Lad shows all the signs of liking me but never msgs

Couple things I picked up on that might mean everything or nothing:

1) You've spent a few nights together but you haven't been on a date? So it was more of a f-buddies situation that seems to be turning into something more? Or did you hook up a few times before deciding to make a go of it? He could just see it as an easy sex situation and humour you with promises he never plans to fulfil if he's not following on from this. Or maybe you just meant you've been on a few dates by spending a few nights together, if so discard this.

2) The social media thing. Do you actually have each other's number? Do you talk and plan via text/Whatsapp/Snapchat etc or Facebook or what? If you don't have each other's number and are chatting only by social media, it could be an indicator he's keeping you on the long finger, it's easy enough to block someone from your life if they're only connected to you by social media and more difficult (though not much more) once they have your number. If you are texting normally, then yeah being bothered by not talking specifically through Facebook is odd. I hardly ever talk to anyone via Facebook messenger.

I'll be honest - I didn't realise that FB Messenger is a way of communicating these days. I ignore it as much as I can as it seems to be just another uneccessary walk of communicating. (Mutter mutter, I might be showing my age here )

Perhaps your fella is like me? I much prefer to text or call someone because I know it goes to them directly. Try having conversations via phone or text instead. If they don't work, then it may well be the case that he's not that interested

bee06 wrote: »

Are ye both quite young OP?

I don't really understand why you're messaging him asking him where he is? I wouldn't be messaging my husband like this.

I get the impression that the OP isn't asking where he is physically, but more in the vein of why hasn't he been texting.

OP, if it is always you initiating texts and making plans and he never gets in touch, and when ye do meet up it's primarily to have sex then I would suspect that he just sees you as a fck-buddy.

You have a couple of options: stop initiating contact, if he wants to see you he'll contact you. Or you could actually ask him out on a date and make it clear that going to bed is not an option. Or just ask him straight out why he never contacts you, it could be sheer laziness on his part; he never contacts you because he knows you'll contact him, or knowing you'll chase him is a nice little ego-boost for him.