Is there anything actually good about getting older?

Bobtheman · 03-06-2021 02:34PM

For the love of jaysus get your head out of your arse.
You are still young.
What's the alternative?
Death??

silliussoddius · 03-06-2021 03:18PM

Did I ever tell you kids about the 90's

Mr_Muffin · 03-06-2021 03:22PM

Find a nearby field, dig a hole, and put your left foot in it.

You've already got one foot in the grave, may as well put the other one in.

boardlady · 03-06-2021 03:35PM

OP, I am 47. So i'm considerably older and I have the partner and kids thing done. However, I also feel at a bit of a loss now. I think we can all struggle during transitional times, no matter what age. I feel a bit redundant as the kids don't really need me as much anymore and I only work a couple of days a week and am a bit bored if i'm honest. Boredom can set into us at any age and it really is a killer. I'm currently looking for a way to give myself a kick up the ass - be it a night class, fitness group or some sort of thing that will widen my circle just a bit. I'm not looking for much - you may need a lot more - but, like me, we have to get out there and make it happen!

bullpost · 03-06-2021 03:41PM

begbysback wrote: »

I was feeling grand until some numbskull started a thread about feeling old at 32

yes 32

32 is the new 23 - at least if you're dyslexic

03-06-2021 03:43PM

Jaysis, how depressing!

I'm mid 40s and life gets better and better the older I get.
Every decade is better then the one before.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 03-06-2021 03:48PM

Wait till you get to your 40’s and 50’s!!!

Tzardine · 03-06-2021 03:52PM

I am 37 and do not feel old. That is until I see my 16 year old sister.

She calls me a seed. Because I am going in the ground soon.

03-06-2021 04:07PM

completedit wrote: »

It is so mindblowingly dull already. I just hit the second year of my 30s and I'm scared of what life has in store. Everything is just so monotonous now with or without Covid. I feel you have sort of cemented who you are as a person and the journey of discovery sort of grinds to a halt. Your 20s open you up to the world and yourself; for many of us it's one amazing experience after the next from traveling to meeting the prospective romantic partner who will in your optimistic eyes save you from yourself but then something happens. Yoi realise its all been done before. The novelty wears off and you're no loet a work in progress, now you're in your 30s with no relationship, no kids, barely any money and a friends group that has become so disparate that you don't really have much of a group at all. It is bleak. I wonder did I truly appreciate the 20s that I was lucky to have? Probably not truth be told.

I want to be going to South William for cans on the street this weekend but I'm starting to feel like an old codger. Everything suddenly becomes so rigid and dull and mostly focused around the consumption of coffee with some milk alternative . Oh just what I needed! Another hike and a flat white.

I

I honestly don't understand why you can't see the connection between how you feel right now and the fact that there's been a pandemic for over a year now.

Astounding.

Purple Mountain · 03-06-2021 04:11PM

bubblypop wrote: »

Jaysis, how depressing!

I'm mid 40s and life gets better and better the older I get.
Every decade is better then the one before.

I agree. I'm much more comfortable in my skin now, no more giving a crap that I need to conform to what society deems I should be/wear/look like.
You make your own fun/luck in life so if you're not putting yourself out there in new situations then- "If you always do what you always did, then you'll always get what you always got."

bitofabind · 03-06-2021 04:35PM

I'm 36 and bloody glad of it. Spent a lot of time in my 20s living in a world of comparison, nothing I did was ever good enough and yet I had no idea what the end goal was. Did the career thing, did the travel thing, lived abroad, made money, had great craic and none of it was ever good enough.

The benefit of age to me has been the clarity on what's important. The easing of those manic emotions of my 20s into finding a bit of peace and self-acceptance. Like grand, this is who I am and this is how I do things. Time to live by my rules now. Realising jesus, the YEARS I spent comparing to others, paranoid about what others thought, fulfilling societal expectations without ever asking myself what I wanted out of life when ultimately that was all that mattered all along.

I remember being 15 and deathly afraid of my 16th birthday because it was "so old". Thinking 30 year olds were ancient. Thinking 40 was game over. Getting older is a privilege and yet too many people are deathly afraid of it.

