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parents over protective

  • 17-04-2008 04:29PM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,846 ✭✭✭


    Hi,

    First I'm not a parent yet, hoping to start soon though :-) This however is a question on behalf of one of my best mates. In our early 30's lots of mates are married have recently had kids. She has asked at least 4 of her oldest friends, she has no sisters, to be her bridesmaids and they have all said no! They are saying either they may be pregnant, or they won't be comfortable being one because of the babies, in some cases the kids will be nearly 2!

    My question is since when did kids rule the parents lives to this extent. I have brothers and sisters, some much younger than me and some older with kiddies and the kids are loved and cherished but they are part of life not the rulers of it. Is it really too much to expect her best, life long friends to be her bridesmaids? She feels really let down and I would too in her position.


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  • Subscribers Posts: 19,421 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    I agree it sounds selfish. The pregnancy ones you have to accept, I suppose. Noone wants to look like a blimp in a fancy frock. D'ya think maybe the ones who have had kids are self concious about their figures or something? Maybe they dont want to say that as it sounds petty?

    Theres definitely more going on here and the kids are used as an excuse. Its odd that 4 separate people have refused, does your friend have terrible taste in dresses or something?:)

    I have been a bridesmaid, but I have also refused to be one twice, I had my reasons but I was very clear why and didnt blame my kids.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,846 ✭✭✭barbiegirl


    Nope I don't think her taste will be bad. Pretty plain and classic is her usual style. I think pink frills are her idea of hell!!! She's very tall herself and a size 16 so being really skinny isn't a pre-requisite. I don't know of any other reasons, I know she's a very good friend and has spent loads of time with these girls, no big issues, no major addictions, sees everyone regularly. Yeah the kids may be being used as an excuse, but she really is hurt. I've only known her 6 years but she was bridesmaid for all of these girls and has known them all her life. It just seems strange to me.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭kelle


    If I was asked to be a bridesmaid, I wouldn't do it until my youngest was more independent. When my husband and I attend a wedding, firstly we won't go without the children (parents dead, no-one to mind them) and if we do, we need to be with the children the whole time. My youngest is 17 months and even though she's in a creche she is very attached to me and I couldn't stand it if I was at the front of the church and she was roaring at the back wanting me. And others at a wedding just want to have a relaxing day and are not willing to help out with other people's children. I don't think that's selfish, nor is it being overprotective, it's about caring for our children and keeping them safe on the day!
    Maybe her friends have issues like those.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 919 ✭✭✭Shelli


    It is very weird, I know everyone has their own little problems to overcome, but if I was that close to the girl and i really really couldn't find a way around it...last resort: I would go and expect my OH to mind our son, the same would go for him being a groomsman/best man for one of his friends.....

    There is definitely something else going on here if you ask me.

    Pregnant? fair enough, you really just cant tell if your going to fit in a dress, have to go to the hospital etc, so it's only thinking of the bride to decline in that situation.

    But saying they can't because they have kids? I would be very suspicious of it tbh.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,832 ✭✭✭littlebug


    kelle wrote: »
    If I was asked to be a bridesmaid, I wouldn't do it until my youngest was more independent. When my husband and I attend a wedding, firstly we won't go without the children (parents dead, no-one to mind them) and if we do, we need to be with the children the whole time. My youngest is 17 months and even though she's in a creche she is very attached to me and I couldn't stand it if I was at the front of the church and she was roaring at the back wanting me. And others at a wedding just want to have a relaxing day and are not willing to help out with other people's children. I don't think that's selfish, nor is it being overprotective, it's about caring for our children and keeping them safe on the day!
    Maybe her friends have issues like those.

    I was thinking the same thing Kelle. Any wedding I've gone to with the kids has been a bloomin' nightmare and even thought there were 2 of us there they clung to me all day. At one of them I ended up in the hotel room for most of the day because the little one was kicking up such a stink. We had no one else to mind them either.
    The other possibility is that some of them are breastfeeding or planning to be breastfeeding. Leaky boobs in a bridesmaids dress would be pretty mortifying. I have to say that if someone asked me to be a bridesmaid between the time my first baby was born and my second was about 8 months (stopped Breastfeeding) I would have said no. That's a span of over 3 years. As they've got bigger and more independent it's easier to take them places or leave them with babysitters. I'd give them the benefit of the doubt.... I doubt if they all have the same reasons... maybe 2 are pregnant/ feeding or plan to be and the others either have no one to mind the kids or have kids that you just can't take anywhere or leave with a babysitter! I think it's unlucky and unfortunate for your friend but it's just the life phase they're at.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    There is also the fact that some brides expect the bridesmaids to be her team of weddin planners rhater then just turning up in a dress on the day.
    It coudl be they don't have the time for such tasks.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,044 ✭✭✭gcgirl


    I am a mum to 3 little darlings and theres no way i'd bring them to a wedding ! I would not be able to relax at all and i have been to weddings where there have been kids running around the place including the church and its not really the place to do that! As for the bridesmaid thing i do think it is kind of selfish !


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,347 ✭✭✭daiixi


    How can people have *noone* to look after their children?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Very easily, families at not as close knit as they once were and are a lot smaller.
    Less people have kids and parents can often find themselves being one of the few in thier socail and family circles with kids and nowadays those who don't have kids for the most part don't want to infringe on thier weekends minding someone elses.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭kelle


    daiixi wrote: »
    How can people have *noone* to look after their children?
    I think that's quite an insensitive question.
    Like I mentioned in my post, my parents are dead. I miss them terribly, one of the reasons being they were brilliant at minding my children. All my aunts have grandchildren of their own to mind. I have all brothers, who wouldn't be able to mind my children for a full day.
    Anyway I don't think it's fair to expect others to run after your active toddler for the day. And it wouldn't be fair to leave them with somebody they barely know.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,347 ✭✭✭daiixi


    Well no kelle, it's not an insensitive question. I simply just don't understand how so many people can have such little support networks in their lives. Or such selfish or unreliable family or friends. Then again I don't have children yet and may be in for a very rude shock if and when I do.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,015 ✭✭✭Ludo


    Bye bye daiixi. Ask a *stupid* question and then make it even worse with your reply.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭kelle


    daiixi wrote: »
    Well no kelle, it's not an insensitive question. I simply just don't understand how so many people can have such little support networks in their lives. Or such selfish or unreliable family or friends. Then again I don't have children yet and may be in for a very rude shock if and when I do.

