help: unwanted pregnancy

LegacyUser

i know there has been a recent thread about the same subject, but i find myself in almost the same position as "terrified" and i'm so scared of what might happen...

my girlfriend forgot to take the pill today and we're so scared that she may be pregnant and miss her period which should be coming soon..

on day 14 or 15 she took the pill 10hrs late and ever since then she has been getting pains in her stomach which is why i have been living the last week of my life thinking of what might happen..
and now she has completely forgotten to take it ... (she too has been stressing with about the pains in her stomach and maybe thats why she forgot, i dunno..)

we havn't been using any other form of contraception apart from the pill (stupid i know) and are soo scared that she may be pregnant..

the both of us are doing are leaving cert and hope to go onto college next year so a unwanted pregnancy is the last thing we need... over the past week, the both of us havn't done any study whatsoever because we were so worried about her pains + the fact that she may be pregnant..

i need some peace of mind right now and i'm just wondering how worried we should be? what are the chances on her being pregnant? what should we do? --
please give me some advice because i can't talk to anybody else about this.. thx..

Samson

Originally posted by scared
what are the chances on her being pregnant?

Chances are actually very high.
You are doomed.
Live with it.

And don't worry about financing the little bundle of joy, the State will look after that. Courtesy of tax paying gobshites like me.

Nevyn

ok first off take a deep breath and calm down.

the morning after pill can be taken when you are on the ordinary pill if have missed it and top up the hormone lvls so that a pregancy will not occur. But it MUST be take with in the same time frame as the morning after . So gett an appoimnet with the IFPA

the IFPA have a brillant service that is a Contraception Helpline
1850 425262

This puts you through to a practice nurse that can help determine
if you need an appointment, she can hlep you figure out if you at risk of being pregant this may sort out any confusion.


No risk is acceptible when it come to pregancy, so make that phone call and then get an appointment for in the morning soon as you can.
If ur not in dublin I am sure the IFPA will be able to put you in touch with a health provider that will be able to help.



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Samson

Originally posted by Thaed
the morning after pill can be taken when you are on the ordinary pill if have missed it and top up the hormone lvls so that a pregancy will not occur. But it MUST be take with in the same time frame as the morning after .

I suspect 'tis a bit late for that.

...over the past week, the both of us havn't done any study whatsoever because we were so worried about her pains + the fact that she may be pregnant...

Gordon

I went to the IFPA once but I would have to say that you should go to the doctor.

The IFPA as taken from our charter/links http://www.ifpa.ie/ for telephone numbers on the right.
and here http://www.ifpa.ie/services/centres.html for more contacts with the Irish Family Planning Assoc.

I doubt we can answer your particular problems to a medical precision, and any medical office such as the IFPA is probably closed at this time of night. I suggest you get sleep and wake up very early tomorrow.

-edit - ick looking at your calculations Samson and the original poster talking about week and hours late, I think that this is about pill maths, I never understood pill maths. Thaed and Samson I think this debate would probably be better on Humanities tbh.

Nevyn

Samon that is Really unhelpful.

"my girlfriend forgot to take the Pill today ...."



They are using contraception and had a sense to realise that they may have screwed up and are looking for ways to fix it before there is a prenacy involved. That is being sensible and not sticking thier heads in the sands and just praying she gets her period. If there were more young people iwth that sense to ask find out and go get the Morning after pill there would be less single parents out there needing help.

why not bitch about the lact of eduction in reguards to contraception in this country and why oh why the pill is not free to those over 16 that want it.

Samson

Originally posted by Thaed
Samon that is Really unhelpful.

That's the type of guy Samon is!

Originally posted by Thaed
They are using contraception and had a sense to realise that they may have screwed up and are looking for ways to fix it before there is a prenacy involved. That is being sensible and not sticking thier heads in the sands and just praying she gets her period. If there were more young people iwth that sense to ask find out and go get the Morning after pill there would be less single parents out there needing help.

Good point.

Originally posted by Thaed
why not bitch about the lact of eduction in reguards to contraception in this country and why oh why the pill is not free to those over 16 that want it.

Well, there was even less sex/contaceptive education when I was that age than there is now, and I always had the cop on to know that french letters were the order of the day.

I perceive that problem twofold:

1. There appears to be very little (or much less) fear involved in unexpected pregnancies these days. "Ah sure we're living in the permissive 21st century"
Now I'm not suggesting we return to the Magdelene Laundry ways, but I do think most kids just don't give a fuck these days.

2. The State (or rather the tax payer) will provide. Lone parents allowance, rent allowance (with the father unofficially in situ), butter vouchers, fuel allowance, clothing allowance, you name it.

