Ask guest to be invited to wedding

hairymolly · 30-06-2008 02:40PM #1

Is it ok to ask couple to bring a guest to their wedding?

taram · 30-06-2008 05:45PM

Depends on the couple I guess, and time left to the wedding, like can they sort out the food in time, and placing etc. I'd personally think if I didn't put down 'plus guest' on the invite it'd be because I didn't want strangers/extra people there.

simu · 30-06-2008 11:32PM

If you're very close to them, I think it would be ok to suggest possible guests and see their reaction.

barbiegirl · 01-07-2008 09:24AM

Unfortunately probably not. If they didn't put plus guest it probably on account of numbers and costs. If you're close, check cause maybe someone else isn't coming and frees up some space. But please don't make a big deal of it, as I know two girls who fell out big time over the same issue. Approach it very sensitively as the guest list is one of the hardest issues of the wedding to decide upon.

kayos · 02-07-2008 09:26AM

If they had the space/money for an extra person they would have given you a +1 on your invite. A lot of couples end up having to not invite people they would like at the wedding to keep costs down and family happy.

On the first "draft" guest list for our wedding we had nearly tripple the number we where aiming at. That was for the main part just family/relations and our very close friends. Children, +1's and the relations you never really see are the first to go. If people invited on the first round of invites can not come then people you trimmed out but want to invite get invited, not random +1's.

If you had the choice of asking two of your friends to your wedding or one friend and their +1 who you hardly know what would you pick? Your two friends. Dont go asking them if they want to spend another, lets round it up to, €100 just so you can bring a friend. If you know the couple very well, well enough to actually consider asking them to allow you bring a guest, and they did not give you a +1 then I guess your guest is not a partner or someone very new in your life.

I know exactly what I would say to any one that would ask this of us.

ash_18x · 08-07-2008 12:25PM

I have to agree with previous posts, they would have put +1 on the invite if they wanted you to bring someone.
In my case, we are trying to keep the numbers small, just immediate family and really close friends so nobody is getting a + guest. I dont really mind if I offend anyone, at the end of the day I personally dont want someone at my wedding that i dont know!
just my opinion!

Ask guest to be invited to wedding

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