    So, Daiixi, will you mind my kids next weekend?:D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,010 ✭✭✭gubby


    "I miss them terribly, one of the reasons being they were brilliant at minding my children."
    Oh my god!!! I hope and pray that when I die my children wont just miss me for the babysitting that I do. I am totally with daiixi in this. some parents just want to crowd their children... for gods sake let them with your brothers they will grow better with a wider base of people in their lives


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭kelle


    gubby wrote: »
    "I miss them terribly, one of the reasons being they were brilliant at minding my children."
    Oh my god!!! I hope and pray that when I die my children wont just miss me for the babysitting that I do. I am totally with daiixi in this. some parents just want to crowd their children... for gods sake let them with your brothers they will grow better with a wider base of people in their lives
    Gubby, I said that was one reason, and it is only a tiny reason! I never said in my post that was "just" the reason I miss them. I decided to add that because it was relevant to this thread, otherwise I would have been going off topic.
    My brothers are great for school runs and for babysitting for a couple of hours. But leaving them with somebody for a full day is a completely different matter. Would you mind 3 children for a full weekend? I notice Daiixi hasn't answered my question! (Though it was a joke)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,015 ✭✭✭Ludo


    How can you be totally with daiixi on this? My parents are over 80 and therefore totally incapable of minding my two 5 month olds much an all as they would want to. My brother lives 200 miles away and has two of his own to mind. Not everyone has a huge family available to mind kids for full days so they can go to a wedding or something. People who fail to understand that are in a very lucky position but are obviously so self-centred that they fail to consider the circumstances others may be in.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭kelle


    Ludo wrote: »
    People who fail to understand that are in a very lucky position but are obviously so self-centred that they fail to consider the circumstances others may be in.
    +1

    I notice none of the above posters have mentioned they would mind somebody else's children for a weekend! Gubby and Daiixi appear to think we should just be able to dump our children on somebody's doorstep and swan off.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,347 ✭✭✭daiixi


    First up, I work and study and don't always have access to boards so apologies for any undue delay in replying.

    Secondly kelle, on the assumption that we're friends, your kids are not unruly brats and I've no other plans already, then yes I would love to help you out and babysit sometimes.

    Thirdly, there is a difference between choosing not to ask family/friends to look after your kids or using babysitters and having noone to look after your children. There's also a difference between people doing you a favour and helping you look after your children (and presumably you returning the favour) and continually "dumping" your kids on someones doorstep and "swanning off".

    Fourthly Ludo, don't stress yourself out. As I said above, I don't have kids and I'm not in the situation that many of you are in. All I'm doing is engaging in conversation to see where you're coming from. I thought that was the point of forums like this. I don't "fail to understand this" because it hadn't been explained to me. Hence why I asked. I'm not judging anyone or calling anyone names or being mean I'm just asking people to explain themselves. Surely that's not being self-centred?!

    Lastly, I'm not sure how Gubby thinks they're with me on this one when all I wanted was for people to explain themselves a bit more.

    /edit: and to be on topic, I can understand why women would say no to being a bridesmaid if they have small children, are pregnant or are hoping to become pregant. I think many brides rely a lot on their bridesmaids and I can understand that many mothers may feel that they just won't be able to give the effort/time required. I also think that many women many not feel comfortable being bridesmaid while pregnant or at any time after the birth of their child due to various reasons. Does it suck for the OP's friend? Sure, maybe she should sit down with each woman and ask why they said no and see if a compromise could be met.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    I would like to remind everyone of the site rules of being civil and of the forum rules to play nice.

    I for one would not have a problem having Daiixi mind my brats.

    I do have family and still find it hard but for something like a wedding or an event with enough notic it is possible.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 433 ✭✭giddyup


    OP I think some people who have kids lose the run of themselves a bit with the old kid related excuses to get out of things. I'd focus on why they don't want to do it.

    Yes lots of people have genuine kiddy issues that prevent them from doing stuff but there are plenty who just play the kiddy card when they are feeling a bit lazy or maybe can't be arsed doing something.

    Hands-up here any parent who has never done that. My hands are down.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,846 ✭✭✭barbiegirl


    Thanks guys,
    It does suck for my friend and it is the time of life all of our mates are at. I guess I also come with a large support network and I babysit often for friends and family from new borns to older kids. So i guess I don't get it. Plus my friend is no bridezilla and is planning a very small wedding so no big fuss etc. Guess it's just her luck.
    I know when my uncle got married, my mum left my youngest brother, then about 6 months old with my aunt on the other side for the day and night. It wasn't dumping or anything like it, simply asking for help and getting it. I do think there are too many people today who want to be super mum, always being there and never asking for help for fear of being judged. But asking for help and also giving help in return is how everyother generation handled it.
    As for brothers not being able to take a kid for the day, yes they can, and mine all do right down to the 18 year old who can take and mind any of my nieces and nephews. Boys aren't incapable.
    Me I'm luckier thank God, my sister who's youngest won't quite be the year is my chief bridesmaid, and don't anyone insinuate that she is a bad mum for being such, and I have 2 cousins who don't have kids yet as well, as I said I'm luckier.
    To me kids are to be loved and cherished but should not stop the adult parts of your life or control completely everything you do. We didn't do that to our parents so why should our kids do it to us. Babysitters are not bad, over worked, over stressed parents are. Still again just my opinion.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭kelle


    It's one thing getting somebody to babysit your children for a couple of hours, it's another to get somebody to mind your baby/toddler for a full day. My older children aged 6 and 7 are left with others and there's no problems, but for my toddler it's a different matter. A baby/toddler needs a lot more attention than a child of 4 or older, active toddlers can exhaust somebody who is not used to them. If you really trust somebody and they're willing, then it's okay to leave your toddler with them. But if that person is not used to looking after toddlers, and is not going to watch them properly then there could be a serious accident!
    I don't think any wedding or bridesmaid invitation is worth the risk. Children are little for such a short time and so precious, if others think we're being selfish so be it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,832 ✭✭✭littlebug


    I guess when you've good support network around you it is hard to see the other side. Before I had kids I wouldn't have dreamt how little support I would actually have. The only relative who lives within 200 miles is an 80 year old man. My family are far away but they're getting on a bit too. I did ask my mam to mind them once for a wedding but it didn't happen:( I never got a reason but I won't ask again. There are no aunts and uncles or cousins available. When we were younger we had alot of friends living in the same city. Now we've all dispersed and no lives close anymore and all have their own babies now. My kdis barely know them and they barely know my kids. There are 2 couples I would be happy enough (now my kids are a bit bigger but not before now) to leave them with but they have very small kids of their own with so have enough on their hands. I wouldn't ask them and they wouldn't ask me.

