Cheating.

decky1 · 15-04-2019 02:29PM #1

Anyone been hurt by a 'Cheating wife' how did it effect you then and now?

Your Face · 15-04-2019 02:38PM

I'll never forget it.
We were at the kitchen table.
I looked straight into her eyes and asked her;
'Did you renege on me?!'

She haughtily threw down her cards and coldly walked off.

Boom_Bap · 15-04-2019 02:40PM

Monopoly will never be the same since she skimmed and extra tenner out of the bank

jimgoose · 15-04-2019 02:41PM

I'm convinced my conniving Toaster is using some sort of app to cheat at electronic Scrabble.

OMM 0000 · 15-04-2019 02:42PM

An ex cheated on me.

I could handle the actual cheating, but it was her gaslighting & lying which bothered me the most.

People can make mistakes, but when someone proves you really can't trust them, it's over.

gozunda · 15-04-2019 02:43PM

jimgoose wrote: »

I'm convinced my conniving Toaster is using some sort of app to cheat at electronic Scrabble.

Forget the wife. The cat has been found talking to Alexa. They are up to no good ...

decky1 · 15-04-2019 02:51PM

OMM 0000 wrote: »

An ex cheated on me.

I could handle the actual cheating, but it was her gaslighting & lying which bothered me the most.

People can make mistakes, but when someone proves you really can't trust them, it's over.

yes the sneaking around and the lies over the years, it's a bit hard to shake off. If they don't love you anymore why can't they just tell you and everyone can move on.:mad:

kneemos · 15-04-2019 03:05PM

jimgoose wrote: »

I'm convinced my conniving Toaster is using some sort of app to cheat at electronic Scrabble.

God knows what it gets up to in the cupboard.

jimgoose · 15-04-2019 03:14PM

kneemos wrote: »

God knows what it gets up to in the cupboard.

It's a She. I mean "toaster" in the Battlestar Galactica sense.

Hande hoche! · 15-04-2019 03:16PM

jimgoose wrote: »

It's a She. I mean "toaster" in the Battlestar Galactica sense.

Fracking machines.

B.A._Baracus · 15-04-2019 04:36PM

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

givyjoe · 15-04-2019 04:39PM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

I pity the fool.. said no one ever before in response to any of your previous posts

15-04-2019 04:51PM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

I think people like that can't even be honest with themselves. Really would like to know how someone like that's mind works. Is it a case of "this guy is so fking stupid I can just say I'm doing nothing wrong and he'll believe me and I can go on riding on the side" or is it "I am perfect so it's impossible for someone perfect like me to be doing something like this therefore he's imagining it" ....

Why not just call it a day? Bizarre.

Pherekydes · 15-04-2019 08:51PM

Things my ex-wife said to me: It's not you, it's me. I need to get my head together. You're the only one I've ever loved. There's no one else.

Things my ex-wife did: Had a child (with the 'no one else'). Lived with him. Married him.

Good riddance. :pac:

World smallest violin part: She's now a widow.

PARlance · 15-04-2019 08:55PM

Pherekydes wrote: »

Things my ex-wife said to me: It's not you, it's me. I need to get my head together. You're the only one I've ever loved. There's no one else.

Things my ex-wife did: Had a child (with the 'no one else'). Lived with him. Married him.

Good riddance. :pac:

World smallest violin part: She's now a widow.

Good man, how did you kill him?

rgodard80a · 15-04-2019 09:03PM

decky1 wrote: »

Anyone been hurt by a 'Cheating wife' how did it effect you then and now?

Not directly hurt by a cheating wife, it was her husband that did most of the damage.

Pherekydes · 15-04-2019 10:40PM

PARlance wrote: »

Good man, how did you kill him?

I gave him lung cancer.

Although many would claim it was the fags...

Blitzkrieger · 16-04-2019 12:28PM

I read a book once that referenced a huge DNA study - a lot more children turned out to be illegitimate that you would think. A lot more.

decky1 · 16-04-2019 04:15PM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

C**t does'nt even begin to describe these, when you find out all the pieces seem to fit into place, the things they said and did at that time seem out of place for them to be saying.

King of Kings · 16-04-2019 04:29PM

The one chap I'd suspicions about ended up living with her and getting married too her. ðŸ€£
But i was a paranoid freak and it was really insulting that I'd be so suspicious ...haha

Seems plenty of same stories as above .stupid lies and getting caught out by change of behaviour...

In answering the OP I was pissed off cos we'd a kid together and felt bad for him but was delighted when she left. She had sucked the joy out of everything with her lies and deception.

Was kinda funny I helped her move out of the house and a card from your man fell out of the box I was carrying. I laughed as I handed it to her...

I'd a really good few years enjoying myself. Met somebody else then and got married again...like a dope...ha...actually no it's completely different now. Actually what I had previous was a disaster compared to my marriage now.

I see my son (he 17 now) whenever I want so it's all good. Dont see her much cos i deal with my son. She pretty much dead to me...bar occasional whatsapps.

uck51js9zml2yt · 16-04-2019 04:31PM

I cheated in a spelling test once...got caught and the teacher beat me with the leg of a chair.

kowloon · 16-04-2019 09:41PM

Blitzkrieger wrote: »

I read a book once that referenced a huge DNA study - a lot more children turned out to be illegitimate that you would think. A lot more.

