What are your no-no's with dating?

Avatar MIA · 28-04-2018 04:33PM

Am I showing my age that I'm a little surprised that this thread is mostly online related.

I'm 93.

padd b1975 · 28-04-2018 04:34PM

Smoking when on an actual date.

Trilby hats in photos, especially when worn to some sort of outdoor music festival.

steddyeddy · 28-04-2018 04:39PM

_Dara_ wrote: »

Is it?

Well the thing is having or not having a beard isn't the equivalent of height or weight in terms of how people align it to personal worth. If I put a profile up saying I prefer slim girls I'd expect plenty of backlash and rightly so.

28-04-2018 04:42PM

Photos where the majority are of her drinking/partying wildly. While it's good that someone has a social life, promoting yourself around drinking isn't the best sign. Especially for dating at my age group; late 30s/40s.

Lingerie shots. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to see a beautiful woman in lingerie, but on your dating profile? Um, no. I'm thinking escorts at this stage.

Tell me how · 28-04-2018 04:49PM

First date with friends either along or in the same venue at the same time.

Seriously, we're not 15!

Silentcorner · 28-04-2018 04:49PM

Women who describe themselves as down to earth...why the fook wouldn't you be...I thought only famous or successful people could be described as down to earth, and even then by others...

steddyeddy · 28-04-2018 04:52PM

I just realised I've very little red lines.

28-04-2018 04:53PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Has to be a pic of at least head to hips..
So many women put pics up of just their face..... And there's too many 'pretty' women out there with emmmm well!? lets just say bigger bodies that their 'pretty' face would suggest!?!?

yes, women with only headshots - they usually turn out to be icebergs.

The Princess Bride · 28-04-2018 04:55PM

Grayson wrote: »

Girls who call themselves a princess

That's me told.

Pics of their children and/or their parents.

Pics of their pets and none of themselves.
I'm hoping that the 48yr old isn't actually a labrador who has logged on and wants to date me.

People who lie about their age.
Just makes no sense.

thebull85 · 28-04-2018 04:56PM

The ones that text you on dating websites saying "hey wats up x"

BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK

28-04-2018 04:58PM

Women who have "love to be wined and dined" on their profile!

28-04-2018 05:09PM

Ahhhhh memories

I remember my time on the dating sites with fondness and horror. They definitely can bring people together and create lasting relationships, I really do believe that. One of my best friends is in my life because we met thanks to an Okcupid date. I've also experienced awful heart ache from it all but sure that's part of living and will happen regardless.

The excitement though

When you are chatting with someone you think might be nice and you've spoken on the phone and next comes the date. I remember one time I was jumping out of my skin with the whole damn thing. We'd had phone conversations and skyped and well I'd broken all of my rules.

Life has knocked the romantic notions out of me but the minute I saw him sitting there and it was like I imagined it all would be. Of course after not very long at all it didn't work out, "I'm not sure....don't know what I want...where I'll be...blaa blaa". I drove home in a haze of irrational and angry tears.

Take it handy all of you daters out there. You never know who might be around the next corner.

Yer Da sells Avon · 28-04-2018 05:09PM

Any kind of non-ironic 'duck face' pictures
Any positive mention of rugby or 'the' gym
Sedated tiger photo

28-04-2018 05:11PM

Hapax Legomenon wrote: »

Any kind of non-ironic 'duck face' pictures
Any positive mention of rugby or 'the' gym
Sedated tiger photo

God. The gym. I hate the place. Says she with her pint and crisps

28-04-2018 05:25PM

A wan who is either a ‘social influencer’ or works in a gym - instantly annoying

Yer Da sells Avon · 28-04-2018 05:30PM

"I'm a personal trainer"

"Oh, sorry to hear that. I was unemployed for a while too"

notsoyoungwan · 28-04-2018 05:32PM

When I was doing online dating I was instantly put off by guys who had pics of themselves topless and/or flexing their biceps.

Also:
Tattoos
Smokers
Guys who had kids
‘Just ask me’ instead of a description
‘Looking for my queen/princess’

Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich · 28-04-2018 05:39PM

I was online dating for the last 3 years pretty much, it's hard work but I met someone recently and it seems to be working out well, so hang in there.

Anyway. Some women say things like "Looks aren't important but I love beards and tattoos". How stupid.
Only head shots means they are fat.
Any mention of rugby, no thanks.
Yoga pics. Christ.
Brazilians don't do it for me for some reason, and there seems to be 1000s of them in Dublin.
Arty pictures are a turn off.
Any picture where they're playing a guitar or singing on stage.

Also, how come every single girl in their 30s seems to live in Goatstown or Dundrum?

