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Is there anything actually good about getting older?

  • 02-06-2021 10:57PM
    #1
    completedit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,639 ✭✭✭


    It is so mindblowingly dull already. I just hit the second year of my 30s and I'm scared of what life has in store. Everything is just so monotonous now with or without Covid. I feel you have sort of cemented who you are as a person and the journey of discovery sort of grinds to a halt. Your 20s open you up to the world and yourself; for many of us it's one amazing experience after the next from traveling to meeting the prospective romantic partner who will in your optimistic eyes save you from yourself but then something happens. Yoi realise its all been done before. The novelty wears off and you're no loet a work in progress, now you're in your 30s with no relationship, no kids, barely any money and a friends group that has become so disparate that you don't really have much of a group at all. It is bleak. I wonder did I truly appreciate the 20s that I was lucky to have? Probably not truth be told.

    I want to be going to South William for cans on the street this weekend but I'm starting to feel like an old codger. Everything suddenly becomes so rigid and dull and mostly focused around the consumption of coffee with some milk alternative . Oh just what I needed! Another hike and a flat white.

    I


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  • #2
    timeToLive
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 283 ✭✭timeToLive


    you can choose who you want to be


  • #3
    Government buildings
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 423 ✭✭Government buildings


    Anything good about getting older? No.


  • #4
    guy2231
    Site Banned Posts: 339 ✭✭guy2231


    completedit wrote: »
    It is so mindblowingly dull already. I just hit the second year of my 30s and I'm scared of what life has in store. Everything is just so monotonous now with or without Covid. I feel you have sort of cemented who you are as a person and the journey of discovery sort of ends. You live through your 20s waiting for the next big life event, the prospective romantic partner who will in your optimistic eyes save you from yourself and then you realise its all been done before. However now you're in your 30s with no relationship, no kids, barely any money and a friends group that has become so disparate that you don't really have much of a group at all.

    I want to be going to South William for cans on the street this weekend but I'm starting to feel like an old codger.

    Sorry to here you've been struggling lately man, I don't know what to say to you but I do know you have to make some drastic changes in your life or nothing will change, the problem is nothing to do with your age it is deeper than that there are many young people feeling the same way as you do right now.

    You should listen to some of the motivational videos on Youtube they have helped me out in the past when I've been down here's a good one to get you started https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Ps4hAQ_Fp5k


  • #5
    FrKurtFahrt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 899 ✭✭✭FrKurtFahrt


    completedit wrote: »
    It is so mindblowingly dull already. I just hit the second year of my 30s and I'm scared of what life has in store. Everything is just so monotonous now with or without Covid. I feel you have sort of cemented who you are as a person and the journey of discovery sort of grinds to a halt. Your 20s open you up to the world and yourself; for many of us it's one amazing experience after the next from traveling to meeting the prospective romantic partner who will in your optimistic eyes save you from yourself but then something happens. Yoi realise its all been done before. The novelty wears off and you're no loet a work in progress, now you're in your 30s with no relationship, no kids, barely any money and a friends group that has become so disparate that you don't really have much of a group at all. It is bleak. I wonder did I truly appreciate the 20s that I was lucky to have? Probably not truth be told.

    I want to be going to South William for cans on the street this weekend but I'm starting to feel like an old codger. Everything suddenly becomes so rigid and dull. Oh great another hike and a flat white. How about a sea swim and a flat white? Wow.
    You are already 'mindblowingly dull'. You have no ambition and ooze apathy. Stay where you are, you have f**k all to offer any age or generation.


  • #6
    Ash.J.Williams
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,299 ✭✭✭✭Ash.J.Williams


    completedit wrote: »
    It is so mindblowingly dull already. I just hit the second year of my 30s and I'm scared of what life has in store. Everything is just so monotonous now with or without Covid. I feel you have sort of cemented who you are as a person and the journey of discovery sort of grinds to a halt. Your 20s open you up to the world and yourself; for many of us it's one amazing experience after the next from traveling to meeting the prospective romantic partner who will in your optimistic eyes save you from yourself but then something happens. Yoi realise its all been done before. The novelty wears off and you're no loet a work in progress, now you're in your 30s with no relationship, no kids, barely any money and a friends group that has become so disparate that you don't really have much of a group at all. It is bleak. I wonder did I truly appreciate the 20s that I was lucky to have? Probably not truth be told.

    I want to be going to South William for cans on the street this weekend but I'm starting to feel like an old codger. Everything suddenly becomes so rigid and dull and mostly focused around the consumption of coffee with some milk alternative . Oh just what I needed! Another hike and a flat white.

    Recreational drugs sir , get stuck in


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  • #7
    endacl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,434 ✭✭✭✭endacl


    You don’t get duller when you get old, unless you start out dull.


  • #8
    guy2231
    Site Banned Posts: 339 ✭✭guy2231


    FrKurtFahrt wrote: »
    You are already 'mindblowingly dull'. You have no ambition and ooze apathy. Stay where you are, you have f**k all to offer any age or generation.

    A lot of ass**** like this this in life where everything worked out perfect for them and will put you down due to a feeling of superiority above everyone else, people like this should motivate you, in fact this is what motivated me more than anything to get where I am today.


