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13-10-2018 6:20pm#1
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suicide_circus wrote: »dear men,
stop taking the most fertile years of a woman's life and then dumping them in their mid thirties.
regards
the future
I did the dumping actually, and I'm still in my early 30s.
Thanks for the concern though
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OP..... thank you for this post. I am incredibly fond of a lady who is just out of a relationship and your fragile comment has helped me appreciate things from her viewpoint....
....anyway, if you're happy ish currently your relationship status is much like today's weather...largely out if your control and there's always better days ahead 0 -
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OP..... thank you for this post. I am incredibly fond of a lady who is just out of a relationship and your fragile comment has helped me appreciate things from her viewpoint....
....anyway, if you're happy ish currently your relationship status is much like today's weather...largely out if your control and there's always better days ahead
You haven't a hope0 -
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35 and willingly single for the last 4 or 5 years. Watching other people my age mad to get married and have kids, and when that happens I take glee in their tired faces, because that's a situation they put themselves in. The idea of getting married, having kids and a mortgage is now hell to me. I dislike children (used to say hate, but apparently that's too strong a word when it comes to kids). It's not even kids i don't like, it's babies, and toddlers. Once they can tell you why they're crying, that starts me thinking maybe I'm missing out, but then I remind myself of babies and toddlers and that thought is immediately replaced with 'joyous single life!'.
Thankfully, the age for having kids and getting married is rising, so that at least people are starting to realise that enjoying your 20s before confirming to societal expectations is the way to go. Plus, lots more people these days totally against the idea of family life.
What I would be interested in now is a part-time relationship. I think spending too much time together is what kills relationships, certainly killed my last one (7 years, 6 spent living apart, 1 together...). Granted, you'll always have those weirdos who genuinely love to spend every waking second together, but they're few and far between imo. I don't know if I'll ever find what I want, but I'd love a relationship where you spend no more than 3 days a week together, live apart, have your own life with your own circle of friends, doing things with them that the two of you don't enjoy together (ie: I hate concerts, especially the mainstream crap that most people like, so she could head off with her friends to that, I'll do my thing), and then spending the few days together each week doing what you like to do together!
Plus, I'm a gamer, and even though more and more women are starting to embrace this, very few around my age do, and people still call me a child because of it (and the fact that i'm currently addicted to Anime). I get looked down on because of this, and I really don't care anymore, because I can remind myself that I'm enjoying living these lives in worlds they will never experience while they sit at home and watch brain rot and eye cancer (soaps, reality tv, etc).
I reckon I'll die a bachelor, but right now, i'm 100% ok with that, because the added stress of a relationship is something I can do without right now. Also, considering I have 4 siblings all with kids, 2 (possibly 3) of which would not have them again if they could start over (they love them, etc, etc). My best friend caved to his missus after 9 years (5 married) to having kids, even though when they got married neither of them ever wanted them, but she got broody when her sister had a kid. I can see the stress it's causing him, and it's partly his own fault for caving, but a hard situation to be in. He's a fantastic father, and loves his kids wholeheartedly, but if he could go back, he would have divorced her before having them again.
People still think that the family life with a mortgage, kids and pets is the done thing. People need to stop following what everyone else is doing and live their own life. But, unless you conform to the societal expectations, expect all this mollix of 'When you getting married?', 'when you having kids?', etc. Even my own parents are starting to see the method to my madness, and nearly agree with me. I'm currently living with them, as it suits both them and me, and I can give back to them in their golden years what they gave me when I was young. People look down on that too for some reason.
OP, giz a shout when you're looking, maybe we can come to some agreement. I'm obviously a stunner myself too, so you'd never know what could work!
