound like a right d*ck to be honest. im 100% siding with the girl on this one, youd have your head kicked in if you lived in my house or any of me mates house to be honest!!!!!!

    Noticing a bit of Northside/Southside tension here:D

    Eric_85: Location: South Dublin

    YDMHSSB : Location: northside, work in southside : (


  • #34
    Mr. Frost
    Closed Accounts Posts: 726 ✭✭✭Mr. Frost


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I do think this can carry on like this and most probably will. In the case that she will be going to shower I suppose she might as well not get embarassed to get mad on a completely unreasonable grounds like she already did. I can of couse try to find out whether the report to the landlord shall somehow resolve the issue.



    In order to avoid the reasonable question of why did I not inform the landlord about the behaviour of the tenant in case of any further consequences arise I might want to talk to her the next time I see her. I suppose a sudden call three days after shall be a little bit awkward...



    I can try this in the longer run. I was living in the place for two and a half years now. Doing so is the most cautious way to treat this incident.

    Really trying hard to bite my lip here.


  • #35
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I do think this can carry on like this and most probably will. In the case that she will be going to shower I suppose she might as well not get embarassed to get mad on a completely unreasonable grounds like she already did. I can of couse try to find out whether the report to the landlord shall somehow resolve the issue.



    In order to avoid the reasonable question of why did I not inform the landlord about the behaviour of the tenant in case of any further consequences arise I might want to talk to her the next time I see her. I suppose a sudden call three days after shall be a little bit awkward...



    I can try this in the longer run. I was living in the place for two and a half years now. Doing so is the most cautious way to treat this incident.
    Lol, are you having a laugh or do people like you actually exist in real life


  • #36
    amcalester
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,097 ✭✭✭amcalester


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I do think this can carry on like this and most probably will. In the case that she will be going to shower I suppose she might as well not get embarassed to get mad on a completely unreasonable grounds like she already did. I can of couse try to find out whether the report to the landlord shall somehow resolve the issue.



    In order to avoid the reasonable question of why did I not inform the landlord about the behaviour of the tenant in case of any further consequences arise I might want to talk to her the next time I see her. I suppose a sudden call three days after shall be a little bit awkward...



    I can try this in the longer run. I was living in the place for two and a half years now. Doing so is the most cautious way to treat this incident.


    did you read the other posts? 40 minutes is ridiculous.


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  • #37
    Alicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,264 ✭✭✭✭Alicat


    40 minutes is way too long to be spending in the shower when there are other people in the house to consider.

    You are wasting water and electricity as it is, not paying any extra for it, and then expect the other housemates to turn on the heating just to have a 5 minute shower in the other bathroom? While you do God-knows-what in the shower for nearly 3/4 of an hour? :confused:

    If you want to share accommodation you have to be prepared to consider the needs of your housemates. You may be paying rent but that does not entitle you to do whatever you want, particularly if it affects your housemates, who are also paying rent in case you'd forgotten! If that's the kind of lifestyle you want, then you need to get your own place because I know very few people who would put up with that.

    I'm surprised your housemate hasn't already approached the landlord about you. The girl went off the handle a bit admittedly but to be honest I would too. You sound totally unapproachable and unwillingly to have an adult conversation with your housemate(s) to work out some sort of solution.

    I have absolutely no sympathy for you at all.


  • #38
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    I may agree that having a shower 20 to 40 minutes is anything but short and quick. To explain myself on this as far as I haven't previously had time to read that the need actually arised I can say that yes this is the activity I mostly enjoy! I am in no way trying to put a blame on myself for that. I can understand the point of view from which being different from the most in this feature would be in fairness completely unconventional!

    There are 8 other people living in the house in 7 rooms. During 2 and a half years I have had once a little chat with one other tennant at the time I was taking a bath which had been dismantled some few months ago. But really I would not want to sacrifice this little pleasure of mine to extent that I may even rent a membership in the facility that will allow me to exercise it as far as paying more for the electricity bill will not do any good to any other tennant... Though quite frankly I do not view myself any difficulty from my own side in the case that everybody would occupy the shower for this time cutting me for two hours off it. I would in this case either get up earlier or wash in the evenings. I would not bring the question which is against the deliberate comfort of other tennants up. I would not get pissed off because this rarely really brings any good results in life unless there are people eager to tolerate it.