    The next option is paid babysitters. We went to a wedding last year and had a babysitter who been fine before minding them at night. But it turned out that she watched telly all day, paid them little attention and put them to bed at 7.15. (so they woke at 5am.. lovely when we'd rolled in at 2). My daughter asked never to leave her for a whole day again as she was so miserable:(. I do have another occasional babysitter who is wonderful but she's well into her 20s, works full time and to be honest I feel like it's a lot to ask her to give up her weekend for my children. A whole day/ night is a lot to ask. It's also costly.

    I think it's different when you live in the place you've been brought up and have family and friends living nearby.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,495 ✭✭✭run_Forrest_run


    littlebug wrote: »
    I think it's different when you live in the place you've been brought up and have family and friends living nearby.

    +1

    So true and I also agree with Ludo. I am often driven mad when i see parents just taking the grandparents for granted when they leave their kids there to be minded while they go to work. It would be nice if these shortsighted people realised that some of us are not born, bred & living in the one area all their life.

    Actually I was only talking to a colleague last week who lived in Australia for over 5 years but when she was going to have kids she moved home, nice and close to the grandparents and guess who's minding the kids now, yes, poor granny and grandad!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,262 ✭✭✭di11on


    You know, it's really nice to hear that so many others have noone to mind their kids either.

    My parents aren't really up to the job because of health issues etc, my siblings all live in other countries and my OH is a fordener :-) I thought we were the only ones that had this problem... I feel better now! Maybe people should form kiddie minding groups or something?!?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Parents babysitting collectives tbh.

    When I was growing up one of my aunts had something like that going on her road, there were a few families and they would baby sit for each other and they had 'passes' which they used and you earned on by minding someone elses kids and ocassionally they would have a big house party and all the kids would have a sleep over in one house with usuallty myself and one of my sisters minding them.

    But with less people having kid, famlies being smaller and living a lot further away and people living in housing estates where there may not be many families with kids it is hard.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,495 ✭✭✭run_Forrest_run


    di11on wrote: »
    You know, it's really nice to hear that so many others have noone to mind their kids either.

    ..
    ..
    I feel better now! Maybe people should form kiddie minding groups or something?!?

    Well yes, we do something like that with friends living near us. They also have a two year old and if we ever needed someone to help out for an hour or so then we call on each other. Or also we will arrange to babysit for them if they want to go to the cinema and vice versa. It's all pretty rare though but good to know we are there if needs be.

    It's nice to know you are not alone on the 'no family living near them thing'...I think you appreciate things better and you really appreciate your time when you get a chance to go out for dinner etc.

    I know many people who just expect the grandparents to mind the kids for them and they are pretty selfish. Nine to five then turns into babysitting on the friday or saturday night and sometimes poor granny ends up staying overnight because greedy mam and dad 'couldn't get a taxi home' :rolleyes:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭kelle


    Despite what I said in my post about my parents, I actually never depended on them to mind my children. I understood Mum valued her independence and she had reared 5 children. When my son reached 3, she actually started asking to mind him for a couple of hours in the morning. In return I'd go into town and buy her groceries hassle-free because my son was with her not me. This arrangement suited both me and her. She hated grocery shopping and I couldn't do it when my son was with me. And she'd babysit on a Wednesday night, but we'd make sure the children were fast asleep before she arrived, and they never awoke once when she was there. We'd also ensure there was a blazing fire and have the TV set to her favourite channel. As a token of gratitude I'd give her e150 every few weeks to go and buy herself new clothes. We never once took advantage of her or Dad.
    My mother-in-law cares for my two older children after school, but we pay her the same as if she were a childcare worker. And she wouldn't be able to mind them for the day or a weekend and we wouldn't dream of asking her.
    I see others leaving their children with their parents all the time, (I know someone who went on holidays to Tenerife and left her Mum with her 5 children for a week!) and I do think how selfish they are.
    Thaedydal wrote:
    I for one would not have a problem having Daiixi mind my brats.
    Now, now, Thaedydal, I asked him first!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,820 ✭✭✭Femelade


    I am in an extremely fortunate position whereas i live at home with my parents and my sister and my daughter.
    My mom minds my daughter ofr me any night i want to go out, i usually put her to bed before i go out, but sometimes my mom does it for me. My other sister (who doesnt live with us) has 2 children and my mom has minded them along with my own daughter on tons of occasions!
    We dont take my mother for granted, she knows how much we appreciate her, (and if she doesnt and is reading this then - thanks mom we do appreciate you!)

    Next weekend, my whole family are going to a wedding, my sister isnt taking her kids, her child minder who minds them while she is at work is going to mind them for 2 nights, both her and the kids are really looking forward to it. I am bringing my daugher but as i will be bridesmaid, it will have to be up to my family to mind her for me.
    I think people can be very over protective with their kids, i think it is a bit unhealthy for a child to be so attached to one parent..i understand that some kids are just like that..but i hear people making excuses why they cant leave their kids with other family members..and thats all they are..excuses...maybe its the parents that are too attached to their kids and not the other way around..


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,832 ✭✭✭littlebug


    Femmy wrote: »
    I am in an extremely fortunate position whereas i live at home with my parents and my sister and my daughter.
    My mom minds my daughter ofr me any night i want to go out, i usually put her to bed before i go out, but sometimes my mom does it for me. My other sister (who doesnt live with us) has 2 children and my mom has minded them along with my own daughter on tons of occasions!
    We dont take my mother for granted, she knows how much we appreciate her, (and if she doesnt and is reading this then - thanks mom we do appreciate you!)

    Next weekend, my whole family are going to a wedding, my sister isnt taking her kids, her child minder who minds them while she is at work is going to mind them for 2 nights, both her and the kids are really looking forward to it. I am bringing my daugher but as i will be bridesmaid, it will have to be up to my family to mind her for me.
    I think people can be very over protective with their kids, i think it is a bit unhealthy for a child to be so attached to one parent..i understand that some kids are just like that..but i hear people making excuses why they cant leave their kids with other family members..and thats all they are..excuses...maybe its the parents that are too attached to their kids and not the other way around..