MarkY91 · 28-04-2018 05:41PM

Grayson wrote: »

You see that a lot on sites like POF. I wonder if guys put the same crap up.

Yeah POF was the site I used. I found tinder to be crap and tagged was ok for a bit of chatting.

Also women using generic "witty" tagline they copy and pasted from Google thinking they're unique

Grayson · 28-04-2018 05:46PM

The Princess Bride wrote: »

That's me told.

Pics of their children and/or their parents.

Pics of their pets and none of themselves.
I'm hoping that the 48yr old isn't actually a labrador who has logged on and wants to date me.

People who lie about their age.
Just makes no sense.

To be fair, if they add the word bride after princess I'm fine with that. It's my favourite film

Zirconia · 28-04-2018 05:50PM

Women with sunglasses on in every photo - I only know what half your face looks like!
Have the tagline "carpe diem" - boring!
Have a username ending in "...TheCat", there's loads of these for some reason?

28-04-2018 05:52PM

I go on and off tinder and it annoys me when Girls who keep adding me on tinder and then never speak....why bother

28-04-2018 05:53PM

Zirconia wrote: »

Women with sunglasses on in every photo - I only know what half your face looks like!
Have the tagline "carpe diem" - boring!
Have a username ending in "...TheCat", there's loads of these for some reason?

probably because they have 4 cats

Grayson · 28-04-2018 05:55PM

Gabrielle Most Laborer wrote: »

I go on and off tinder and it annoys me when Girls who keep adding me on tinder and then never speak....why bother

That's why I move to bumble. They have to initiate the conversations. Sure there's a few times where they don't and that's annoying but it's still less effort for me.

Although here's an annoyance with bumble. There's no option to change the distance it searches. It keeps showing me women down the west.

Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich · 28-04-2018 06:01PM

Grayson wrote: »

That's why I move to bumble. They have to initiate the conversations. Sure there's a few times where they don't and that's annoying but it's still less effort for me.

Although here's an annoyance with bumble. There's no option to change the distance it searches. It keeps showing me women down the west.

Tinder is a waste of time. Bumble is the absolute bomb though, so easy to get dates.

28-04-2018 06:01PM

Grayson wrote: »

That's why I move to bumble. They have to initiate the conversations. Sure there's a few times where they don't and that's annoying but it's still less effort for me.

Although here's an annoyance with bumble. There's no option to change the distance it searches. It keeps showing me women down the west.

ya ive gone on that, the distance thing annoys me as I'm in cork and no offence, Id rather match someone in the cork vicinity not ones living say from Galway/Donegal

CrankyHaus · 28-04-2018 06:04PM

notsoyoungwan wrote: »

‘Looking for my queen/princess’

That's hilariously cringey, do many lads actually say that?

In addition to the stuff mentioned already
Machu Picchu photos were a no no for me when I was on Tinder. Every girl had them and boasted about their love of travel. As if treading the same steps as countless millions of others made them special. I doubt 1 in 10 could tell you the first thing about the Incas.

Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich · 28-04-2018 06:10PM

CrankyHaus wrote: »

That's hilariously cringey, do many lads actually say that?

In addition to the stuff mentioned already
Machu Picchu photos were a no no for me when I was on Tinder. Every girl had them and boasted about their love of travel. As if treading the same steps as countless millions of others made them special. I doubt 1 in 10 could tell you the first thing about the Incas.

yeah that irks me too! Like you're privileged enough to go on fancy holidays, big f**king deal!

Dial Hard · 28-04-2018 06:13PM

Hapax Legomenon wrote:

Any positive mention of rugby or 'the' gym Sedated tiger photo

People listing the gym as a hobby. What's that about?

I will admit to being a rugby fan and mentioning it. It's a huge part of my life so if someone is going to find that outputting, best they know from the get-go.

Guys shooting their cuffs seems to be the new stoned tiger.

My personal bugbears:

Wearing sunglasses/a baseball cap in every single photo - everyone is good-looking in sunglasses.

"Willing to say we met in Tesco" - next!

"Any decent women left/on dis?" - bitterest man in the living room.

Pics with babies they're at pains to point out isn't theirs - hedging your bets much there lads?

Pics are all selfies - have they literally not got a single friend or family member to take a photo of them?

Pics are all group shots - no need to waste time trying to figure out which one is the profile owner, it's always the ugliest one.

Pics with celebs - nobody is impressed and you're really just highlighting how nondescript you are.

givyjoe · 28-04-2018 06:16PM

The 'guess which one is me' profiles
Self described 'foodies'
Hey or hi one word intros on bumble.
The above intro coupled with no info on the bio
Profiles with no pictures, I mean what's the point.
+1 million on the head only pics.

What are your no-no's with dating?

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