  • #39
    Tusky
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,096 ✭✭✭✭Tusky


    If I lived with you, I would have broken into the shower, dragged you out and beaten you with a bar of soap in a sock. What do you think you are doing spending up to 40 minutes in the shower when other people need to get ready for work ? Its a shared apartment, have some bloody consideration.

    Exactly what are you doing in the shower for 40 minutes anyway ? Takes me 5 minutes to wash myself properly..and if I'm feeling lazy I might stay in for 10 minutes, but 40 is crazy.

    If all 8 of the tenants in your apartment had a 40 minute shower each day, it would take 5 and a half hours. THAT is why its unacceptable.


  • #40
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I may agree that having a shower 20 to 40 minutes is anything but short and quick. To explain myself on this as far as I haven't previously had time to read that the need actually arised I can say that yes this is the activity I mostly enjoy! I am in no way trying to put a blame on myself for that. I can understand the point of view from which being different from the most in this feature would be in fairness completely unconventional!

    There are 8 other people living in the house in 7 rooms. During 2 and a half years I have had once a little chat with one other tennant at the time I was taking a bath which had been dismantled some few months ago. But really I would not want to sacrifice this little pleasure of mine to extent that I may even rent a membership in the facility that will allow me to excersise it as far as paying more for the electricity bill will not to any good to anybody...
    huh?


  • #41
    Alicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,264 ✭✭✭✭Alicat


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I may agree that having a shower 20 to 40 minutes is anything but short and quick. To explain myself on this as far as I haven't previously had time to read that the need actually arised I can say that yes this is the activity I mostly enjoy! I am in no way trying to put a blame on myself for that. I can understand the point of view from which being different from the most in this feature would be in fairness completely unconventional!

    There are 8 other people living in the house in 7 rooms. During 2 and a half years I have had once a little chat with one other tennant at the time I was taking a bath which had been dismantled some few months ago. But really I would not want to sacrifice this little pleasure of mine to extent that I may even rent a membership in the facility that will allow me to excersise it as far as paying more for the electricity bill will not to any good to anybody...

    8 people in the one house and you think you have the luxury of spending that long in the shower? :eek:

    Paying more money towards the electricity is the least you could do in my opinion. A better option for everybody would be that you get your own place. It's obviously not working for you or anyone else.


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  • #42
    castie
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 3,807 ✭✭✭castie


    Please oh please tell me english is not your first language.

    And really unless your beating one off and particularly like that shower feel, theres no reason for 40 mins.


  • #43
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,010 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I understand where the OP is coming from enjoying long showers.

    However, it is completely selfish to take up the mornings in a household of 7 (or was it 8?) taking a 20 -40 minute shower.

    She was bang out of order to break into the bathroom; however, you were out of order not listening to her concerns.

    How about compromise? Take your shower before going to bed a night. That way you can enjoy it and relax, and not disturb others. It's what I do. If you don't feel "fresh" in the morning you can take a quick 5 minutes splash and dash in rota with everyone else

    Seriously though, apologise to the girl for not hearing her out, telling her your new plan (which hopefully, for the sake of your housemates, you'll decide to take on). Then tell her, however, what she did was unacceptable and you will report her to the landlord next time


  • #44
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,010 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    40 minutes!!!

    I know what you're doing in there! ...sinner.

    Seriously, most women I know easily take 45 minutes to an hour getting ready for work or a night out in the bathroom... what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

    It all depends how many people are sharing this bathroom really. Me and my flat mate have a two bedroom with one bathroom, albeit our hot water is always on via one of these modern systems. It wouldn't bother me if he spent 40 minutes in the bathroom... I guess it would matter the time of day, if he wanted to spend 40 minutes in there when I need to get ready for work that'd be a different thing. If there were four of us in the flat, it would be much different.

    I think this is more about having the right flat mate, not about shower time.


  • #45
    vorbis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,525 ✭✭✭vorbis


    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.


  • #46
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    castie wrote: »
    Please oh please tell me english is not your first language.

    And really unless your beating one off and particularly like that shower feel, theres no reason for 40 mins.

    It isn't. I am not trying to be funny.