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suicide_circus wrote: »dear men,
stop taking the most fertile years of a woman's life and then dumping them in their mid thirties.
regards
the future
- this made me smile; but guess it can be heart-breaking when dumping is done with no child support, or before the planned wedding is due
btw: poll might be missing few non-conventional statuses (e.g. where ppl are involved with more than one individual) - or does that go under "in something new"0 -
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notsoyoungwan wrote: »I’m a 39 year old woman, happily single. Have an FB meaning I get my (ahem) needs met but don’t have any hassle. I have no interest in a committed relationship.
I understood this as FaceBook account:D 0 -
QuintusFabius wrote: »I understood this as FaceBook account:D
Well it could, i got the ride from a random friend request one time 0 -
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Potential-Monke wrote: »35 and willingly single for the last 4 or 5 years. Watching other people my age mad to get married and have kids, and when that happens I take glee in their tired faces, because that's a situation they put themselves in. The idea of getting married, having kids and a mortgage is now hell to me. I dislike children (used to say hate, but apparently that's too strong a word when it comes to kids). It's not even kids i don't like, it's babies, and toddlers. Once they can tell you why they're crying, that starts me thinking maybe I'm missing out, but then I remind myself of babies and toddlers and that thought is immediately replaced with 'joyous single life!'.
Thankfully, the age for having kids and getting married is rising, so that at least people are starting to realise that enjoying your 20s before confirming to societal expectations is the way to go. Plus, lots more people these days totally against the idea of family life.
What I would be interested in now is a part-time relationship. I think spending too much time together is what kills relationships, certainly killed my last one (7 years, 6 spent living apart, 1 together...). Granted, you'll always have those weirdos who genuinely love to spend every waking second together, but they're few and far between imo. I don't know if I'll ever find what I want, but I'd love a relationship where you spend no more than 3 days a week together, live apart, have your own life with your own circle of friends, doing things with them that the two of you don't enjoy together (ie: I hate concerts, especially the mainstream crap that most people like, so she could head off with her friends to that, I'll do my thing), and then spending the few days together each week doing what you like to do together!
Plus, I'm a gamer, and even though more and more women are starting to embrace this, very few around my age do, and people still call me a child because of it (and the fact that i'm currently addicted to Anime). I get looked down on because of this, and I really don't care anymore, because I can remind myself that I'm enjoying living these lives in worlds they will never experience while they sit at home and watch brain rot and eye cancer (soaps, reality tv, etc).
I reckon I'll die a bachelor, but right now, i'm 100% ok with that, because the added stress of a relationship is something I can do without right now. Also, considering I have 4 siblings all with kids, 2 (possibly 3) of which would not have them again if they could start over (they love them, etc, etc). My best friend caved to his missus after 9 years (5 married) to having kids, even though when they got married neither of them ever wanted them, but she got broody when her sister had a kid. I can see the stress it's causing him, and it's partly his own fault for caving, but a hard situation to be in. He's a fantastic father, and loves his kids wholeheartedly, but if he could go back, he would have divorced her before having them again.
People still think that the family life with a mortgage, kids and pets is the done thing. People need to stop following what everyone else is doing and live their own life. But, unless you conform to the societal expectations, expect all this mollix of 'When you getting married?', 'when you having kids?', etc. Even my own parents are starting to see the method to my madness, and nearly agree with me. I'm currently living with them, as it suits both them and me, and I can give back to them in their golden years what they gave me when I was young. People look down on that too for some reason.
OP, giz a shout when you're looking, maybe we can come to some agreement. I'm obviously a stunner myself too, so you'd never know what could work!
LOL ...Cutie 3.14 wrote: »notsoyoungwan wrote: »I’m a 39 year old woman, happily single. Have an FB meaning I get my (ahem) needs met but don’t have any hassle. I have no interest in a committed relationship.
Yeah I think this is the way I'm going to go, just out of a relationship that put me through the ringer.
Just to get some dick every now and again and not have to listen to some fella nagging at me , wanting to know where I am and who I'm with, yet cant return the courtesy to let me know what hes up to, commenting on my weight and clothes, staring at every single womans arse that comes within a mile radius of him. Fook off.0 -
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