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Mumsnet are debating prostitution in Ireland. Why aren't we?

  • 22-12-2025 09:10AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8


    There's a long debate going on among Mumsnet users right now about the state of the sex trade in Ireland.


    https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5459972-pushing-back-against-the-so-called-nordic-model-of-sex-work


    The basis of the debate is a memoir written by former escort Anna Rajmon, named Elis - Irish Call Girl.


    https://www.amazon.co.uk/ELIS-Anna-Rajmon-ebook/dp/B0D74HK3D5


    Why are middle class British women debating this, and we Irish are saying nothing about it? 


    Do women's rights mean nothing here? 


    Or is it handier to ignore sex workers than to accept that they're women too?



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 Silvergrey25


    You'll not get any honest look at how the sex trade in Ireland works from in Ireland. On the main Irish escort website, they allow criminal posters to post on their forums and pretend to be good guys, even when the escorts have reported those fellas as intimidating and harassing them.

    There was a major trafficking operation in Dolphin's barn which was discussed there for over a year before they cracked down on it. And there was strong echoes of what Ellis wrote about in her book.

    And as for the book, there were two threads on it on that website. One was deleted. The other had posts removed for "speculation." What they really meant was that the book said stuff they didn't want anyone knowing.

    So if the main escort website in the country wants to shut down any discussion, no one else here will talk about it.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 wakeupireland2026


    I get what you're saying, though if the website you're talking about is the one I'm thinking of, I'm not surprised they don't like what the book said.


    Pretty horrible that they allow the girls to be treated that way by johns, just shows how little they care.


    Can you explain a few things?


    You said what happened in Dolphins Barn was discussed. Were they openly talking about trafficked girls on the site?


    You said the case had "strong echoes" of the book. What do you mean exactly? The book had some horrific details, and I guessed what happened to her was standard.


    How do you know so much about the site?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 Silvergrey25



    It's the site everyone knows, but if there's an issue sayin it here then I won't.

    I'll answer your first two questions.

    Everyone there knew there was something off about Dolphins barn, and there were several threads about it. All the profiles being the same, all posting videos around the same time. The better forum users expressed concern, others didn't care and thought the girls were worth a punt.

    Ellis says in her book that her own website profile was controlled by the agency she worked for. That, and other things she describes, are the "strong echoes."



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 wakeupireland2026


    Thanks for the answers.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    WTF has Mumsnet got to do with anything? If the issue is worth discussing, it's worth discussing with or without Mumsnet. Let's not kid ourselves that sex workers or other women in Ireland need to be saved by middle class British women.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 wakeupireland2026


    That's my point, Andrew. The issue is worth discussing.


    Thing is, we in Ireland should be discussing it and aren't really (well, outside of this thread anyway). Silvergrey25 has given us some reasons for why that discussion isn't happening.


    Mumsnet are discussing it, though I really think it shouldn't be them framing this issue.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 Silvergrey25


    I think the book is a very important piece of work which raises a lot of questions deserving of discussion, and if they're not being discussed here at least they're being discussed somewhere.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,053 ✭✭✭Ozymandius2011


    I think driving it underground only increases the danger to vulnerable women.

    Also I think that prohibition has not worked.

    I support the Dutch or New Zealand Model. We should allow sex workers to sue pimps.

    But the State should also allow consenting adults to make their own choices. The involvement of Church-linked bodies like Ruhama is against the spirit of secularism Ireland has been moving in since the 1990s.

    The Nordic Model has some perverse outcomes, deterring sex workers from reporting violent clients to the police, for fear the sex workers will also be prosecuted if they work indoors. Also by banning sex workers from working indoors with another person, the law puts them without protection in cases of violent clients. So they end up working on the streets, and we don't want that because there might be family-settings nearby. The law pushes them into situations that the State also says it has a problem with.

    Its interesting how selective some are. Some years ago the Left believed Scandinavia was a role model on everything, especially the Cradle to Grave welfare system and liberal immigration policies. With Scandinavia now becoming more restrictive on immigration e.g. Denmark, we don't hear that as much.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 Silvergrey25




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,053 ✭✭✭Ozymandius2011


    Also hardly any clients have been prosecuted. How would one prove such a thing? Proving someone is a pimp or a sex worker would be less challenging.

    There is evidence that juries are reluctant to convict in these cases, or that the DPP drops prosecutions because of lack of evidence. There have only been 15 convictions out of 161 prosecutions since 2017. I think most people do not agree with this law. It goes against the wider liberalisation of society since the 1990s. Yes we want to protect women from forced prostitution. But I think we have just driven it further underground, by creating disincentives for reporting. One example is how a woman who works indoors with someone else can be charged with pimping, even if she doesn't control the other sex worker's income.

    I find it very hard to believe there are only 161 clients of prostitutes in a country of 5.5 million.

    Even some of the groups that campaigned for this law say it isn't working. Ruhama however believes the solution is increased enforcement. Ruhama was founded by the Sisters of the Sacred Heart of Jesus in Ireland.

    In England, solicitation (not prostitution) is illegal but local councils have some autonomy for so-called "tolerance zones". Has that been considered here?



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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Did you think about discussing it here yourself, before you were 'inspired' by Mumsnet?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 24,877 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    To be fair there's been some very long threads discussing prostitution on these forums over the years. This one feels like it's posted by the PR agency for the author of that book…



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Surely you're not cynical about posts from a brand new poster asking why we're not discussing an issue, instead of actually discussing the issue?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,030 ✭✭✭✭Jim_Hodge


    What has mumsnet to do with anything? There have been plenty of threads discussing prostitution on Boards over the years. It seems either the OP registered to shill a book or didn't bother to review the site for previous discussions on the topic. Their contribution so far has been to ask questions, promote a book and offer no new insight themselves. Perhaps it's they who needs to wake up.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,324 ✭✭✭✭LambshankRedemption


    There's a surprising(or not) number of users on this thread with post counts numbering in single digits and all their posts are in this thread….