  • #47
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    vorbis wrote: »
    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.
    He said he usually does it in the after noon OR evening, and has done it in the morning in the past. So, sounds to me that he does it anytime.
    Eric_85 wrote: »
    Time ago this could have been and at least once was early in the morning crossing her schedule to the extent of twenty minutes apparently. But nowadays this usually happens later during the day or in the late evenings due to recent changes in my working hours


  • #48
    Alicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,264 ✭✭✭✭Alicat


    vorbis wrote: »
    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.

    I'd say the only reason he has it in the afternoon is that the other housemates would simply not put up with him doing it in the morning! It would be bad enough getting eight people showered and all with two bathrooms every morning but add his 40 minute charade to the mix and it's a nightmare! And it only seems to have changed because his work hours changed, so not a whole lot to do with considering other people!

    And the other housemate having to turn on the heat for a 5 minute shower is such an unbelieveable waste. 40 minutes is simply too long with that many other people to consider, particularly when the girl told him that she needed the bathroom and he ignored her! His words!


  • #49
    00112984
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,600 ✭✭✭00112984


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    There are 8 other people living in the house

    If all of your other housemates decided their "one little luxury" was a 40 minute shower each day, the house would be running hot water for over 5 hours per DAY! That's ridiculous! Have you any idea how long it takes to heat 5 hours worth of water and at what cost?! To do it on an immersion would be bad enough but, if it's an electric shower, it'd probably eat up one whole tenant's rent for the month!

    If all of the other 7 were as selfish as you in doing that, you'd be the first one to complain about the increase in your electric bill.


  • #50
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    vorbis wrote: »
    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.

    In fact she could not. The landlady had the idea that all the tennants are using heating excessively so she had simply banned the access to the heating control with a metallic box which is locked. It gets cold sometimes as the schedule she entered is limited to the mornings and evenings. No one including the girl was showing the wish to talk to her about it. Instead the sweaters and coats are on in the kitchen. She altered a schedule recently presumably for the third turning on for an hour or so somewhere not far from afternoon.

    No I didn't really try not to put other people off as it was happening. I didn't think I was putting anyone off anyway. Everybody including me are doing their own business and sit in their rooms whenever somebody uses the bathroom. No one except her has yet waited under the door. There are other things the time is to be used for.


  • #51
    00112984
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,600 ✭✭✭00112984


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    The landlady had the idea that all the tennants are using heating excessively so she had simply banned the access to the heating control with a metallic box which is locked. It gets cold sometimes as the schedule she entered is limited to the mornings and evenings.

    If the shower in the bathroom you use is run from the heating, that will explain why the heating bill is excessive.
    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I didn't think I was putting anyone off anyway.

    She TOLD you it was a problem and you IGNORED her until she was so annoyed she broke down the door in a temper.


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  • #52
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,384 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    Do you have a disability that means you take such a long time in the shower?
    Forty minutes of running hot water is hugely expensive. I can understand why your housemate gets mad.


  • #53
    mumhaabu
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,031 ✭✭✭mumhaabu


    The OP gets pummeled as he is male, now imagine how different the thread would be if he was a she. :eek:

    I like to take long showers occasionaly especially if I had missed a day or two, however 18 to 20mins would be the longest and it was regular once when I had dandruff and I had to leave Neutrogena on the scalp for 10mins. My average would be 7mins from opening the door to leaving. I can imagine the tension in the house and yer wan must be driven mad. lol! plus real men don't take showers we bathe once every 3 months.... especially in Cork :pac:


  • #54
    stovelid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    One of the most pointless issues ever. Can't you both come to some sort of advance arrangement about who uses the shower, or do it at different times, like the night before?

    I like to shave in the shower, but even that plus washing hair and body takes no longer than 15-20 minutes max.

    I'm tempted to believe that there is previous between you two (as in arguments) that have made her so irascible?


  • #55
    Harris
    Closed Accounts Posts: 148 ✭✭Harris


    The OP said showering was his favourite activity (which I find most odd anyway)

    If he is such a water baby why doesn't he join a swimming club. Then he could frolick in the pool for 40 minutes and stand in the shower for another 20.

    To be honest if I lived with anyone like that, male or female I would not be responsible for my actions.


  • #56
    sprinklesspanky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 178 ✭✭sprinklesspanky


    00112984 wrote: »
    If all of your other housemates decided their "one little luxury" was a 40 minute shower each day, the house would be running hot water for over 5 hours per DAY! That's ridiculous! Have you any idea how long it takes to heat 5 hours worth of water and at what cost?! To do it on an immersion would be bad enough but, if it's an electric shower, it'd probably eat up one whole tenant's rent for the month!

