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Feeling like a disappointment, a let down and just downright broken

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  • #32
    YellowLead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,037 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118677191#Comment_118677191

    Hi OP, you say she won’t change just because you leave, but so what? Leave her to it. And clearly not living there you’ll have much less exposure to her and all those triggers which upset you.

    Why don’t you have a chat with one of those family members you like but are worried are disappointed - if you’ve always had a good relationship with them there’s no reason for that not to continue, everybody makes mistakes.

    As for your relationship - you can’t save him and yourself - choose you and take some steps to build the life you want.



  • #33
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,113 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    she's not going to change just because I leave.

    True, but at least you wouldn't have to live with it. She's not going to change, ever. Whether you leave or not. The difference would be you'd have distance between you. You wouldn't have to live in that atmosphere. You wouldn't have to listen to her. You could choose how much interaction you have with her and you could walk away back to the peace of your own space when you've had enough.



  • #34
    Jequ0n
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,412 ✭✭✭Jequ0n


    You won’t like to hear this OP, but that dog will keep you bound to your mother and vice versa, but you know this yourself.

    It doesn’t sound like you have a plan to sort things out, apart from maybe moving out. Without a plan you won’t get far and will just keep trapped in the same old cycle.



  • #35
    BrokenGal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13 ✭BrokenGal


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118677487#Comment_118677487

    I'm aware of that. But I can't abandon him. He's actually probably my main source of comfort at the moment.

    I've viewed several properties and i've gone back seeing a counsellor. That's all I can do for now. I just need my own space and then I can plan. I can't even think straight in this environment.



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