When to move baby to their own room?

John_Mc · 06-08-2019 12:28PM #1

Hi,

Our first born is 4.5 months old and is a thriving and strong little fella.

Myself and the wife have been discussing when we should move him to another room as his thrashing and mid-sleep crying/grunting are waking us up many times during the night.

The SIDs guidelines say 12 months but I've been told by many parents of multiple children that we should get him into his own room as soon as possible.

Any thoughts on this? Thanks in advance.

sReq | uTeK · 06-08-2019 12:32PM

John_Mc wrote: »

Hi,

Our first born is 4.5 months old and is a thriving and strong little fella.

Myself and the wife have been discussing when we should move him to another room as his thrashing and mid-sleep crying/grunting are waking us up many times during the night.

The SIDs guidelines say 12 months but I've been told by many parents of multiple children that we should get him into his own room as soon as possible.

Any thoughts on this? Thanks in advance.

Had the 3rd child in the room next door and baby monitor after 3-4 weeks I think

Shes 18 months now and in the 99th percentile

fits · 06-08-2019 12:34PM

I could not have relaxed with them in a different room at that age. I needed to have them close by.

Guidelines say to wait until six months for SIDS reasons.

bee06 · 06-08-2019 12:34PM

The general recommendation is from 6 months on is OK. Link is from the lullaby trust in the U.K who are a SIDS charity.

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/room-sharing/

Midnight_EG · 06-08-2019 12:35PM

Had my Son in his own room at 4 months, but if he woke and cried then we just took him into our room and into the travel cot. By 8 months he was sleeping through the night in his own room. He's now 15 months and sleeps sound from 8pm until 10:30am

partyguinness · 06-08-2019 12:38PM

TBH we had both our kids in separate rooms from the start save maybe the first night. Both 3 and 7 now.

Never ever in the bed with us.

Our eldest slept on his stomach. Yes all the rules say on back but he just would not settle so stomach it was. The rules in our parents day was on the stomach. He woke every 2-3 hours for the first 18 months and ruined my sleep forever but he had a lot of naps during the day.

The girl by contrast took no naps during the day (stubborn cow) but slept through until around 4.30- 5 for a small bottle and then another 2-3 hours sleep.

I would be concerned about overheating in a room with 3 people all sleeping.

shesty · 06-08-2019 12:47PM

Between 6 & 8 months in our house for all three kids.All slept in their own cot pulled up beside our bed for the most part, apart from when they were newborns and being breastfed-they came into the bed at times in the night then.

Milly33 · 06-08-2019 02:30PM

As normal everyone is differant i know the recommendations is between 6 - 12mths but to me that was just malarky, do they ever want ye to get a good nights sleep

and also think they longer you wait to do something the harder it is.. If ye think and the baby is ready for it, go for it...

We moved out little one into her big cot for naps pretty much in the first couple of weeks but for night time, we had her in a Moses basket in our room for 3mths.. Then moved her into her cot and slept in that room with her for maybe 2 weeks. We would not sleep in that room until she woke up during the night really. Worked perfect she settled in grand..

But just think, if ye are ready for it go for it do what feels best for ye..

lashes34 · 06-08-2019 02:42PM

We moved ours at 7 months, I personally wouldnt before 6 months but easy to say when little baby snores arent keeping me awake!

seamus · 06-08-2019 02:45PM

shesty wrote: »

Between 6 & 8 months in our house for all three kids.All slept in their own cot pulled up beside our bed for the most part, apart from when they were newborns and being breastfed-they came into the bed at times in the night then.

This on both of ours.

First a bit longer than the second because the bedrooms were on different floors. We actually had a full sized cot in our room for 3 months on the first.

Tbh, go with what works for you. The primary driver in our case was practicality. Once the child is rolling over and sitting up, you can no longer use a moses basket and the co-sleeper only works for sleeping at night.

So in our case we were putting her down for her daytime naps in her own bedroom, it just made sense to put her down there at night too.

Any earlier than six months would have been more hassle because they were exclusively breastfed until then.

partyguinness · 06-08-2019 02:47PM

I have to admit to being a little skeptical about these guidelines.