    Femmy the point that some of us are trying to make is that we do not have family members that we can leave our kids with! Believe me if I had able and reliable family living close by I'd be out every weekend and going away for a night or a weekend would not be a problem but I don't. I know I'm not the only one in that situation.


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Boards.ie is not responsible for and does not endorse the contents of user’s posts or warrant the accuracy, truthfulness, legality or reliability of user’s posts. You are entirely responsible for material which you post. You agree to fully indemnify Boards SoftwareLimited against all damages, claims, expenses, liabilities, claims and costs (including legal costs) which Boards Software may suffer or incur in the event of any legal proceedings being brought against Boards SoftwareLimited, in consequence of your posting Material. For the avoidance of doubt, the indemnity you give to Boards SoftwareLimited is effective in respect of any and all legal proceedings including any and all possible causes of action that may result from any breach of these Terms of Use and/or applicable law.

We expect you to act responsibly in posting Material on Boards.ie. You agree, through use of this service, NOT to use boards.ie to:


  • post illegal Material
  • treat others with disrespect
  • defame, abuse, harass, stalk, threaten or otherwise violate the rights (such as rights of
  • privacy and publicity) of others
  • identify or speculate as to the identity of any anonymous or pseudonymous user
  • attempt to solicit information from any other user under false pretences, for example by
  • attempting phishing-like attacks
  • attempt to solicit personal information from anyone under 18
  • harm minors in any way
  • solicit passwords or personally identifying information for commercial or unlawful purposes
  • collect or store other users\' personal data without their consent
  • attempt to gain unauthorised access to the boards.ie administrative areas or interface, to user accounts, computer systems or networks connected to the Boards.ie site, through password mining or any other meanspost irrelevant Material, repeatedly post the same or similar Material or otherwise impose an unreasonable or disproportionately large load on the boards.ie servers or infrastructure
  • post any unsolicited or unauthorised advertising, promotional content, \'junk mail\', \'spam\', \'chain letters\', \'pyramid schemes\', or any other form of commercial publicity
  • post any abusive, harmful, vulgar, obscene, sexually explicit, indecent, profane, inappropriate, or racially, ethnically or otherwise objectionable Material, except where the content is appropriate to the content of the forum and you have been granted specific permission to do so and subject to our guidelines on said content
  • post Material that contains violence, or offensive subject matter or contains a link to an adult website
  • post Material in respect of any matter that is currently before the courts
  • post Material that could be construed as scandalising the courts
  • post Material that promotes or encourages illegal activity or facilitates or encourages any violation of these Terms of Use
  • post Material that infringes any patent, trademark, trade secret, copyright, rights of privacy or publicity, or other proprietary right or intellectual property right of any party
  • post Material that falsely expresses or implies that such Material is sponsored or endorsed by boards.ie
  • post Material that contains software viruses or harmful programs including but not limited to, Trojan horses, worms, time bombs, cancel-bots, computer code, files or programs designed to interrupt, disrupt, destroy or limit the functionality of any computer software or hardware or telecommunications equipment
  • modify, adapt, translate, or reverse engineer any portion of boards.ie, or use any robot, spider, site search/retrieval application, or other device to retrieve or index any portion of boards.ie, except as expressly authorised in writing by boards.ie
  • reformat or frame any portion of the web pages that are part of boards.ie


Moderators and Administrators

In order to allow for the proper administration of boards.ie we make use of third party moderators and administrators. And in order for them to properly carry out their functions as moderators and administrators they require access to personal information concerning you, your boards.ie account and your activity on the site. Such data is only permitted to be used by our third party moderators and administrators for the purposes of administering the site and cannot be used by them for any other purpose. If you agree to be a moderator or administrator for boards.ie you agree that any user personal information available to you is to be used solely for the purpose of administering the site and will not be used for any other purpose.


  1. You are responsible for your account and its details

As part of the registration process, you will be asked to select a username and password and you will be responsible for all activities occurring under your username and for keeping your password secure. We strongly recommend you do not reuse a password which you also use elsewhere.


6.1 Usernames

We would recommend you choose a pseudonym and do not use your real name (or a derivative of it) when joining boards.ie. You may not select or use a username that:

  • contains "Boards" or otherwise misrepresents your relationship with boards.ie or any other party
  • contains any profanity, is vulgar or offensive, or promotes an illegal activity
  • violates any trademark or other proprietary right
  • misleadingly impersonates someone else
  • Occasionally users may speculate about the identity of anonymous or pseudonymous users. Such speculation is against our Terms of Use and we delete all such posts which are brought to our attention. However please be aware that we cannot guarantee that other users will not be able to determine your identity. There should be no expectation of complete anonymity anywhere on the internet.
  • We reserve the rights to change usernames at our discretion. You cannot change your username after registration unless you become a subscriber.



6.2 Accounts and passwords

Boards.ie reserves the right to log off or deactivate accounts that are inactive for more than 6 years.

You cannot create more than one personal profile. You may not share your account with anyone. You agree not to provide any false information to Boards.ie or to create an account for anyone other than yourself without the express permission of that other person or entity. You agree not to use the account or password of another user and not to disclose your password to any third party. You agree to notify us immediately if you suspect any unauthorised use of your account or access to your password.

Boards Software Limited will not be liable for any loss that you may incur as a result of someone else using or accessing your password or account, either with or without your knowledge.

You may be held liable for losses incurred by us or any other party as a result of someone else using or accessing your password or account if you have not taken reasonable steps to keep your password or account secure.

Boards.ie may at its absolute discretion refuse you access to the site, delete posts by you or suspend/terminate your account without prior notice for any reason and you shall not be entitled to any compensation in respect of this. If we disable your account you will not be entitled to create another account without our permission.

These Terms of Use, including, in particular, the indemnities contained herein, shall survive any suspension or termination of your account.


6.3 User status

Please note that your user status will appear in connection with your username. For example, should you receive a warning then a yellow card will appear on the post. Similarly, should you receive an infraction relating to your use of boards.ie, a red card will appear. Should you be banned from using boards.ie, the word \'Banned\' will appear under your username.


6.4 Your interactions with other users

Boards SoftwareLimited has no obligation to verify the identity of any users when they are connected to the site or to monitor Material provided by them.