  • #9
    completedit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,639 ✭✭✭completedit


    FrKurtFahrt wrote: »
    You are already 'mindblowingly dull'. You have no ambition and ooze apathy. Stay where you are, you have f**k all to offer any age or generation.

    That's exactly my point you troglodyte


  • #10
    FrKurtFahrt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 899 ✭✭✭FrKurtFahrt


    guy2231 wrote: »
    A lot of ass**** like this this in life where everything worked out perfect for them and will put you down due to a feeling of superiority above everyone else, people like this should motivate you, in fact this is what motivated me more than anything to get where I am today.

    Where is all this shown? Oh....lets have a grouphug


  • #11
    D.Q
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,054 ✭✭✭D.Q


    FrKurtFahrt wrote: »
    You are already 'mindblowingly dull'. You have no ambition and ooze apathy. Stay where you are, you have f**k all to offer any age or generation.

    Malcolm Tucker esque put down.

    "You are not a grandee, you're a ****ing blandee. No one knew what the **** you stood for. Political ****ing mist. No substance, no weight. You've got all the charm of a rotting teddy bear by a graveside.

    By the way, women ****ing hate you. I can show you the polling. They think you come across like a jittery mother at a wedding.

    The best thing you ever did in your flatlining non-leadership was call for an inquiry because that will **** the government and it will **** you.

    So now, please, **** off back to your home, you headless frump, and prepare for your column in Grazia."


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  • #12
    GooglePlus
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    Wrong forum lad, this where the old and dull come to convince themselves otherwise.

    Sounds like you're a bit down to be honest and this isn't set in stone or cemented as you say. You might just need to find a way to get that drive back.


  • #13
    Stihl waters
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 715 ✭✭✭Stihl waters


    FrKurtFahrt wrote: »
    You are already 'mindblowingly dull'. You have no ambition and ooze apathy. Stay where you are, you have f**k all to offer any age or generation.

    Perfectly put


  • #14
    guy2231
    Site Banned Posts: 339 ✭✭guy2231


    GooglePlus wrote: »
    Wrong forum lad, this where the old and dull come to convince themselves otherwise.

    Sounds like you're a bit down to be honest and this isn't set in stone or cemented as you say. You might just need to find a way to get that drive back.

    Hahaha couldn't have said it better myself


  • #15
    begbysback
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,909 ✭✭✭begbysback


    I was feeling grand until some numbskull started a thread about feeling old at 32

    yes 32


  • #16
    Hyperbollix
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,143 ✭✭✭Hyperbollix


    The key is to keep looking and moving forward. Adapt and adjust to new realities. Enjoy your 20s. But don't keep looking back at that time and wondering why you can't really relive it. You can't.

    Accept your new life as a fossil of 32 years old and take comfort in knowing that you still have a few years left until you are ancient history, ie 40 plus.


  • #17
    Leg End Reject
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    As you get older you care less about what others think of you, especially from your mid 30s, that's very liberating.

    Life is mundane for everyone at the moment, hopefully things will improve as more reopens.

    Life also has frequent peaks and troughs, no one is always deliriously happy, don't sweat the small stuff and work your way through the big stuff.


  • #18
    Andrewf20
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    After covid, book some flights to South America or some far off off destination for a few weeks and let the adventure unfold.

    Or closer to home, I think there is a hell and back mud run in September in Bray.

    Life is what you make it.

    Life happiness tends to follow a u shaped curve with the age of 47 being the low point. After that, studies have found that happiness rises as people start to leave behind the stresses of the rat race and raising young kids.


  • #19
    o1s1n
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36,750 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    Relatively speaking, we'll all be dead soon enough. Our lifespans are but the blink of an eye on a cosmic scale.

    Moping around at 32 because you're 'old' is just embarrassing really. You've your 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and maybe even 80s to give our about that sort of thing. Enjoy your 30s while they're still here. When you're in your 40s you'll look back at these years in the same way you look at your 20s now.


  • #20
    Tony EH
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,046 ✭✭✭✭Tony EH


    The 2nd year of your 30's?

    hahhahahahahahahhahahahahhahahahahahhahahahahhhahahhahahahaha.

    Anyway, no, there's not much that's good about getting older. You might gain a bit of wisdom (if you're open to it that is).

    That's about it.


  • #21
    Airyfairy12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,457 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    It all depends on how you look at it! I can only speak for myself but im the same age as you and I hated my 20's! Men I encountered where immature and self centered, women were immature and bitchy, I remember everyone comparing and judging each other and there was so much pressure to find a long term partner, travel the world and get a degree and a good career and have it all figured out within the space of a decade. Many people in their 20's manage this but alot don't and that's ok!
    Ive never travelled, I never had the money to even though id have loved to see the world but since hitting my 30's I dont feel the same pressure to do these things and dont even have the same want travel as I used to. I wouldnt mind going to visit a few places to see them but the thoughts of backpacking or staying in dingy hostels would be a living nightmare as far as im concerned. I dont think I ever wanted to do any of this as much as I wanted to be able to say I travelled to make myself sound interesting to people I dont care about or even like! Im so much more focused on what I want out of life and not what others expect me to be doing.
    The pressures off as far as im concerned and im already enjoying my 30's way more than my 20's. For a start im not half as insecure, im more sane, im not rich but I have more money, better jobs and a healthier way of life.
    Im doing a masters, ive recently learned how to drive, ive changed jobs and im so excited about my future.

