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Explaining SI scars?

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  • #32
    Boston
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    We all have scares, your jsut happen to be on the outside. If your serious about beign with this guy, which i persume you are, or what he thinks wouldn't be important. You should discuss them, liek you would anything else.


  • #33
    Tar.Aldarion
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,115 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tar.Aldarion


    scars in life build character imo.i dont want to know a person with a boring personality and little problems in their head :)


  • #34
    arbeitsscheuer
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    I have SI scars on my arms, and it's never really hindered my interaction wit other ppl, of whatever gender.

    TBH, ya gotta give ppl more credit. Most ppl won't be bothered by it, at most will be interested but not insensitive. And those that are bothered by it or offended by it or demand that you seek IMMEDIATE HELP ( :rolleyes: ) frankly ain't worth your time darlin.

    Good luck.


  • #35
    Boston
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    SebtheBum wrote:
    I have SI scars on my arms, and it's never really hindered my interaction wit other ppl, of whatever gender.

    TBH, ya gotta give ppl more credit. Most ppl won't be bothered by it, at most will be interested but not insensitive. And those that are bothered by it or offended by it or demand that you seek IMMEDIATE HELP ( :rolleyes: ) frankly ain't worth your time darlin.

    Good luck.

    Like anything that scares someone, I would try to help them and get them help, if they where still doing it. I don't however see it as a major character flaw. Since I've know several people that did it as teenagers, there reasons, and how at that particular time, it was the only way they got through.


  • #36
    20 Times 20 Times
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    miss anon wrote:
    How exactly do you explain away scars that are quite obviously the result of self-injury? Tell the truth or come up with some crazy excuse and hope someone (read: a guy) will buy it and drop the subject?

    I used to cut quite a bit but any scars left by that have faded, it's just ones left from a bit of a bad patch earlier this year that I'm worried about. I don't think of myself as 'a cutter' or anything and I'd probably dismiss it as not a big deal.

    If you knew/liked someone, and then saw scars like that (bearing in mind that they'd normally dress to hide them and that it's not like they're on show to the whole world) would you freak out about it? Think they weren't worth the hassle? (Got a hint of that from another thread here on a related topic...) Try getting them 'help' even though they say it's all fine?

    Basically, is this the sort of thing that could seriously screw something up? Any advice/thoughts would be appreciated...


    Im sorry but its the first time i ever felt like this after ereading a post on th PI , i would love to give you a big hug now ! that is all i want to say


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  • #37
    Shellie13
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    Its truely your own business whether you choose to tell him or not- it would more than likely clear your mind if you did! For all othe rnosy (or maybe genuinely concerned) people you don't wish to tell just have an excuse on the ready!

    Its horrible too see someone you care about hurting themselves but a genuine guy will be understanding if he's mature enough! It can be great to have someone around to support you to-and discourage you from any relapses! If it really is all in the past its almost irrelavant anyway!

    Lastly, no matter what anyone says, this is somrthing most people have done to some degree- self harm takes forms other than just purely cutting-don't think it will make you into a freak in anyones eyes!Chanes are he may well have done it himself (though to a lesser degree) or have already had an ex who had done it!

    Well done for stopping by the way!!!


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