I'm sure those DNA kits that are becoming big sellers are exposing quite a lot of that.

Dalomanakora · 16-04-2019 09:49PM

Not a wife, but my long term partner had an affair. We broke up around 9 months ago.

The cheating isn't that bad. It's painful, but like everyone said already, the lies are worse.

What hurt me the most is a toss up between two things - knowing that he was too busy shagging her while I was on the brink of death in hospital with sepsis to visit, that hurt.

Or that because I have a mental illness (which has been stable and unmedicated for 4 years), he convinced me I was mentally unwell again and imagining it, to the point where I went to my doctor seeking help. Thankfully she reassured me I wasn't unwell

But they hurt an awful lot more than the cheating. Cheating is bad, but the callous, nasty stuff is far worse.

But sure it's grand. These things happen. We've all been through relationships that turned bad, and we all get through them

i wish the two of them a long, happy relationship because the longer they're happy together, the longer they're not hurting people

tony1980 · 16-04-2019 09:51PM

Dalomanakora wrote: »

Not a wife, but my long term partner had an affair. We broke up around 9 months ago.

The cheating isn't that bad. It's painful, but like everyone said already, the lies are worse.

What hurt me the most is a toss up between two things - knowing that he was too busy shagging her while I was on the brink of death in hospital with sepsis to visit, that hurt.

Or that because I have a mental illness (which has been stable and unmedicated for 4 years), he convinced me I was mentally unwell again and imagining it, to the point where I went to my doctor seeking help. Thankfully she reassured me I wasn't unwell

But they hurt an awful lot more than the cheating. Cheating is bad, but the callous, nasty stuff is far worse.

But sure it's grand. These things happen. We've all been through relationships that turned bad, and we all get through them i wish the two of them a long, happy relationship because the longer they're happy together, the longer they're not hurting people

What a great attitude!

cj maxx · 16-04-2019 09:54PM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Got cheated on once too.
You know what makes her more of a cu*t tho? :pac: when her blatant lies were being obvious and something was going on she looked me dead in the eye and said it was all in my head and I was being paranoid. I would later find out eveything. of course not through her. could never tell the truth.

what. a. cu*t.

I know the type! Blatant blatant lies that she even trips herself up on . Nothing better than lying to me in front of her friends, who all nod and agree even though most, if not all of them know exactly what she’s like. In my case she was narcissistic fcuking psychopath. Good riddance

Dalomanakora · 16-04-2019 09:54PM

tony1980 wrote: »

What a great attitude!

Ah sure there's no point in having a bad attitude about it, that won't make my life any better.

He obviously wasn't the right man for me despite what i thought, so meh, i genuinely hope he's found whatever it is he's looking for.

cj maxx · 16-04-2019 10:00PM

Dalomanakora wrote: »

Not a wife, but my long term partner had an affair. We broke up around 9 months ago.

The cheating isn't that bad. It's painful, but like everyone said already, the lies are worse.

What hurt me the most is a toss up between two things - knowing that he was too busy shagging her while I was on the brink of death in hospital with sepsis to visit, that hurt.

Or that because I have a mental illness (which has been stable and unmedicated for 4 years), he convinced me I was mentally unwell again and imagining it, to the point where I went to my doctor seeking help. Thankfully she reassured me I wasn't unwell

But they hurt an awful lot more than the cheating. Cheating is bad, but the callous, nasty stuff is far worse.

But sure it's grand. These things happen. We've all been through relationships that turned bad, and we all get through them i wish the two of them a long, happy relationship because the longer they're happy together, the longer they're not hurting people

the bit about your mental issues and how he/she treated you is so true . Google tells me it’s called Gaslighting. Stay strong.

Lotus Flower · 16-04-2019 10:07PM

Dalomanakora, well done on staying so strong. A nightmare scenario

Dalomanakora · 16-04-2019 10:09PM

Thanks for the really kind posts!

I'm all good though! My doctor telling me I was still healthy and stable was enough to renew some strength in me. I was mad to even allow someone's actions to have that kind of effect on me. But you live and learn

I'm happy now anyway so no harm done really!

ChikiChiki · 16-04-2019 10:14PM

OMM 0000 wrote: »

An ex cheated on me.

I could handle the actual cheating, but it was her gaslighting & lying which bothered me the most.

People can make mistakes, but when someone proves you really can't trust them, it's over.

I have a similar outlook around humans and the mistakes we can make. An ex cheated on me and broke down and confessed. I actually felt sorry for her at the time. She was genuinely remorseful.

We tried to make it work but to be honest the trust was gone so I called it a day.

rgodard80a · 16-04-2019 10:16PM

Blitzkrieger wrote: »

I read a book once that referenced a huge DNA study - a lot more children turned out to be illegitimate that you would think. A lot more.

Illegitimate means born out of wedlock, not that the mother cheated.
So a DNA test won't tell you that, only a birth cert and marriage cert.

Cheating.

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