Your interactions with other users, including payment and delivery of goods or services, and any other terms, conditions, warranties or representations associated with such dealings, are solely between you and the other user.

As with any web-based interaction, we suggest that you use caution and good judgment. If there is a dispute between you and any third party (including any advertiser), we are under no obligation to become involved.

You are encouraged to exercise discretion when providing personal information about yourself on boards.ie. Any personal information which you volunteer in your public profile or post on the forums will be available worldwide to anyone with access to the website.

We recommend you never post your name, address, telephone number, email address or anything else that may lead someone to identify you if this is something you are uncomfortable with.

Please note that certain information (such as photographs) which you may choose to provide might reveal your gender, ethnic origin, nationality, religion and/or sexual orientation.

If you have an active boards.ie account you can request that your Personal Data be edited or deleted. This can be done by sending a Private Message (PM) to “Boards.ie: GDPR” (if for any reason you are unable to access or send a PM please email datarequests@boards.ie and we will get back to you with further instructions).

For closed accounts, all Personal Data will be deleted. Posts made by users whose accounts were subsequently closed cannot be associated with other information held by Boards.ie that relates to an identified or identifiable natural person and as such are not considered Personal Data.

In specific instances where the content of a post contains sensitive data or data that could be used to identify an individual and where the original poster no longer has an active boards.ie account you can request that we edit or delete the post; these requests will be dealt with on a case-by-case basis.


  1. Closing your account and our right to ban accounts or remove user privileges

You can close your user account at any time. This process is irreversible and permanent.

Closing your account means we will delete your password, remove any email subscriptions or notifications you may receive, delete all Personal Data we hold about you and turn off your Private Messages. This process does not remove any posts you have made on the site and does not remove the IP address that is captured when each post is submitted.

The posts are retained as they are an intrinsic part of the thread in which they are posted and removing them may make the thread unreadable or make the other posts difficult to understand or follow. The IP addresses captured with each post are retained for anti-spamming purposes. It should be noted that post IP address cannot be linked with other data to identify the individual who made the post as all other data concerning that individual will have been permanently deleted upon account closure.

Boards.ie may at its absolute discretion refuse you access to the site and/or cancel/terminate your user privileges without prior notice for any reason and you shall not be entitled to any compensation in respect of cancellation/termination of your user privileges. If we disable your account you will not be entitled to create another account without our permission.

These Terms of Use, including our proprietary rights, disclaimer of warranties, indemnities, limitations of liability, choice of law and choice of forum, and miscellaneous provisions shall survive any termination of your user privileges.

Without limiting the foregoing, the following will lead to a suspension of your privileges on boards.ie:


  • breaches or violations of these Terms of Use or other Boards.ie guidelines
  • requests by law enforcement or other government agencies
  • unexpected technical issues or problems or
  • extended periods of inactivity

  1. Posting on boards.ie


8.1 Content posted on boards.ie

You are solely responsible for your conduct and any Material that you submit, post, and/or display on boards.ie. You agree not to post Material contrary to these Terms of Use or any applicable law.

Due to the real-time nature of boards.ie, Boards.ie cannot and is not required to review the contents of posted Material, nor does it confirm the validity of information submitted. Boards SoftwareLimited hereby notifies you that it does not actively monitor Material posted by users and, as such, is not responsible for and gives no warranty or representation in relation to Material posted by users.

Because community standards vary and individuals sometimes may not comply with our policies and guidelines, in the process of using boards.ie, you may be exposed to content that you find offensive or objectionable. Users are encouraged to bring any Material they deem offensive or objectionable to the attention of forum moderators by using the Report Post Feature identifying the specific Material you consider is objectionable. You must be logged in to boards.ie in order to report a post. For material that you consider objectionable you will be asked to give your reasons for wanting the Material removed.

Users are informed that if they deem Material to be defamatory or an infringement of their intellectual property rights they should inform boards.ie by emailing hello@boards.ie.


Do not use the Report Post Feature to report defamatory Material or Material which infringes your intellectual property rights.

You will be asked to give your reasons for wanting the Material removed. Please note that the Boards.ie offices are open for business from 9am to 5.30pm Monday to Friday, excluding national and public holidays in the Republic of Ireland. Any notifications received from users outside of the aforementioned hours will only be addressed upon the re-opening of the Boards.ie offices.

If another user defames, abuses, harasses, stalks, or threatens you or otherwise violates your rights on boards.ie please report the post to Boards.ie by emailing hello@boards.ie or by using the Report Post Feature identifying the specific Material you consider is objectionable.

Whilst we do not monitor Material posted by users, we reserve the right to take down Material that comes to our attention via a complaint or otherwise. Members who repeatedly flout our guidelines or these Terms of Use will be barred from joining discussions on boards.ie. You will not necessarily be notified when Material is removed or when you have been banned. Boards.ie will not enter into any correspondence with or about users who have been banned.

Boards.ie reserves the right to immediately ban a user if there has been a serious breach of our guidelines or these Terms of Use. All decisions in relation to these matters are carried out at the sole discretion of Boards.ie.

Boards.ie may be required to disclose your Personal Data (as such term is defined under the General Data Protection Regulation) when legally obliged to do so or when otherwise compelled to disclose such Personal Data – please see our Privacy Notice for further details.

We may, but are not obliged to, remove or limit access to Material from any user which breaches these Terms of Use.

You own all of the Material you post on Boards.ie and we do not claim ownership of that Material. However, we need your permission to be able to display that Material and in some cases to modify it for best display – for different browsers, for our mobile site, and so on.

Consequently, by posting any Material on or through boards.ie, you grant Boards SoftwareLimited a limited licence to use, modify, publicly perform, publicly display, reproduce, and distribute such Material. The licence you grant to Boards SoftwareLimited is non-exclusive, royalty free and fully paid, sub-licensable, and worldwide. This licence applies only to use of the Material for the purpose of providing the Boards.ie service. You also waive to the fullest extent permissible by law any moral rights in such Material. You are responsible for making sure that you have all rights to what you post, including the rights necessary for you to grant the licence above.

By posting any Material on boards.ie you represent and warrant that: (i) you own the Material posted by you or otherwise have the right to grant the licence above, and (ii) the posting of the Material does not violate the privacy rights, publicity rights, intellectual property rights, confidentiality, contract rights or any other rights of any person. You agree to pay all royalties, fees, or any other monies owing any person by reason of any Material posted by you to or through boards.ie.

