Just need to vent - wtf is wrong with some people.

@bacon?

You really do need someone you trust and feel comfortable with to get things off your chest, especially after a breakup that hurt you. At the same time, I just don’t think it’s a good idea to try to turn a group of people against her.

Others may see it as a romantic situation that doesn’t involve them, and they might choose to not take sides.

In a few months, you’ll feel better knowing you didn’t react emotionally or give her anything she could twist or use against you later. She's the one in the wrong here, but if you do anything nasty, it only helps her make claims like - “See, this is why it didn’t work out with him.” Don’t give her ANYTHING to feed off. Your silence and maturity say more than any reaction ever could.

And just to be clear about what I meant earlier: when I said I don’t consider myself in an official relationship until I hear the words, I still act exclusively once I start dating someone, even if it’s not labeled yet (most normal people do). I only wondered whether she felt like your relationship was casual because it’s unusual to be open to meeting someone else while already seeing a person.

She sounds like an absolute melt 🤣. Bacon lad, you dodged a bullet. These people are so conceited they aren't worth a second thought or min of your time. I largely agree with Big Bag of chips saying she'll be trying to communicate with you. The only thing is I wouldn't even say anything back to them. sayonara, good luck!

You have to realize that People who are obsessed with social media aren't mentally healthy, there is something off about them and it's a compensation for having zero meaning in their lives. It's that simple. You'll feel better when you know that these people are mostly vacant and unaware of how much they're wasting their own existence.

Some women have to have a boyfriend, when that relationship has run it's course, they get a new one and then let go of the old one. It's not a nice thing to do but that how they do it. It's not you it's them. Hope your mum is OK, give it time and you'll meet someone better.

Sounds like she didn't consider the relationship she had with you serious or exclusive. Had you had a conversation around this?

There really isn’t much anyone could learn from a situation like that. There were no signs or warnings of what was going to happen.

As you said, everything seemed to be going well between you two - you were making plans together, and she was supportive the whole time you were away looking after your mam.

There is a reason for everything but it’s one that only she has the answers to. Maybe one day you’ll hear, through the grapevine, what actually happened. For now it’s okay not to have that clarity, what's done is done.

It’s unusual and confusing, and the only thing that really makes sense is that she may not have been viewing it as a relationship, even though her actions very much suggested otherwise.

Did you ever talk much about past relationships - whether hers tended to be more casual, or if they were usually serious?

I assume it's along the same lines as my cow is better than your cow?

jesus, social media is completely fcuked up, join another gym, and delete all social media, or you re head will be mashed!

where is she fading into the background?

Honestly, fair play to you for taking the higher ground. It's bad enough what she done but it can't be easy seeing them together in the gym and still holding your head up.

Looking through her is a boss move 💪

It might be worth considering blocking her now. She can see that you didn't throw a tantrum before by blocking her, but now you don't have any reason to be connected to someone like that. And you're not interested in anything she has to say.

The last thing you need is for the new BF to find out she's messaging you, saying she's sorry, and you being dragged into drama with the two of them!