While nobody wants to consider the notion of SIDS happening but if you think about it is having the infant in the room with you really going to make any difference? Not unless you are wide awake staring at them to make sure they are breathing.

Otherwise you are just going to fall sleep and having them next to you or down the hall is not going to make any difference.

SIDS is extremely rare.

bee06 · 06-08-2019 02:54PM

partyguinness wrote: »

I have to admit to being a little skeptical about these guidelines.

While nobody wants to consider the notion of SIDS happening but if you think about it is having the infant in the room with you really going to make any difference? Not unless you are wide awake staring at them to make sure they are breathing.

Otherwise you are just going to fall sleep and having them next to you or down the hall is not going to make any difference.

SIDS is extremely rare.

SIDs is extremely rare but it does happen. I personally know someone who’s baby died of SIDs.

Some information on a study showing how much it reduces the risk in the link below for anyone who’s interested.

https://www.basisonline.org.uk/room-sharing/

fits · 06-08-2019 02:57PM

partyguinness wrote: »

SIDS is extremely rare.

It is rarer now, but it used to be quite common.

catrionanic · 06-08-2019 08:43PM

I also know someone whose baby died of SIDS.

I have two small children, and moved them at six months and 7.5 months. I wouldn't have slept well if they were in another room younger than six months. I just couldn't forgive myself if anything did happen.

Ms2011 · 06-08-2019 10:27PM

10 weeks with both.
Angelcare monitor with the sensor mat gave us great piece of mind, once I could hear that tick tocking away I knew both babies were fine.

jlm29 · 06-08-2019 10:34PM

partyguinness wrote: »

SIDS is extremely rare.

it’s rarer now than it used to be because certain things have changed? We know better than generations gone by, so we do better. People in general don’t prone their babies now putting them to sleep, people don’t smoke around babies, we’re not wrapping them up like onions putting them to bed. All risk factors that have been modified (by and large) by the general population.

detoxkid · 07-08-2019 03:15AM

Our daughter still wakes up twice a night and I breastfeed her so for handyness sake I won't be moving her untill she's at least six months and not waking for feeds.

shesty · 07-08-2019 08:11AM

There was a handiness element for us too.Moses basket beside bed for a coupke of months, then full size cot beside our bed til about 7 months (varying for each child, 6-8 months anyway).It was so handy to just roll over and soothe them at night if needed.We dealt with any sleep regressions easily.I found at 5/6 months it began to be noticeable that we were disturbing them and they disturbed us at night.Once they moved we all slept fine but if I am honest, I cannot complain too much about their nightime sleep because they are all quite good, compared to some of what I hear.It took some work to achieve that though!

SIDS guidelines are what they are for a reason.They are not arbitrary, and I would not go with the train of thought that because it's now rarer, it is ok to stop doing what is recommended.

facehugger99 · 07-08-2019 08:56AM

About 3 months ago OP.

OctoberMammy · 07-08-2019 09:55AM

Our fella was a little over 6 months. We had him in the cot beside our bed for a couple of weeks, then moved the cot into his own room (where I slept on the sofa bed for a few more nights). Even now, I still wake up in a panic to check the monitor in the middle of the night - don't think that'll ever go away! But he's been happy enough, for the most part.

lazygal · 08-08-2019 10:42AM

Our fella outgrew his cosleeper at six months so we transitioned him into his cot. We were waking him up getting ready for bed in our room too. Our first was four months going into her room, second was also about six months. We took all the risks and benefits into account.

razorblunt · 08-08-2019 10:45AM

Moved our fella out at 3 months, he's just shy of 5 months now and there's been no issues.

evil_seed · 08-08-2019 12:21PM

I think people here are confusing SIDS with cot death. SIDS isn't the same as far as I'm aware

iamwhoiam · 08-08-2019 12:25PM

evil_seed wrote: »

I think people here are confusing SIDS with cot death. SIDS isn't the same as far as I'm aware

They are the same thing . The sudden death of an infant

https://www2.hse.ie/wellbeing/child-health/cot-death/overview-of-cot-death.html

It used to be known as cot death but was confusing as it does not always happen in a cot .

charlietheminxx · 08-08-2019 12:25PM

evil_seed wrote: »

I think people here are confusing SIDS with cot death. SIDS isn't the same as far as I'm aware

SIDS is the same as cot death, it's just the proper name for it.

