Dysfunctional Xmas

Vorophobe · 26-12-2003 02:56PM #1

We all go into christmas revelling in everything it brings, presents, pints, etc... but for some people, myself included, it can be a real test of endurance and tongue biting. I for one myself am pressured into the yearly pilgramage into the country for family... and remember why it is that I live in the city.

Every family has skeletons in closets - but it just really grates me how little things change over time... issues between family members and family problems are still as fiery as the day they came into being ... and you continually find yourself thrown into the mix and none-too-subtley expected to pick sides.

For example, I'm just after visiting my uncle in County Galway... he was doing well even though he was under the pressure of coping with everyone visiting and 5 of his own kids going mental around the place. His *wife* however, laid in bed the whole day, sulking that she wasn't the centre of attention and how awful it was that the whole event wasn't revolved around her - and then she'd be the first one to say how terrible christmas had been to her. She has absolutely no depressive condition (believe me, she's tried everything to convince herself and the doctors), it's just out of plain selfishness.

Third year in a row, many more sure to come.

And upon visting the other side of my family with my girlfriend this time, there was a heated furor over my Uncle in law having a good chat with my girlfriend (he was well oiled... to be fair, but never even came close to crossing the line), causing my aunt to despise her, give out to him and rue me for bringing her.

Oh GOD I could of just spontaneously combusted with frustration.

Although thats far from what could be considered dysfunctional, was just wondering if anyone has had anything similar happen to them over the christmas.

Atomic Pineapple · 26-12-2003 03:29PM

nope, my family does be all nice and pleasant to each other over christmas and as soon as they leave there all bicthing behind each others backs.

which really gets on my nerves cos i do like to be up front and tell people what i think about them or what there doing, not complain about them behind there backs, whats that meant to achieve!?

tribble · 26-12-2003 03:42PM

I stayed[ing] in bed for Christmas refrehing the boards index page.

Damn flu and new tooth.

On the flipside I did sit through Romeo and Juilet on Radio One.
Excellent play.

tribble

bus77 · 26-12-2003 04:28PM

I know exactly what your talkin about. The Mam actin the fool brigin up old stuff shes been sayin(and doin) for years(shes paranoid to bits), and the Dad actin the retard in his own special way(he would be best desribed as nervous).
Both of them never should have got married in the first place , to anyone.
Its calmed down alot in recent years , I think its mostly coz they dont have the energy for the "swingin from the chandeliers" type shenanigens they got up to before.
Still , It all blew up again this christmas, with me as mediator at the start but as has been the case in recent years I useualy get more worked up than the pair of em put together.
Ive found the only real way to put a stop to these encounters is to put the fear of god into them anyway.
Yep, Cristmas is the last time youd expect trouble to flare up, and worst of all Its just the same old crap

gurramok · 27-12-2003 12:36AM

Xmas causes more arguments than any other time of the year.

Family quarrels crop up again and again, the funny thing about is that so-called christian worshippers despise each other when xmas comes along.

Bloody hypocrites !

Too much emotion about who is going to whose dinner for xmas is a deadly spark for fights. And then they pissed and if one word is said wrong, its war !

If xmas didnt exist, things would be better for adults but then again kids would be miserable, a balance is required

Dysfunctional Xmas

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