Enagement plan made, need opinions

Cyrus · 03-09-2008 10:21PM #1

ok guys have made a plan for our engagement,

arranged her to have the day off from work with her boss on the QT, picked a location, going to stay overnight in a very nice hotel and have an appointment booked with someone who will make the ring the next day.

what im wondering is what else can i do to make it special,

i was half thinking of inviting both our parents to join us for dinner that night as a surprise? maybe it would be nicer just the two of us?

any other ideas

mikeanywhere · 04-09-2008 07:09AM

Firstly, well done for going to all that trouble, very romantic indeed. How can she not say yes with all that effort!!! :cool:

Have you discussed this with (both) the parents as to what you are doing or is it going to be a "surprise" for them too?? Personally I would have a lunch/dinner with the parents the day after as I am sure she would rather be enjoying the stay with you and the moment too.

Again, best of luck and keep us posted as to how it went.

bensoneb · 04-09-2008 08:13AM

Oh God, don't ask the parents along that quickly!!!! It's a very special occasion and both of you need to bask in the moment on your own for as long as you want to.

Bottle of champagne and nice flowers wouldn't go amiss.

If she doesn't know she's going away, how do you plan to ensure that she has the right clothes with her?

Best of luck and well done for making it so special!!!

QandA · 04-09-2008 10:29AM

In a similar situation Cyrus.

I have added the flowers and Champagne as an extra touch....now I'm trying to decide the 'how?' and when?' part.

If the weather is nice I might propose outdoors when we're are out for a romantic walk and organize to have flowers/Champagnge in the room on return. If it's raining (probably will be) then place the ring in amongst the flowers perhaps when we arrive (not going to wait around and let the day drag on!)...

I will ask her Dad first but other than that will leave the parents thing until afterward and let it work itself out! They haven't met yet but will be organizing a dinner out well in advance!

I'll be interested to hear any more objective suggestions too!

What do people, particlarly the ladies, think about proposing on her birthday??

Thanks and good luck!

Cyrus · 04-09-2008 10:58AM

yep, having thought about it ill keep it just the two of us,

champers is an idea

i will have to tell her that morning that we are going away and what to pack, she is particular so no point me doing it for her (itd be the same the other way around aswell, we are both just a little like that)

she will have an idea whats going on, but hopefully what i have planned will still make it very special

bstar · 04-09-2008 03:55PM

do not have anyone else there id hate that! people watching puts awful pressure on girl and also means u cant react the same way.

i personally would like the basic- be taken away for the night and have the hotel room have roses in it. some candles and roses petals and have dinner in the room via room service and do it nice and privately in the room. very romantic and shows effort to so makes her feel special.

ecaf · 04-09-2008 04:03PM

OMG! You're so romantic! Fair play for the effort.
My OH gave me d money 2 buy the ring, he went shopping with me before that but the one I liked was in my home town and at the time he couldn't get to pick it up.

We went to a hotel and everything but in the end I just got handed the box and told to put it on. Didn't even get asked or anything! I was a bit upset at the time that it wasn't really romantic stuff, but that's what happens when you know about it and have been discussing it for a while!

In relation to opinions on your OP, I would advise against having the parents there (afterwards), it would be so much nicer if you's were alone and savoured the evening together.

Good luck, but I'm sure you won't need it as for all the effort / thought you put into it.

miju · 06-09-2008 12:38PM

ecaf in fairness even if you discuss it for a while it can still be a suprise / romantic. I was with my fiancee for 7 years before I popped the question on top of Deer Park cliff in Howth and caught her completely unawares.

Even though we'd discussed it and gone "shopping" for rings a good few months before hand.

swimmingly · 08-09-2008 01:55PM

You could add a little surprise by not necessarily going down on one knee but leaving the box on her bedside table while she's showering at the hotel or something

A for effort, either way!

lcollins · 08-09-2008 02:02PM

Well done on planning so much nice things for her. My hubby booked us into a hotel a few yrs ago & when we went into the room, there were balloons, flowers on the bed, champagne and chocolates. He then turned round and went down on bended knee and said the reasons why he wanted to get married. He had dinner pre booked in the hotel and on arrival to our table more champagne there, after dinner our parents were waitin in the bar and we all had a few drinks then just the six of us, nice and relaxed with family

Cyrus · 08-09-2008 02:06PM

im not planning on asking in the hotel, it is in a beautiful area and there are some lovely spots for the proposal

that said i would like to have some champagne on ice etc when we get back, i suppose i should ring the hotel and tell them my plan and see if they can help me out!!

lcollins · 09-09-2008 12:37PM

Thats a very good idea. I work in a hotel as a wedding planner and we still love getting those types of calls as it is different and the hotel will pull out the stops if you give them a ring. Maybe strawberries dipped in chocolate to go along with the champagne or some of her favourite finger food etc

Dfens · 09-09-2008 12:44PM

If its a bad day & you can't get out for the walk, how about a nice romantic bubble bath together with candles or a relaxing couples massage if the hotel has a spa etc.

Enagement plan made, need opinions

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