From time to time we may seek to use users\' Material for the purpose of advertising or marketing boards.ie.

Please do not post any information you are not happy to have publicly viewable on the site.

In order to ensure that threads and conversations are not disrupted, we do not generally remove Material which is uploaded to us. Consequently, you agree that your Material displayed on boards.ie may continue to appear on boards.ie, even after you have terminated your user privileges, closed your account or have had your user privileges terminated by boards.ie. This provision does not affect your rights under data protection law, as set out in our Privacy Notice.

To have original creative Material deleted, please contact the relevant forum moderator (by using the private messaging system available to all registered users when they are logged onto boards.ie) with a direct link to the relevant item and your request. We will delete it within 30 working days of your request, as far as is reasonably possible.

Please note that deletion of original creative Material applies only to Material you have uploaded to boards.ie. If you have posted a link on boards.ie to Material hosted elsewhere (such as Flickr or YouTube) then, as Boards.ie is not the host, you will have to contact the other site to have that Material deleted.

We cannot guarantee that other users will not use the ideas and information that you share. Therefore, if you have an idea or information that you would like to keep confidential and/or don\'t want others to use, you must not post it on boards.ie. We are not responsible for a user\'s misuse or misappropriation of any content or information you post on boards.ie.


8.2 Defamatory Content

Boards.ie operates on a "notice and takedown" basis. If you believe that any content on boards.ie contains a defamatory statement, please notify Boards.ie immediately by emailing hello@boards.ie. Once this notification has been received, Boards.ie will use all reasonable endeavours to remove the defamatory content complained about within a reasonable period of time.

In the case of a genuine grievance which requires a legal response, Boards.ie can only release personal data about any of our members when requested by an investigating member of An Garda Síochána or on receipt of a court order.

Please note, if you threaten legal action against Boards.ie, by extension against Boards SoftwareLimited, your account will be site-banned by an Administrator until such time as the issue is resolved. This is strict site policy and is enforced by all moderators and Administrators.

Please note also that Boards.ie offices are open for business from 9am to 5.30pm Monday to Friday. Take down requests received outside of the aforementioned hours will only be addressed upon the re-opening of Boards.ie offices.


8.3 Content infringing Intellectual Property Rights.

Boards.ie operates on a "notice and takedown" basis. If you believe that any content on boards.ie infringes your intellectual property rights, please notify Boards.ie immediately by emailing hello@boards.ie. Once this notification has been received, Boards.ie will use all reasonable endeavours to remove the infringing content complained about within a reasonable period of time.


8.4 Nuisance posts

Our first line of defence against nuisance posts is to delete them and to ban the user. Nuisance posts include potentially defamatory material, surreptitious advertising, any other posts which breach the posting guidelines and/or our Terms of Use and any form of messages, posts or emails deemed offensive by the administrators or moderators. In addition, where a user recommends the products or services of their employer, they should state their conflict of interest. Where they do not do so, we reserve the right to point out that the user appears to have a conflict of interest.

Where a nuisance poster persists, we reserve the right to use email addresses and IP addresses to identify the user and halt the nuisance.

Boards.ie does not condone personal abuse or harassment towards any member. Boards.ie does not condone defamatory posts directed at any individual or company. If someone else has posted material about you on boards.ie without your permission and you would like to request that it be removed please contact us at hello@boards.ie.


  1. Feedback, suggestions and submissions about boards.ie

From time to time users contact us with feedback, suggestions and submissions about boards.ie and how to improve the site and services we offer. Boards.ie welcomes the input, and the following terms ensure that we can use your contributions to improve boards.ie.

You do not have to submit anything to Boards.ie about boards.ie, but if you do you acknowledge and agree that any questions, comments, suggestions, ideas, feedback, or any other submissions to Boards.ie which may improve our products, services, or offerings shall become the property of Boards SoftwareLimited unless otherwise agreed by Boards SoftwareLimited.

By making a submission to boards.ie about boards.ie, you grant a non-exclusive, irrevocable, worldwide, perpetual, unlimited, assignable, sub licensable, fully paid up and royalty-free right to Boards SoftwareLimited to copy, prepare derivative works from, improve, distribute, publish, remove, retain, add, and use and commercialise, in any way now known or in the future discovered, anything that you submit to Boards.ie, without any further consent, notice and/or compensation to you or to any third parties.

If you do not want to grant Boards SoftwareLimited the rights set out above, please do not make 

submissions to Boards.ie.


  1. Content of advertisements on boards.ie

You acknowledge that Material presented to you by boards.ie, advertisers, or other users may be protected by copyrights, trademarks, patents or other proprietary rights or other intellectual property right and laws. All copyright and other proprietary notices in the Material must be left intact.


  1. Links to and content of third party sites


11.1 Links to other websites

Boards.ie contains links to other websites operated by third parties over whom Boards SoftwareLimited has no control. Such links are provided for your convenience only and Boards Software accepts no responsibility or liability in respect of the content or use of other websites. Such links do not amount to an endorsement or recommendation of these sites by Boards Software. Boards Software Limited does not exercise any control or supervision over the content of these linked sites.

Boards Software Limited is not responsible for the content or accuracy of or for the opinions expressed in these third party websites and these websites are not investigated, monitored or checked for accuracy or completeness by Boards.ie.

Some of these sites may contain materials that are objectionable, unlawful, or inaccurate. The fact that these links appear does not mean that Boards.ie endorses these third party sites or services.

If you do decide to leave the boards.ie site and access third party sites you do so at your own risk. Third party sites linked via the boards.ie site are not covered by these Terms of Use or the Boards.ie Privacy Notice.


11.2 Links to boards.ie and Associated Websites

Boards.ie and its parent company and associated companies permit third parties to link to boards.ie so long as the link: (a) is not in any way misleading; (b) does not falsely imply sponsorship, endorsement or approval of the linking party and its products or services; and (c) fits within the context of the linking party\'s site.

By linking to boards.ie you hereby authorise Boards.ie to link to any website owned or controlled by you.


11.3 Third Party Content

The inclusion of any content from other sites, either quoted directly or linked to ("Third Party Content") on boards.ie does not imply any affiliation or endorsement of such Third Party Content by Boards SoftwareLimited.

