40s and lost

Ring Mens Aid.

Yes sleep in the shed is the best idea I think…maybe look at getting into a b&b for next week after I think. I suspect your relationship is over so time away will help to accept that I think...all I can say is best of luck. ...an awful situation

Suggest that you “ grow a pair “ . Sleep in your own bed and tell the person that you have protected from being assaulted to fkuc off.
Bearing in mind that this complete story could be a wind up who the fkuc experiences something so dramatic as this and reaches out to Boards for support

You all seem a bit reactive in general. Maybe I'm naive but ending a marriage based on a single event or words said in the heat of heightened emotions seems overly dramatic.

Sleep on the couch tonight and have proper conversations with your wife and son tomorrow. You need to apologise to both parties and recognise you shouldn't have been physical

The issues around finances and your wife's self esteem are separate conversations. They shouldn't be discussed in relation to the violence of the incident. You need marriage counselling for those.

Things aren't great. Your wife sounds extremely unhappy and honestly you don't sound like you care

I strongly disagree. The incident could have been stopped by stepping in front of his wife. There was no reason to lay hands on his son. And considering his wife's reaction I'm not convinced the ops version of completely accurate.

You lead by example as a parent. He needs to apologise to his son or are we encouraging the belief aggressive is ok as long as you are the bigger, stronger person.

His wife is unhappy. He only seems interested in the fact that's he's happy. He's also completely melodramatic moving to the shed. Id say the 4 kids are loving living in that environment

I certainly haven't printed him as a villain. I'm not debating the situation was highly charged. I've stated numerous times emotions are running high and it is not the time for him to make further rash decisions I e. moving to the shed, or deciding to take what his wife said in the heatm heat of the moment seriously.

Again, you parent by example. As a parent you often make the wrong call or react less than ideally in stressful circumstances. That's human nature. No one behaves or reacts perfectly at all times. That does not mean you don't own it afterwards or excuse it as ok because you were stressed. You can apologise by starting with an explanation of why you acted that way "it looked like you were going to attack your mother and with no time to think I reacted by pushing you". I'm not suggesting he grovels. His teenage was behaving appallingly. The best way to prevent that happening again is for open and honest conversation.

He shoved his son hard. He did lay hands on him. z the version of events is sketchy at best considering his wifes reaction towards him. I mean if it really was a case of the wife or son I don't think she would be quite so angry at the husband for defending her honour. Even taking it at face value a shove is not acceptable.

He sleeps on the couch. His wife is upstairs. she isn't standing over him forcing him to pack a case. Be reasonable. She said something when she was angry. Or is it just the op who gets grace for what they do when they're stressed?

A 14 year old has hit a 7 year old, a father has shoved said 14 year old so hard the mother has told him to move out. Father is thinking about living in the shed. Mother is now upstairs in bed. It's a terrible environment.

DON'T leave the house. Just sleep on the sofa.

I fear another imaginary thread. Why bother?

No one.

But this last year, this site is full of threads with controversial subjects, and when you look they are started by a new poster.

Why would you spend time inventing stories on the Internet.