family (health) problems

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well, things in my house aren't the best at the moment, my mums had a long term dehabilitating illness with nasty complications for several years, some times its ok and things are good, but lately things have been particularly bad.

So i'm at home (took the week off college) to try and calm the place down a little, my dads going up the walls with worry and stress, and there's other complications as well.

All in all i'm getting majorily stressed, any advice on how to deal with it?

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Doodee

Sorry to hear about it, as you know fio, my parents run a hotel, my mother is the worrier in the family, especially when it comes to finances,
although I havent had to deal with an illness I have had to deal with mass amounts of stress within the family, whenever something went bad in the hotel my mother would tend to bottle it up and let loose when she came home. This lead to others getting stressed, I found the best way to cope was to just help her out before i came home, dishes and such, this wouldnt give her a reason to lash out, but when that didnt work I just went and did something recriational, Computer games helped me as I loved playing them, but other stuff like sports and art are also good, anything that allows you to escape from the world and its current affairs, Reading was something else, going off to the pub with my mates later on in my life, or the cinema, anything which gets you away from the house for a few hours if u cant do the others,

Also, from a recent episode of friends, I believe Bubble baths with lots of smelly oils and powered **** works a treat for you's feme types.
Upfortunatly us Manly type cant go near cleaning water, it burns!



Gud Luk, sorry again.

Nevyn

Sorry to here thing are rough

one of the things that i found after running arround after my mad siblings was that you have to take care of urself or you will be no good to others.

Make sure you get if possible even 15 mins a day to sit and have a lil quiet time . just to sort your own head out.

ok dont laugh too much but cleaning
nothing like a clean sweep to shift the cobwebs and lighten the athmosphere well that is if you can manage it with good intent.
It may also put ur Mam at ease to know that the place is in good order she will not worry about it. IT is a good way to work stuff off but if you find ur self on ur knees with a tooth brush doing the skirting boards you may need professional help.

Take time to sort out old photos, get ur mam to help if she is up to it. Big pot of tea and talk about good times and laugh at all the odd clothes and stuff.

Hang in there,

DriftingRain

I remember when my parents were going through their divorce.All then tension and stress and bickering. It was Hell. I remember that I followed the advice above. I took walks in the woods and sat by the creek. That always helped. Any time alone is great for a good cry to just get it all out. You will feel better after. Bubble baths with good music is also a good choice as doodee stated. But you can't go worng with Sitting with your mom and spending a little quality time with her, or invite the entire family to laugh at each others goofyness over the years. Good Luck hope all goes well!