    Nothings set in stone, if you want to change something then change it! Age has nothing to do with it and 32 is young, youre talking like youre 70 with one foot in the grave!


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  • #22
    dd973
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 625 ✭✭✭dd973


    Nearly 50, my early 20's were spent working like a lackey in jobs I hated and getting pissed, however all the peer group stuff falls away as you exit your 20's and mid 30's so all the negative aspects of that aren't so bothersome anymore. I get pissed off occasionally about the lack of a wife and kids however these days it seems to be only seriously wealthy or poor people who do that stuff now, there isn't much one can do about other people's personalities, how others react to them and how their lives seem to work out so why bother your head with it?

    There are people in their 60's, 70's and beyond whom are fit as butchers dogs, happy, healthy and following their own path and hobbies.

    There are 30 year old clinically obese shut ins who never leave their locality and obsess about gaming or some other unhealthy obsession. It's all relative. There's also some of those folk in their early 20's now who won't make it for some reason or another.


  • #23
    Fuascailteoir
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    When you start to feel like that, lash the Ayahuasca into you to give you a bit of perspective


  • #24
    Airyfairy12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,457 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    dd973 wrote: »
    It's all relative. There's also some of those folk in their early 20's now who won't make it for some reason or another.

    This so much! There are so many young people in their teens and 20's who die young. They never get the chance to reach their 30's. My neighbors son died suddenly of a brain hemorrhage at age 21 last year, My brothers friend killed himself at age 19, A girl up the road from me died in a car crash at age 24, a local lad was murdered a few years ago at age 18, he'd just finished school.

    Be grateful for everyday you get and make the most of it!


  • #25
    Muppet Man
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    With luck you are one third the way through your life. How you live the remaining two thirds is your call. Don’t fcuking waste it by feeling sorry for yourself my friend.


  • #26
    Hamsterchops
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    begbysback wrote: »
    I was feeling grand until some numbskull started a thread about feeling old at 32

    yes 32

    Very unfortunate to be feeling old at 32 when you should be in your prime and at the height of your powers.


  • #27
    Irish_wolf
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    Life only becomes boring and monotonous if you let it. If you are in a habit of doing the same thing every day, every week and have surrounded yourself with people who do the same, then yeah things arent going to get better. There's nothing objectively wrong with this but if you are unhappy and no longer get enjoyment out of it then it's you who needs to change. If you stay on this path you will get cozier and cozier until breaking your rhythm seems like a mountain of a task.

    The trick is dont let that happen, try new things, try new foods. Walk into a book shop (when they open) and buy a random book on sale and read it in the park, go to a restaurant that smells good or you like the look of without checking the reviews. Take an evening course in something that interests you, take up a new sport and put everything into it. Think about something you've always wanted to do and start working towards it. The only thing stopping you are the limits you have put on yourself (within reason).

    Live a life as full as you can so that when you go drinking with the young ones you're not the old codger you're that cool hippy type who's gas craic and loves life. Be who you want to be! You have choice now. Dont let your dreams be dreams etc.


  • #28
    [Deleted User]
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    GooglePlus wrote: »
    Wrong forum lad, this where the old and dull come to convince themselves otherwise.
    guy2231 wrote: »
    Hahaha couldn't have said it better myself

    And yet here you are.....


  • #29
    begbysback
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,909 ✭✭✭begbysback


    “Short then is the time that everyman lives, and small the nook of the earth where he lives, and short too the longest posthumous fame, and even this only continued by a succession of poor human beings who will very soon die and who know not even themselves, much less him who died long ago”.

    Understanding the previously unknown is the best thing about getting older.


  • #30
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 7,344 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    completedit wrote: »
    Is there anything actually good about getting older?

    The question makes no sense. It is like asking "What is the color of happiness".

    Or I guess a better analogy is "Is there anything actually good about breathing"?

    "Breathing" and "Getting Older" are just things that happen while you are doing better things. If you sit around asking yourself if there is anything good about them - you might be missing the point about what they are for.


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  • #31
    JustAThought
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,324 ✭✭✭JustAThought


    Promotions coming - with that
    comes power and money. And with the
    money you can open doors.

    Citys going to be opening up soon enough - sure friends are scattered but time enough to plan your new escape. Could be learning a new vice - windsurfing, kitesurfing, seaswimming with the messsy boozy aftermath, mixed sex cycling club, traithalon training. Choose an impractical
    future vice & start to train for it - in a few weeks you can start with new people, new places & new mates to learn. It’s not all downhill. And you
    might meet up and end up with new gf that way - new vice, new body, new drinking mates,
    new gf - everyone has been locked
    up for a year and is as bored and horny as hell. Party’s just ramping up slowly & new people to meet & get to know - make the right decisions & catch the wave!


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