You understand that by using boards.ie you may be exposed to Third Party Content that is offensive, indecent or objectionable.

Because Boards.ie does not control third party sites, you agree that Boards SoftwareLimited is not responsible for any such Third Party Content and that this is the sole responsibility of the person from which such Third Party Content originated, and Boards.ie has no obligation to monitor such Third Party Content.

Notwithstanding the foregoing, Boards Software reserves the right, but shall have no obligation, to pre-screen, filter, remove, refuse to accept, post, display or transmit any Third Party Content in whole or part at any time for any reason or no reason with or without notice and with no liability of any kind.


  1. Intellectual property

All intellectual property rights in the website design, text, graphics, the selection and arrangement thereof and all software vest in Boards SoftwareLimited unless otherwise indicated. Boards Software reserves all of its rights.

The above does not include Materials which are the property of advertisers or users.

You acknowledge that all trademarks, trade names, service marks, rights (registered or unregistered) in any designs, applications for any of the foregoing; trade or business names; innovations, inventions whether or not capable of protection by patent or registration, registered design and topography rights; know-how, including data specifications, drawings and instructions; secret formulae and processes; rights protecting goodwill and reputation; database rights and rights under licences and consents in relation to such things, rights in the nature of unfair competition rights, and rights to sue for passing of and all rights or forms of protection of a similar nature to any of the foregoing or having equivalent effect anywhere in the world and all copyright, trademarks and other intellectual property rights in and relating to boards.ie (collectively "Intellectual Property") are solely owned by Boards Software Limited.

You may not reproduce, publish, transmit, distribute, display, modify, create derivative works from, sell or participate in any sale of, or exploit in any way, in whole or in part, the Material at boards.ie without the written permission of Boards SoftwareLimited.


Advertising on boards.ie


  1. Advertising and Verified Representatives.

Boards.ie is a free service offered to our users and, as such, Boards.ie solely relies on revenue generated from advertisements served on the site to be financially sustainable and continue in business. Therefore, in agreeing to these Terms of Use you agree that Boards SoftwareLimited may serve advertisements on site or work with a third party to serve the advertisements, including personalised ads, and may implement anonymised site analytics functionality on the site. Advertisements placed on boards.ie may include but are not limited to banner ads, paid links, pop-up windows, buttons and sponsorships. These advertisements use "non personally identifiable information". They do not use personal data about you, such as your name, email address, physical address, telephone number, social security numbers, bank account numbers or credit card numbers. For further information, please see our Cookie Policy.

You agree that Boards SoftwareLimited has the right to run such advertisements and promotions on boards.ie.


13.1 For users:

Boards.ie does not control services which are supplied by third parties and the inclusion of advertising or sponsorship does not imply endorsement or recommendation of the third party by us or any association with that third party. Advertisers and sponsors are responsible for ensuring that Material complies with international and national law. Boards SoftwareLimited does not give any warranty, guarantee nor make any representation regarding any advertisement or any merchandise, product or service offered or provided by third party companies advertising or interacting on boards.ie.

You may report any advertisement or content you feel is unsuitable for boards.ie to us, on the understanding that its removal is at our sole discretion.

You can choose to opt in or opt out of the serving of personalised advertisements on boards.ie, however you cannot opt out of the serving of non-personalised ads. To change your preferences regarding personalised ads please go to http://www.youronlinec...m/ie/your-ad-choices. Please note that these changes will apply not just to boards.ie but to other sites you may also visit.

Your correspondence or business dealing with, or participation in promotions of, advertisers or third parties found on or through boards.ie, including payment for and delivery of related goods or services, and any other representations associated with such dealings, are solely between you and such advertiser or third party.

You agree that Boards SoftwareLimited shall not be responsible or liable for any loss or damage of any sort incurred as the result of any such dealings or as the result of the presence of such advertisers or third parties on boards.ie.




13.2 Commercial Activity, Verified Representatives and "Talk to..." Forums:

You must seek permission from Boards SoftwareLimited before carrying out any commercial activity on boards.ie. Any person or company attempting to advertise or otherwise promote themselves who has not been authorised by us will have their user accounts banned and their posts deleted. By using boards.ie for any commercial activity you agree to the following additional terms.

Boards.ie provides a platform for commercial representatives ("Verified Representatives") to engage with users on boards.ie. We allow authorised Verified Representatives to post relevant, appropriate content to our forums or blog on the understanding that we make no guarantee of traffic, engagement and/or uptake by Boards.ie users. We reserve the right to choose whom we allow to take part.

All content posted by Verified Representatives must be in compliance with these Terms of Use and our guidelines. The charter of each forum must also be followed in relation to the type of content and level of commercial interaction which is acceptable there. The charter will be displayed prominently in the relevant forum.

We reserve the right to remove any Material that contravenes these Terms of Use, our guidelines, other boards.ie rules or forum charters.

By becoming a Verified Representative, you agree that:

  1. You are responsible for your presence on boards.ie, for your adherence to the rules and guidelines on boards.ie and for the content you post. Boards SoftwareLimited is not responsible for the content posted by Verified Representatives
  2. You are subject to the rules of boards.ie (including these Terms of Use) as well as the forum charters and boards.ie guidelines. Your presence as an advertiser or Verified Representative does not grant you any privileges to break rules in the forums.
  3. You will use the personal information you receive from boards.ie users only for the purpose of answering a question, resolving an issue or other specified action. Under no circumstances will you use this data for any marketing activity without the express permission of the boards.ie user.
  4. You will make it clear to users what user data you are going to use and how you will use, display, or share that data.
  5. You will delete all user data you received from boards.ie if we disable your account or ask you to do so
  6. You will provide customer support. You will make it easy for users to contact you. You will deal with any questions or issues on thread where appropriate. You will not try to evade answering reasonable queries. We can also share your email address with users if appropriate, and with your prior consent
  7. You will not show ads on your boards.ie presence except with the prior permission of Boards Software Limited
  8. You will not misrepresent your relationship with boards.ie to others.
  9. You may use the logos we make or issue a press release or other public statement relating to your use of boards.ie only with the prior written permission of Boards.ie
  10. Boards SoftwareLimited can issue a press release describing our relationship with you.
  11. Boards SoftwareLimited can measure your content, data and interaction on Boards.ie for any purpose, including commercial (such as for case studies and presentations).
  12. For all enquiries about advertising or commercial activity on boards.ie, please contact hello@boards.ie 


