just wondering / alcohol

01-06-2006 11:10PM #1

Most people seem to think that going out without drinking is unusual and see no problem with always drinking while going out, yes?

What if someone takes it one step further and says they find social interactions awkward and difficult unless they've had one or two drinks? Even just holding a conversation? Is this a problem?

Ruu_Old · 01-06-2006 11:15PM

I was very much a party goer up until about 2 years ago when I got bored of the whole lot. I never drank alcohol (I just drink red bull, no vodka or anything, I often bought drinks for friends) at all and had no problems with the wimmens or striking up conversation, whatever you want.
Most of my friends were different, were dieing for a drink even before they got into town and probably couldnt do without one.

deisedolly · 01-06-2006 11:26PM

Ahh I wouldn't say I have trouble striking up a conversation when I'm sober but everything is so much more interesting and amusing after a few pints!

Hail 2 Da Chimp · 01-06-2006 11:28PM

Well you have to admit its a hell of a lot easier tryin to chat up a girl if you've had some dutch courage.

Caryatnid · 01-06-2006 11:31PM

Can you explain the pole question please?
Are you asking the voter what he/she thinks of others like this, or what the voter is like himself/herself.

01-06-2006 11:33PM

I'm asking if the voters think that needing a drink to chat to someone is a problem.

qz · 01-06-2006 11:34PM

deisedolly wrote:

Ahh I wouldn't say I have trouble striking up a conversation when I'm sober but everything is so much more interesting and amusing after a few pints!

Agreed %100! Booze definately helps to strike up a convo with someone. Take tonight for example, I traded shirts with someone I've met once before.

. It's alright though, it's a nice shirt

kiffer · 01-06-2006 11:36PM

bluewolf wrote:

What if someone takes it one step further and says they find social interactions awkward and difficult unless they've had one or two drinks? Even just holding a conversation? Is this a problem?

Yes. This is a problem... if you can not interact with other people with out drink then there is a problem.

Terry · 01-06-2006 11:46PM

i'm fairly drunk right now and have just sent coolsmileygirl a private message asking her out.
drink does help.

Faith · 02-06-2006 12:13AM

Yeah, drink helps, but it should never reach the point where it's necessary to start a conversation.

Dave! · 02-06-2006 12:15AM

well I mean if you're swigging vodka in the morning before your first day in a new job, to find it easier to talk to your new colleagues, then that's a problem. But in a pub/club most people have a few drinks before they start goin on the pull or whatever. It may not be necessary, but it makes it more fun really

You're more loose, and your inhibitions aren't as tight, so it's easier. So there's nowt wrong with that.

WhiteWashMan · 02-06-2006 08:14AM

some people use it as a crutch when socialising.

02-06-2006 08:17AM

Interesting replies.

I made this thread because someone I know said that to me last night, and I was quite concerned, particularly when they didn't seem to regard it as a problem. It wasn't a case of going on the pull - merely "I have no idea what to say to people in general and a drink or two helps a lot"; they were terrified at the idea of going out without drinking.

*shrug*

fuzzywiggle · 02-06-2006 08:21AM

No. Drink or no drink I'll yap yap yap!

Civilian_Target · 02-06-2006 08:52AM

A good night will be good regardless of the booze content. But booze can make a bad night good, everything becomes a bit wierder...

I actually prefer talking to people when sober, but I'll usually drink on a night out because it puts others at ease, it can make things more interesting, and I like the taste of beer

Kernel · 02-06-2006 09:06AM

Your friend has got a problem. He's not necessarily an alcoholic yet, but certainly on the fastrack to becoming one if he has to rely on alcohol to function properly. Does he have much confidence? I think maybe a visit to a psychiatrist to examine the root of his social anxieties could be worth the fee for an hour.

EDIT: On a side note, alcohol usually makes socialising more difficult and less rewarding for me... a year or so ago, at a party in Pighead's, I got so pissed that when I was chatting to the girls that were laid on for my pleasure, they couldn't understand what I was saying... God damn.. I blew it Pighead... I blew it.

Rantorama · 02-06-2006 09:23AM

Kernel wrote:

EDIT: On a side note, alcohol usually makes socialising more difficult and less rewarding for me... a year or so ago, at a party in Pighead's, I got so pissed that when I was chatting to the girls that were laid on for my pleasure, they couldn't understand what I was saying... God damn.. I blew it Pighead... I blew it.

People should remember the maxim

If you think you are slurring a little,you are slurring a lot ,and if you think you are slurring a lot...you are not speaking the English langauge.

Anyway I voted yes.

Tobias Greeshman · 02-06-2006 09:27AM

If I'm in a good mood then I'll chat to anything, probably a bit more reserved sober, but I'll chat away nonetheless.

carbonkid · 02-06-2006 11:42AM

You dont need to drink to have a conversation with someone but sometimes you need a excuse to meet up and most other things apart from goin for dinner (which usually involves drink anyway

) doesnt really give you a chance to talk be it playing games, watching movies etc...guess you could hike up a mountian or something *yawn*

petes · 02-06-2006 11:53AM

Wouldn't need a drink to chat to someone. I do however have a good few drinks when I am out. You tend to get a a bit more chatty when you have had a few.

BoozyBabe · 02-06-2006 11:54AM

bluewolf wrote:

I'm asking if the voters think that needing a drink to chat to someone is a problem.

No, I don't think it is.

If you need to be rat-arsed, then yes, but simply having 1-2 drinks to put you at ease / more comfortable / less shy, whatever, then I don't think it's a problem at all.

petes · 02-06-2006 11:57AM

If you were rat-arsed the conversation won't be going to far.

smiling_time · 02-06-2006 12:07PM

I suppose alcohol give ppl the dutch courage to do things that their inhibitions would usually stop them doing.

Kernel · 02-06-2006 12:27PM

BoozyBabe wrote:

No, I don't think it is.

If you need to be rat-arsed, then yes, but simply having 1-2 drinks to put you at ease / more comfortable / less shy, whatever, then I don't think it's a problem at all.

You don't think that needing alcohol to carry out normal social interaction is a problem???

r3nu4l · 02-06-2006 12:31PM

Kernel wrote:

You don't think that needing alcohol to carry out normal social interaction is a problem???

Just look at the username – BoozyBabe! What other reply did you expect?

Seriously, I do think that yes, having a drink or two makes it easier, of course it does but if you find that you just can't initiate or particiapate in a conversation without alcohol, then it is a problem!

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