<edit>Whilst I actually agree that the pill should be readily available, as the age of consent in this country is actually 17, it would be highly unlikely for it to be made available to 16 year olds. It would appear to some as if the government were encouraging minors to illegally fornicate.

Nevyn

Well in countries like Germany, holland, denmark, norway, sweden
the peer pressure works in a constructive way.
That the couple that get pregant that are too young are seen as stupid. the both of them

The only form of contraceptions taught in schools is abstence.

yes the apparent promoting the livign off state handout is wrong.
as my mother would say birds dont lay eggs till they have built a nest and people should not have kids until they are ready to provide for them.

This young couple seem to have thier head straight na dI wish them well that they get to college get decent jobs and if they are still together settle down and have kids when they are ready.

ThreadKiller

I'm not going to be really helpfull about this, but if you think you're old/mature enough to be having sex, then you should be old/mature enough to accept the consequences.

Sex sometimes leads to babies, you need to understand this.

You've been taking (some) precautions & that's good, but through the panic in your post it seems to me that you (both of you) are no-where near mature enough to be having sex right now.

I sincerely hope (for both your sakes) that, you're not expecting, but bear in mind that it's not the end of the world, it's a minor delay with how the rest of your life is going to work out, but it will all work out.

rymus

its true what the little leaflet says

miss one pill and the effectivenes is lost for 7 days, miss two and youre sunk for the month. The effect of taking them very late is probably the same as it has to be taken at the same time each morning to be fully effective. I sincerely hope, like you, that your missus doesnt have one in the oven. To be blunt about it....

The Corinthian

First off, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. The chances of actually conceiving successfully, even if all the conditions are right for it, are not great.

Originally posted by ThreadKiller
I'm not going to be really helpfull about this, but if you think you're old/mature enough to be having sex, then you should be old/mature enough to accept the consequences.

With this I agree. Your girlfriend may have forgotten to take the pill, but wouldn’t sex with you have perhaps reminded her that something was amiss? Also, given that the cycle of taking the pill is important to it’s effectiveness, I hope you’re abstaining from burying the baldy lad until she’s back to business as usual. If not the amount of sympathy you’re going to get from anyone is going to evaporate rapidly.

Take precautions, but remember that the only foolproof form of contraception is abstinence. If that’s not for you, then you must learn to live with the consequences of your actions, should things go wrong.

rymus

its true what the little leaflet says

miss one pill and the effectivenes is lost for 7 days, miss two and youre sunk for the month. The effect of taking them very late is probably the same as it has to be taken at the same time each morning to be fully effective. I sincerely hope, like you, that your missus doesnt have one in the oven. To be blunt about it....

Victor

First off it's not the end of the world, even if she is pregnant. Yes it is a serious matter, but it doesn't mean everything must come to a grinding halt.

Originally posted by scared
my girlfriend forgot to take the pill today and we're so scared that she may be pregnant and miss her period which should be coming soon.. (she too has been stressing with about the pains in her stomach and maybe thats why she forgot, i dunno..)

Many women get menstrual cramps. Many men and women get prolonged stomach / bowels cramps.

Get a pregnancy test kit and/or go to doctor.

LegacyUser

phew...
my girlfriend got her period while she was still taking the pill.. which surprised both of us to say the least.. the scare is over.

i'd like to thank gordon, thaed, threadkiller, the corinthian and victor for reassuring me that its not all gloom and doom and for giving their very kind advice.

ThreadKiller

There ya go ! Be more careful next time, & also get your girlfriend to see the doctor or the wellwoman centre just for a quick checkup & a bit of advice, you could do worse than go with her...

WhiteWashMan

how many threads like this are we going to see?

i mean seriously. why are poeple coming on here like headless fúcking chickens squawking about missing the pill or suspecting they are pregnant?

2 things.

if someone misses the pill, stop having sex. christ. are you that fúcking stupid?
no.
really.
its a serious question.
are you that fúcking stupid.

and secondly.
does nobody these dyas get any education?
i mean, are the young ladies of today just shoplifting the pill and then going onit and not understanding it?
because it seems there are women on the pill who dont even know how it works.
and guys should know about it as well. while a woman has to take the pill, a bloke should understand why its taken, what it does, and what happens if you miss one and why you shouldnt have unprotected sex until the next round.

i mean jesus christ, has the level of common sense in these here parts dropped to that of a fúcking brick?


'oh, im worried my g/f is pregnant'


quite frankly, im fúcking worried that people like you will get behind the wheel of a car

The Corinthian

Originally posted by WhiteWashMan
quite frankly, im fúcking worried that people like you will get behind the wheel of a car

Or actually manage to breed...

Trojan

Originally posted by The Corinthian
Or actually manage to breed...

Maybe Darwin will get them....

Gordon

Glad to hear you are happy scared.