Purple is a Fruit · 03-06-2021 05:19PM

bitofabind wrote: »

I'm 36 and bloody glad of it. Spent a lot of time in my 20s living in a world of comparison, nothing I did was ever good enough and yet I had no idea what the end goal was. Did the career thing, did the travel thing, lived abroad, made money, had great craic and none of it was ever good enough.

The benefit of age to me has been the clarity on what's important. The easing of those manic emotions of my 20s into finding a bit of peace and self-acceptance. Like grand, this is who I am and this is how I do things. Time to live by my rules now. Realising jesus, the YEARS I spent comparing to others, paranoid about what others thought, fulfilling societal expectations without ever asking myself what I wanted out of life when ultimately that was all that mattered all along.

I remember being 15 and deathly afraid of my 16th birthday because it was "so old". Thinking 30 year olds were ancient. Thinking 40 was game over. Getting older is a privilege and yet too many people are deathly afraid of it.

All so spot-on. The ageing process should be reversed - for us to look our best when we are at our most content and self accepting, but instead...

bitofabind · 03-06-2021 05:32PM

Purple is a Fruit wrote: »

All so spot-on. The ageing process should be reversed - for us to look our best when we are at our most content and self accepting, but instead...

Well yeah but also, looking "our best" is no big game-changer either. I've found an acceptance in that too. I don't need to be the hot totty anymore. There's a relief in not noticing or caring about who's looking or not looking at me. The wars with myself I used to battle even when I had that baby smooth skin and fast metabolism. It's a general redefinition of not just what matters, but what matters to me now. And that's that my partner thinks I'm a big ride but everyone else, well meh. Who cares.

3DataModem · 03-06-2021 06:01PM

completedit wrote: »

I feel you have sort of cemented who you are as a person and the journey of discovery sort of grinds to a halt.
I

Icemancometh · 03-06-2021 06:08PM

I'm pretty sure OP is 31. 'Second year of my thirties' you'd be 31. First year is when your 30. So he's even younger than you think.

whomitconcerns · 03-06-2021 06:15PM

I'm 41 and wouldn't think twice about going drinking cans in a park of I was off work. Not a bother. Getting locked on a school day... Anytime! You really are only as old as you want to be

monkeysnapper · 03-06-2021 06:16PM

begbysback wrote: »

I was feeling grand until some numbskull started a thread about feeling old at 32

yes 32

I remember my mum passing her driving test at 30 and getting a car to run us around .... and you feel as a kid she was soooo old

I'm 45 now !!!! Yikes !!!!

Bless her she's still driving us around .... not same car mind... that datsun was brushed up into a pan a long time ago !!!

jackboy · 03-06-2021 06:23PM

A good thing about getting old is caring less what people think of you.

A colleague at work had a go at me today. In my 20’s I would have struggled to deal with that. Today though I found it funny and just laughed at them.

Rezident · 03-06-2021 09:42PM

Everything is better now that I'm older, I am literally better at everything that I like doing, and playing the best football of my life in my 40s! I would not want to be a young person nowadays, the world is banjaxed, good luck with it, you're going to need it.

dd973 · 03-06-2021 11:26PM

Rezident wrote: »

Everything is better now that I'm older, I am literally better at everything that I like doing, and playing the best football of my life in my 40s! I would not want to be a young person nowadays, the world is banjaxed, good luck with it, you're going to need it.

Also in the same decade, if we're both here until 90 we're still kids.

RobertKK · 03-06-2021 11:42PM

I am in my mid 40s, but my brain still has me in my 20s/30s, luckily I am aging well...

I find as the years go by, you are not the same person one was in the past. Nothing is static, views can change, new friends, maybe losing old friends, but the opportunity for change is there if one goes for it. It is easier to stay and do what feels comfortable, but sometimes one needs to do stuff that is a risk whether it changing career, finding a partner if single, make new friends, none of it is easy.

I feel very content overall, but planning some new challenges. Whatever age anyone is, one needs to make the most of the opportunity that life gives.

sporina · 04-06-2021 12:07AM

The older I get, the less I care about what people think about me/my life etc.. that's nice..

Sunny Disposition · 04-06-2021 12:41AM

Lads, my best friend gave me the best advice. He said each day’s a gift and not a given right. Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind. And try to take the path less travelled by.

Is there anything actually good about getting older?

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