Advice

LegacyUser

Hello, I'm looking for a bit of advice. Theres this girl I met on IRC a few months ago and I really like her. I met her a few times before and talked to her a bit on IRC and I can't get her out of my head. She's doing the leaving cert at the moment, so isn't online as much and I've spent the last week thinking about her non stop. I don't know if I should tell her how much I like her. I would, but she's going out with a chap at the moment and I don't want to cause an trouble. Has anyone got any advice because its wrecking my head.
Thank you.

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smiles

Some replies deleted to make the person less obvious.

Main idea of replies: if you like her tell her.

Oh and chief--- "hello"

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smiles

Personal Opinion.... if you like someone on IRC it is very important to get to know them in real life, unfortunately this can be difficult.

You do not necessarily "know" someone from their IRC style or how much you talk to them, i suggest talking more in PMs, etc. to try and get to know the person a bit better.

However if she has a boyfriend that she is happy with then I'd advice caution, you can thread on only so many toes....

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Turner

Sorry Fio.
you deleted my witty joke at the end of my post.

Anyway unsure, tell her, im sure she would be flattered.

CHief.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

damnit smiles stop deleting my posts

sometimes it's best to just let things slide mate, if she's happy with her current don't go trying to cause trouble. you'll get over it in time, trust me

deimos

it might be infatuation?

if you like her and respect her you should have already decided its best just to leave her be and just be freinds with her.

if the bf disapers or alike then thats a different matter............

ide leave it for a while, could be just hormones or a desire for somebody. become a little more social for a week or two and see how it then affects you........

i find if i don't socialize as much for a period of a week or two i feel myself becoming prone to infatuation:(

Doodee

tricky situation.

tbh, as dom said, get out a bit, it could be infactuation.
also, when ppl are already involved its sometimes better to leave that person alone for the sake of the relationship, saying that, alot of people feel that there is no point in only having second best.

talk to the girl, find out if she is happy, if she is then leave her, if not, then make it aware to her.

oeNeo

Come on, tell us who it is!

The suspense is killing me.

Wolf

IMHO i reckon if they are with someone they are with someone and its best to leave well alone (says me who am pretty bad at that).

I would say tread carefully. But remember people on line and in real life can be totally different

deimos

so true Wolf,
Some people seem to overlook that and for what they can't see of the other persons characteristics and elements of their identity/personality which can not be shown over irc they assume to suit their own wishes and needs...........

Asok

I'd Say leave her be mate if she is with someone is it really worth it probably not, right now you might feel like its your destiny to be with this one,good old hormones.Chances are she is happy with her boyfriend why bother wading into a Poopoostorm that could end up leaving alot of people very hurt. i know this probably sounds like nonsence to you right now but there are alot of other people out there, you are probably feeling lonely and just want someone to be close to,but splitting up people is not the way to go. anyways no matter what i say the decision is yours but in my opinion it isnt worth it.

commuterised

If she's with someone then you shouldn't really interfere and If she's doing her leaving cert then that's the last thing she needs at the moment. Just my opinion...

wait until after the exams, then wait until she ditches the other bloke.. then tell her.

I presume you've actually physically met her???

Typedef

Originally posted by Unsure
I would, but she's going out with a chap at the moment and I don't want to cause an trouble. Has anyone got any advice because its wrecking my head.
Thank you.

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Yeah I have some advice.

Try not to be so obsessive.

Don't be obsessive about women.... and don't be obsessive about not being obsessive about women.... and do that obsessively.

Ixidor

i wouln't go near a person that i meet on the net.... there's a lot of weirdo's out there and i'm 2 of them!

The Corinthian

SilentJay

Who doesn't know who he's talking about at this stage?

Beëlzebooze

me, not a fupping clue, but then again, I don't have a clue about most things

Big Chief

i would personally say REALLY REALLY REALLY BAD IDEA

maybe cause i couldnt infatuate myself with people ive met online, sure i dont mind having a chat and stuff but thats about it really, you just have to draw a line somewhere.

If shes with someone and doing her leaving then if you did want to really do it against most peoples advice then i would say to atleast way a month or so until that is over with atleast. Chances are though if you do say something things just wont be the same again between the both of you.


At the end of the day its always gonna be your decision, and maybe its just against my nature to tell people on a intraweb chat programme my feelings about them... I dont mind commenting if i think they are nice looking or something but i would never actually ask any of them out.

But i suppose i just want different things out of irc, mostly just for a few chats and a laugh now and again, nothing more.