erection problem :(

LegacyUser

hey guys.
My g/friend and I have tried to have sex twice now and on both occasions.. we were workin up to it and then we said hey we'd do it or whatever.. and then i lose my erection and get real nervous and stuff..
its the pressure or sumthing.. i feel so ****ty about it.. we talked and she totally understands which helps...
but what exactly can i do.. maybe i should be drunk

im sure it will be fine after the first time but god what will i do!?

i normally get an erection in a second no prob.. when fondling, kissing etc... but then just get real nervous ..
has anyone ever had any experience with this..
and has anyone advice please!
thank you..

Doodee

its a common problem with about 60% of the male population, it can be caused by anything, stress,medical conditions, even some drugs. but like you said, your nervous.

Just relax, stop building up the moment, take deep breaths, fixate on something other than your girlfriend or yourself, then when ur relaxed again go for it. If your too nervous about it you wont function properly, just enjoy it as its meant to be.

Gud luk

Winters

Man, you are watching way too much porn and/or **** too much. Stop the abuse of yourself and all will be normal.

Or stop thinking of yore ma while having sex and think of someone you really want to have sex with .... like meh

DapperGent

Just keep trying to relax, maybe get her to give you oral sex or something.

Once you manage it for the first time you'll grand after that, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.

LegacyUser

Originally posted by Doodee
its a common problem with about 60% of the male population

I really doubt that, care to show us some statistics to prove it?

lordsippa

afaik it's a commonly accepted statistic. I think The Sun originally highlighted the massive scale of this problem. And it's not like it's physical, it's just a matter of nerves so it's not really too big a problem.

leeroybrown

Unfortunately, failure compounds the problem.

Now that you've failed twice theres the danger that you may start thinking it's a _serious_ problem.

It's nothing of the sort ... just nerves. Just make sure that you've relaxed fully (and havn't drank much alcohol) before you try again.

It's nice to see that your g/f is understanding about it.

theciscokid

erm, 60% sounds very very high even for this countries horde of horny gits, now i wouldn't personally trust the sun paper myself but i could be wrong

hey guest12345, i don't know whether you are a virgin etc..

maybe try something a little more exciting that turns you on maybe outdoors? or a bit oif fantasy roleplaying etc..

princess leia anyone ?

LegacyUser

Had that problem a couple of times..
I actually found a couple of beers helped me out..
Yer natural instincts tend to take over from yer brain
after a few beers

Gordon

I'm pretty sure that happened to me with one of my first sex-engaging relationships. The problem could be the fact that you are having foreplay but then it stops at a definate *choosing* moment. Ie You stop the activity of foreplay to say to yourselves "Ok lets have sex" therefore interfering with your train of thought as it were. This is your first time is it?

My advice would be to have in mind that you will both have sex before you start anything. While kissing and while foreplaying you can slowly take off a piece of clothing and try not to let sex be a distinct change in your actions but simply the next step of your foreplay. I think I'm explaining this badly. The only problem is the break in passion when putting on a condom, hopefully your girlfriend can help out in more ways than one.

I wouldn't advise getting drunk if this is your first time. Good luck, you'll get it going soon and when you do you won't be able to stop

Cabaal

Originally posted by theciscokid

maybe try something a little more exciting that turns you on maybe outdoors? or a bit oif fantasy roleplaying etc..

princess leia anyone ?

Not bad suggestions,

ferdi

i've said it b4 and i'll say it again...it happens to the best of us.

Doodee

I saw it in some article, its not to be taken as a problem men have everytime, more so that its happened to like 60% of men at some stage.

Stress is the biggest cause, and thats generally down to being nervous about anything.

Victor

Try doing it the morning after, you should be a bit more relaxed and your erection will probably be firmer anyway.

Wolf

Hmm never happened to me personally, but after some of the girls Iv been with I kinda wish it had

One of my mate tho did have this problem. He found that it was that fact that its was the "right lets have sex now" was the issue. When they just went with the flow it didnt happen anymore. Hope you get it sorted m8 and remember its no big deal you will get it sorted in no time.

Rnger

Originally posted by guest12345
maybe i should be drunk

I've had a problem or two being drunk. I wouldnt suggest it cuz something might go wrong aswel. Just in my experience ive had a bit of difficulty trying to get it up and being drunk.

Divine

ha ha ha ha ha you cant get it up :-0

Gordon

Divine, do you realise how sad you sound. What a crap insult tbh. I'll leave your post there for you to realise it eh.

Mercury_Tilt

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DeadBankClerk

Lash it to a splint?

Mac daddy

just take your time and relax, maybe have one or two beers that might help, or have a bit of smoke to relax you.:)