BarryD2 · 08-08-2019 12:43PM

Ours shared the same room for varying amounts of years, not months. Ne'er a problem. Different strokes for different folks

OP, do what feels right for your wife, your child and you - more or less in that order!

Sheepdish1 · 08-08-2019 01:37PM

It is a personal choice OP. Check out safe sleep guidelines, there are recommendations on how long they should stay in room.

Apart from above guidelines do what ever works for you. I keep mine in room longer than most people I know, First kid outgrew the cot ( yes cot

) before moving into own room, second may be the same depending the same, i'll see what happens and go with flow.

I like them sleeping near me when small. people are often surprised how long they stay in room but it is just normal to me. A few people over the years have told me I shouldn't do that but it works for me so I don't really care what they think

There are pros and cons having cot in my room but I find the pros out weight the cons ( for me :- D )

Cakerbaker · 08-08-2019 06:18PM

My first was nearly 2.5 moving into their own room. He was moved cos baby was on the way and we knew he’s be woken a lot at night if we were all in the same room. Baby 2 is over a year now and won’t be moving any time soon. Her cot is sidecared onto our bed. I just prefer having them nearby when small and it’s easier to not have to move when they wake at night.

awec · 08-08-2019 07:45PM

Jaysus, no idea how you put up with it for 2.5 years!

Our 18 month old has been out of our room for a year and it's the best thing we ever did, was always an excellent sleeper but going to her own room was even better. She has to sleep in our room when we visit grandparents and it's a total nightmare. Having to tip toe into bed, having to tip toe to the toilet in the middle of the night, being woken by baby when she decides to have a chat with herself at 3am or stands up in the cot like a meerkat to see where we are.

There's no benefit to keeping them in your room for so long. Between 6 and 8 months then it's time for them to graduate to sleeping on their own, so both they and you get a better night's sleep IMO.

Sheepdish1 · 08-08-2019 08:34PM

awec wrote: »

Jaysus, no idea how you put up with it for 2.5 years!

Our 18 month old has been out of our room for a year and it's the best thing we ever did, was always an excellent sleeper but going to her own room was even better. She has to sleep in our room when we visit grandparents and it's a total nightmare. Having to tip toe into bed, having to tip toe to the toilet in the middle of the night, being woken by baby when she decides to have a chat with herself at 3am or stands up in the cot like a meerkat to see where we are.

There's no benefit to keeping them in your room for so long. Between 6 and 8 months then it's time for them to graduate to sleeping on their own, so both they and you get a better night's sleep IMO.

There is benefit depending on what works for a family. I find there are more pros than cons sleeping in same room for longer.

There is no tip toeing around. My house is busy and loud....they are used to the noise and once fallen asleep it would take a lot to waken them. I am in and out of my room all the time....opening and closing door, making phone calls, speaking normally, tidying stuff away into wardrobes, moving furniture etc and it wouldn’t waken them.

A lot of cultures don’t have separate rooms the way we have, it really depends on what works for a family imo and everyone is different

Sheepdish1 · 08-08-2019 08:34PM

awec wrote: »

Jaysus, no idea how you put up with it for 2.5 years!

Our 18 month old has been out of our room for a year and it's the best thing we ever did, was always an excellent sleeper but going to her own room was even better. She has to sleep in our room when we visit grandparents and it's a total nightmare. Having to tip toe into bed, having to tip toe to the toilet in the middle of the night, being woken by baby when she decides to have a chat with herself at 3am or stands up in the cot like a meerkat to see where we are.

There's no benefit to keeping them in your room for so long. Between 6 and 8 months then it's time for them to graduate to sleeping on their own, so both they and you get a better night's sleep IMO.

There is benefit depending on what works for a family. I find there are more pros than cons sleeping in same room for longer.

There is no tip toeing around. My house is busy and loud....they are used to the noise and once fallen asleep it would take a lot to waken them. I am in and out of my room all the time....opening and closing door, making phone calls, speaking normally, tidying stuff away into wardrobes, moving furniture etc and it wouldn’t waken them.

A lot of cultures don’t have separate rooms the way we have, it really depends on what works for a family imo and everyone is different

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