Rights of Boards.ie


Our rights and responsibilities


14.1 Liability and accuracy:

Boards Software Limited does not give any warranty or make any representation as to the accuracy or completeness of the information contained on boards.ie. Material posted on boards.ie is not intended to amount to advice on which reliance should be placed. Boards SoftwareLimited therefore disclaims all liability and responsibility arising from any reliance placed on such Material by any user, or by anyone who may be informed of any of its contents. Although rigorous protocols are applied to boards.ie we do not make any warranty that boards.ie is free from infection by viruses or anything else that has contaminating or disruptive properties. Under no circumstances shall we be held liable for any delay or failure in performance resulting directly or indirectly from acts of nature, forces, or causes beyond our reasonable control, including, without limitation, Internet failures, computer equipment failures, telecommunication equipment failures, other equipment failures, electrical power failures, strikes, labour disputes, riots, insurrections, civil disturbances, shortages of labour or materials, fires, floods, storms, explosions, acts of God, war, governmental actions, orders of domestic or foreign courts or tribunals, non-performance of third parties, or loss of or fluctuations in electricity or other utility supply.

  1. Boards SoftwareLimited does not give any warranty or make any representation as to the identity of any user on boards.ie. Any use of, or reliance placed on, any content or Materials posted to boards.ie by any user, or obtained by you through boards.ie, is at your own risk.
  2. Boards.ie may offer Verified Representative Accounts to individuals that represent organisations. We may obtain certain documentation to reasonably establish authenticity and to satisfy ourselves of these individuals\' identity and authority to represent organisations. We do not give any warranty or make any representation that Verified Representatives express the views or opinions of the organisations which they represent. Users who purport to represent organisations, but do not have a Verified Representative account are operating outside of these Terms of Use and have not attempted to establish their authenticity with us.
  3. Users of boards.ie should satisfy themselves as to the accuracy, completeness and reliability of the information contained on boards.ie and, where applicable, as to the identity of other users.
  4. Under no conditions and in no event shall Boards SoftwareLimited be liable for any direct or indirect, incidental, consequential, special or exemplary damages or loss howsoever arising, (including but not limited to negligence or breach of these Terms of Use or otherwise) or for any loss of data, profit, revenue, goodwill or business howsoever caused even if that loss or damage was foreseeable by us, or the possibility of it was brought to our attention.

  5. 14.2 Users:
  6. Boards SoftwareLimited may at its sole discretion for any reason (i) disable or deactivate your account, block your email or IP address, or otherwise terminate your access to or use of boards.ie, (ii) remove and discard any posts or Material within any thread or anywhere on boards.ie or (iii) shut down a discussion, thread or forum that you are involved in, with or without notice, and with no liability of any kind to you.

  • 14.3 Availability of service:
  • Boards SoftwareLimited may at its sole discretion and at any time, discontinue temporarily or permanently providing boards.ie, or any part thereof, with or without notice.
  • You agree that any termination of access to boards.ie under any provision of these Terms of Use may be effected without notice, and acknowledge and agree that Boards SoftwareLimited may immediately deactivate or delete your account and all related information and files in your account and/or bar any further access to such files or boards.ie.
  • Boards.ie may be temporarily unavailable from time to time for maintenance or other reasons. We accept no responsibility for any error, omission, interruption, deletion, defect, delay in transmission, communication line failure, theft or destruction or unauthorized access to, or alteration of user communications.
  • Where possible, we will use reasonable efforts to give users fair notice of technical difficulties or termination or suspension of their access to boards.ie. However you agree that Boards SoftwareLimited shall not be liable to you or any third party for any inability to access boards.ie, termination or suspension of access to boards.ie or modification of the service provided by boards.ie.

  • 14.4 Indemnity and waiver
  • You agree to indemnify, defend (at the request of Boards SoftwareLimited), and hold harmless Boards SoftwareLimited our investors, successors, assigns, subsidiaries, affiliates, co-branders, contractors, employees, servants, moderators, third-party advertisers, technology providers, service providers or other partners, and each of their respective officers, directors, agents, shareholders, employees and representatives, from and against any third party claim, demand, loss, damage, cost, or liability including reasonable legal expenses, made or brought by any third party due to or arising out of:
  • Your use of boards.ie or any part thereof
  • The violation of these Terms of Use, our Privacy Statement, our guidelines by you
  • The infringement or misappropriation by you, or a third party using your computer, of any account or password to access and/or use boards.ie
  • The infringement of any intellectual property rights of any person or entity

You acknowledge that your use of boards.ie including any material downloaded or otherwise obtained through boards.ie is at your own discretion and risk and you agree to waive any right to bring any claim or action against Boards SoftwareLimited, our investors, successors, assignees, subsidiaries, affiliates, co-branders, contractors, employees, servants, third-party advertisers, technology providers, service providers or other partners, and each of their respective officers, directors, agents, shareholders, employees and representatives for any loss, damage, costs or injury arising from such use.


15. Entire agreement

These Terms of Use and our Privacy Notice make up the entire agreement between you and Boards.ie and Boards SoftwareLimited and supersede any prior agreement.


16. No partnerships/joint ventures

Nothing in these Terms of Use, our Privacy Statement and/or our Comments Policy shall be construed as forming a partnership or joint venture with you. No third party shall have the right or ability to create any obligation on our behalf.


17. Governing law

The agreement shall be governed by Irish law and you consent to the exclusive jurisdiction of the Irish courts in all matters regarding this agreement and your use of boards.ie.


18. Severability

If any provision of these Terms of Use is found to be void, invalid or unenforceable the remaining provisions will continue to be of full force and effect.


19. No waiver

Any amendment to or waiver of these Terms of Use must be in writing and signed by an authorised representative of Boards SoftwareLimited. Failure to enforce any provision of these Terms of Use shall not amount to a waiver of such provision.


21. Additional information

These Terms of Use should be read in conjunction with the Boards.ie Privacy Notice and Cookie Policy.


22. Contacting Boards.ie

You can contact us in relation to these Terms of Use in the following ways:

Using our contact page: Contact pageEmail: hello@boards.ie

By post: Boards.ie Limited, 4th Floor, Latin Hall, Golden Lane, Dublin 8

We welcome your feedback on this document and thank you for using Boards.ie!

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