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 Silvergrey25


    Not gonna speak for OP, my handle is known to those who know this topic. Only registered here because I saw this.

    It'd be just as easy to label some of you as Ruhama plants or plants from the Irish escort website who want to stifle discussion.

    But why descend to your level.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,030 ✭✭✭✭Jim_Hodge


    I can safely say I haven't a clue what you're trying to say there.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 wakeupireland2026


    Let me say a few things.

    If there have been more recent discussions on this topic, I'm sorry. I didn't see them. I did check, but obviously not enough.



    Yes, I only started yesterday. But it was because I thought it odd that the Irish sex trade was getting so much discussion recently on a British website. I thought it was odd that an Irish discussion board wasn't having that discussion. If it's there, point me to it. I didn't see it.



    I'm not working for the author. In fact, I don't think she'd really like me too much. I have more sympathy with SWAI, who want decrim in Ireland. She'd rather warn women away from sex work altogether. But her story shows why the Nordic Model has failed in Ireland, and in a big way.



    I think Silvergrey25 is being unfair. I get the suspicion. Newbie pops up and points out something a book says. Online, no one knows anyone else. Are they sincere? Are they a shill?



    I get it. And I know saying I'm not one won't persuade too many here.



    But I'm actually reassured by the response. It's good to know there was discussion on the topic here. If anyone would be kind enough to point me in the right direction, I'll contribute there.



    As for me, I want sex work decriminalised in Ireland. The Nordic Model has been law for nearly a decade. It was supposed to reduce demand and protect sex workers, and it was supposed to stop trafficking. Its failed to do either.



    The Mumsnet crowd are all pro-Nordic Model. As I said before, they shouldn't be the ones framing this debate.



    I should have opened by saying this. I'm sorry for any misunderstanding.



    And thanks to Ozymandias2011 for making a good faith contribution here.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 446 ✭✭Soc_Alt


    With contributions like this as the boards.ie detective I can see why you have a high post count.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,085 ✭✭✭Rocket_GD


    It's the style of your posting that makes people suspicious not just that you're a new user. The unnecessary big gaps between each paragraph and your lack of giving your own opinion on the matter other than "why aren't you all talking about it".

    Post edited by Rocket_GD on


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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    it is INDEED odd that Mumsnet is talking about sex work in Ireland. But that's Mumsnet for you, it's a VERY ODD place, full of terfs with a saviour complex. This discussion has been had many times on Boards over the years. Did you try doing a search or anything?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 41,273 ✭✭✭✭Hotblack Desiato


    I don't know why people think it's odd that Irish issues are discussed on Mumsnet. Huge numbers of Irish posters there. Repeal was a massive topic there.

    As for Ruhama - a truly detestable bunch who hide their origin and real motives.

    I'm partial to your abracadabra
    I'm raptured by the joy of it all



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,324 ✭✭✭✭LambshankRedemption


    And comments like this is why you have earned a place on my special list.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 wakeupireland2026


    Hi, my bad. I'm used to using double spaces between paragraphs when I'm typing, but I can use single spacing here.

    I have given my opinion now in the comment you quoted, but I should have done that at the start. I'm sorry again.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 wakeupireland2026


    Hi Andrew,

    Thanks for your reply.

    Because of how recent the Mumsnet threads are, I assumed that there would be something as recent here and didn't look further. That's on me, sorry.

    I'll dig into these older threads as well.

    Let me ask, is it good form to comment on old threads with updates past a certain point? I feel like I've just been stepping on toes with this thread, and I really don't want to do that.

    Thanks, and sorry again.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 wakeupireland2026


    It's a fair point. It just seemed odd to me that more space seemed to be devoted to it there on recent events than it was on an Irish forum. And because they are generally hostile to sex work, it seemed odder still.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 Silvergrey25


    FFS, OP, would you grow a pair?

    With two exceptions, this lot have done nothing but treat you like dirt. They aren't interested in this, that's why they tell you to look up 2 year old threads rather than look at anything recent.

    The idiot who replied to my last post said he didn't know what I said. If they can't read posts, good luck thinking they can read a book.

    I wasn't being unfair, but you are being spineless. Apologising for posting. Really? You think they care? They want you to grovel, so well done. You gave them what they want. At least you'll write your posts the way your new masters want you to.

    This thread just proves what I said earlier. No one in this stupid country wants to talk about this.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,030 ✭✭✭✭Jim_Hodge


    As the idiot you refer to, I can assure you I can read threads. It still doesn't make the post I referred to anymore intelligible. I'm sure you know what the references were relating to but I, honestly, don't. It's that simple. You assumed people knew what you were getting at but it wasn't so.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,256 ✭✭✭purifol0


    Despite not posting in this thread, AJRenko quoted my post from 2023.

    Lads things are much much worse now. Since then continued and unabated mass immigration has resulted in widespread brothels, that in some areas now operate in plain sight!

    We are so far past women's rights/right to choose/consenting adults/"sex workers aren't prostitutes" arguments, and are now deep into foreign criminal gang controlled pimping & trafficking end of things.

    Chinese massage parlours and Brazillian brothels are common.

    An actual right wing government would be remigrating everyone of them, but the powers that be are determined not to allow us to have one. This situation, like the housing crisis, is here to stay.



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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Don't suppose you have any source showing how things have gotten much worse over the last two years with 'widespread brothels'?



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