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Why do guys always lose interest in me?

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  • #32
    batmanrobin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 385 ✭✭batmanrobin


    Aurorastar wrote: »
    but he didn't have to keep texting after the first date and he did.

    But you don't care right? You're not interested? I ask only because it sounds like you are still very much interested.

    Don't go down the road of trying to convince yourself deep that down surely he must like you because he texted when he didn't have to.

    People continue texting for all sorts of reasons, and usually talking a lot of ****e! He's "too busy" to meet. No he's not. He's just plain not interested enough. He might like you to a certain extent, but if he really liked you there would be no too busy.

    Just delete and ignore him. He's not interested enough and you don't need to waste your time.


  • #33
    njs030
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,030 ✭✭✭njs030


    Aurorastar wrote: »
    Maybe he did lie about being attracted to me but he didn't have to keep texting after the first date and he did.

    Plenty of reasons, passes the time, boredom, keeping his options open and so on.

    If he liked you he'd have found time to see you. Dating isn't texting, it's face to face contact. You've met him once and he doesn't want to see you again, if he did he'd make it happen.


  • #34
    Aurorastar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20 ✭Aurorastar


    batmanrobin wrote: »
    But you don't care right? You're not interested? I ask only because it sounds like you are still very much interested.

    Don't go down the road of trying to convince yourself deep that down surely he must like you because he texted when he didn't have to.

    People continue texting for all sorts of reasons, and usually talking a lot of ****e! He's "too busy" to meet. No he's not. He's just plain not interested enough. He might like you to a certain extent, but if he really liked you there would be no too busy.

    Just delete and ignore him. He's not interested enough and you don't need to waste your time.


    I'm not interested in him in particular but he was the first one I met from a dating site and I was already fairly insecure about my looks thinking he won't like me even though he saw accurate pics of me and was attracted then. So it stings a bit if I'm honest. He did say after the date he was shocked that I'm even single but he obviously lied.


  • #35
    76544567
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 465 ✭✭76544567


    Men will say anything to get the ride.
    And most anyone will not say anything but nice things to someone they've just met, even if they don't mean them.
    You have a lot to learn i think. Number one, don't believe everything just because you want to believe it.

    Even the it's not you it's me line when people break up is 99% of the time a lie, and we've all heard that one. All wanted to believe it too.


  • #36
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Aurorastar wrote: »
    This happens to me a lot and I don't know why so just wondering if you guys have any advice. I'm early 20s, female. I can get dates no problem but I can't seem to keep a fella.

    One recent example of this would be I was seeing a guy who lived about an hour away from me. Went on one date, it went really well. We were laughing the whole time. 2 weeks later still no sign of a second date even though we agreed to meet up a few times but he had to postpone them. After he postponed the date again I just said look you're obviously not that interested. He disagreed with that and said he was interested but said if that's how you feel then no bother.

    We didn't text for a few days but I kind of changed my mind and thought maybe I was hasty saying there's no point talking. So we started talking again and he ends up saying after what I said the last time I should be the one to make the trip down to him instead. I told him I would meet him halfway as we agreed before because I wanted to get a feel for him given he had postponed the date twice already at this stage. He agreed to meet halfway, we didn't set a date or time yet but he kept saying I must not be that interested if I won't travel all the way to see him. Bare in mind I've only met him once. Now his texts have dropped way off and he hasn't answered my last text which I don't think is nice. He just doesn't seem interested.

    I don't know if it's my personality or looks or what. But this guy was always saying I'm out of his league looks wise and I'm stunning, I make him laugh, hooked on me etc. It might have been my fault for assuming he wasn't interested but he agreed to meet up twice but had to cancel twice. Guys always say how am I single, I'm very good looking etc. I can't be that great if guys keep losing interest.

    Any advice would be welcome. If anyone has actually read this far :p

    He is just keeping you hanging in case he gets bored. He clearly doesn't like you so tell him you are not interested if he contacts you again. If he doesn't contact you don't bother. You clearly just haven't met the right guy yet. Him complimenting you and you getting on well on first date doesn't mean there is a spark and there clearly wasn't for him when he wasn't chomping at the bit for date two. You deserve someone who cannot wait to meet you again - everyone does.


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  • #37
    Bambi985
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,274 ✭✭✭Bambi985


    Aurorastar wrote: »
    I understand that but he gave me unprovoked compliments as well and kept texting me the same as before we had the first date so I assume he wasn't that turned off by me? He even said I'm out of his league looks wise. Maybe he did lie about being attracted to me but he didn't have to keep texting after the first date and he did.

    Sounds like a messer to be honest, and is probably rolling out all the same lines to half a dozen of other women he's met online too. Loves the attention he does. Always be wary of some lad who's all talk and no walk, all about the OTT compliments and then the radio silence until he gets bored and decides to have another bite, he's more often than not full of shyte and only out to get his own end away.


  • #38
    batmanrobin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 385 ✭✭batmanrobin


    Aurorastar wrote: »
    I'm not interested in him in particular but he was the first one I met from a dating site and I was already fairly insecure about my looks thinking he won't like me even though he saw accurate pics of me and was attracted then. So it stings a bit if I'm honest. He did say after the date he was shocked that I'm even single but he obviously lied.

    He might have meant it, but that shouldn't matter. Your self esteem shouldn't hang on whether someone thinks you're attractive or not.

    If you are insecure about how you look, then I'd worry you'd wind up with one messer after another.

    You really need to work on your self confidence. That way it won't matter to you whether someone thinks you're good looking or not. You'll have your self belief and everything else will be water off a ducks back, as it should be!


  • #39
    professore
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,857 ✭✭✭professore


    One simple rule when dating - look at their actions, not their words. Talk is cheap, actions are expensive. He is looking for sex, nothing more. Move on and find a guy who doesn't play games. And don't hang your self esteem on what someone like this thinks of you. You are following the players handbook to a "T" - compliment her and then pull away, and she will come running. Don't lower yourself to that crap.


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