    If all of the other 7 were as selfish as you in doing that, you'd be the first one to complain about the increase in your electric bill.

    Hyperbole!


  • #57
    sprinklesspanky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 178 ✭✭sprinklesspanky


    Harris wrote: »
    The OP said showering was his favourite activity (which I find most odd anyway)

    If he is such a water baby why doesn't he join a swimming club. Then he could frolick in the pool for 40 minutes and stand in the shower for another 20.

    To be honest if I lived with anyone like that, male or female I would not be responsible for my actions.

    OP, this is a good idea... Join a gym! Then you can shower mad! Just make sure they have one of the stall thingys.


  • #58
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    longshowers wrote: »
    I understand where the OP is coming from enjoying long showers.

    However, it is completely selfish to take up the mornings in a household of 7 (or was it 8?) taking a 20 -40 minute shower.

    She was bang out of order to break into the bathroom; however, you were out of order not listening to her concerns.

    How about compromise? Take your shower before going to bed a night. That way you can enjoy it and relax, and not disturb others. It's what I do. If you don't feel "fresh" in the morning you can take a quick 5 minutes splash and dash in rota with everyone else

    Seriously though, apologise to the girl for not hearing her out, telling her your new plan (which hopefully, for the sake of your housemates, you'll decide to take on). Then tell her, however, what she did was unacceptable and you will report her to the landlord next time

    I listened to what she had to say and yet never avoided the conversation answering with what I had in mind. The way I usually do. Writing the post I have cut down our initial conversation to the key points. She obviously could not speak for long on this without loosing her temper. She is disliked by some tennants because she is frequently stressfull and angry which as they say behind her back bothers them while it isn't something that really bothers me.

    I can apologise to a person that treated me less angry and compulsive. I can apologise in return but doing this upfront can make her to feel that such behavior was the only thing that could work which from my point of view of her as a character will not bring her any good. Besides it is easy to explain yourself to the person that you are talking to. I do not think that I like her anymore at all as it came to my attention that she reported one of the tennants to a landlord for having dropped a question during the conversation: "If Hitler was rational about killing jews and if he was a bad man at all?". Which was just an opinion and a question. She is german though and the landlord said to the tennant that they will ask him to leave if "there will be any trouble in the house again". I understand that nobody likes this particular tennant but I find such ways of getting rid of people to be dishonest.

    It is not hard for me to step over myself if I had any wish to do it. But I do think that I will just have to be hard on her as older people are usually hard on silly young ones. The best I can do is not to allow for the shower situation and not to block the access for other tennant by following your quite so reasonable idea.


  • #59
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,010 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Eh, I have to say that some of the replies here, including some from people with mod status, smack of racism. Its pretty obvious the OP isn't a native English speaker. If I was Eamon Dumphy I'd be flinging my pen across the desk after reading some of them! Also, its not clear that his long showers actually increase the bill at all. It sounds not from his post above, actually, and perhaps they pay a fixed price every month? That said, he obviously needs to find a time for his showers when he's not inconveniencing anyone. Talk to your room-mates about the best time to take your long showers, OP!


  • #60
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    stovelid wrote: »
    One of the most pointless issues ever. Can't you both come to some sort of advance arrangement about who uses the shower, or do it at different times, like the night before?

    I like to shave in the shower, but even that plus washing hair and body takes no longer than 15-20 minutes max.

    I'm tempted to believe that there is previous between you two (as in arguments) that have made her so irascible?

    Completely friendly relationships apart from the shower issue.
    In the shower I usually use one sponge which is metally hard, another massage brash for about 5-7 minutes, then the simple soft sponge to thoroughly and slowly cover every tiny part of the body. When I use hair gel I have to wash the head twice or three times with the freeze tamper shampoo. Besides I was taught to let shampoo stay on your head for at least five minutes while massaging it. I also like to spend the first five and the last five minutes simply under running water, I really love the specific feeling deep and slender from playing with the temperatures while doing so.


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  • #61
    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47,381 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    sprinklesspanky wrote: »
    Hyperbole!

    May I remind people that unhelpful or pointless posts may result in infractions and/or bans.

    Thank you for your time.

    Zaph


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